There's already a top or bottom thread. That's old news. I am a versatile. When it comes to a man, I require another versatile. I am more readily a bottom, but sometimes I require a man's ass, and I have no qualms about saying so. Should I end up with a guy who likes bottoming more (yes, he still must be a versatile), he better have a voracious sexual appetite in general, because I want both on a regular basis (perhaps even daily). I will not date total tops or total bottoms, because neither can give me what I want. To me, it's selfish to be completely one or the other. Some may not like my thinking on this, but it is how I feel. I am of the believe that men (particularly gay and bi men) are well-suited for both and should not deny themselves of either, nor should they deny partners of either. As for men who only do oral, frot, etc. they're missing out. As for the women, if their man wants the strap-on, they should be willing to give their men what they want. And straight men should try it at least once.