DragonFire

I have never inserted any allegations that weren't without foundation. You even stated above that you think there is a stability problem when one of the parents is away, I merely argued against it, and I stand by my point that it's not always the case. I had two parents growing up, yes my dad was away for long periods sometimes, but he was also home for small stretches as well. This I think you'll find is quite the norm for service families. Trust me I wasn't being rude, you'll defiantly know when that happens. Also, I don't give a rat

Umm, what have we been talking about throughout this thread? My whole argument has been about the parents who are absent due to duties in the armed forces, not about the armed forces in general. Plus, considering I was replying to your point about my original post, I thought the subject was obvious!

As we are talking about people who serve away from their families in the armed forces, this post implies that you were referring to all, not some!

I have edited the main post indicating parents in the armed forces, not the armed forces themselves.

Considering I'm not American, and I don't have a shrink, I think your assumptions are way off the mark! I certainly don't need someone else to tell me what I know already is a fact. I've lived it all my life, and I certainly don

Happy Birthday, Myr!

I thought he would have at least told you.....how many months you gone?? I think the discussion got away from the story a little bit. Hopefully we can get back to it pretty soon!

This was my original question. You answered. I agreed. I merely wanted clarification that you weren't damning the entire armed forces, which you seemed to be hinting at in your previous post. Do you honestly believe that my situation was inimitable? That I was the only kid in the armed forces who also had a stable home? What I gave was a personal view of how I viewed my life growing up, but I can certainly give plenty of other examples that I observed over the years. Can I just remind you of what you wrote: "If they serve long times away from home, yes, they are somewhat neglectful. In that situation, the kid does not receive the stability of parenting" Now this to me reads as if you're implying ALL kids in the armed forces, who have one parent away, have some sort of stability problem at home. I gave you one instance, which in itself bucks the trend. As I said I can give others, but how many would be required to crack that subjective view? Even if I gave a thousand, or even a hundred thousand, people would look at the research, shrug their shoulders and dismiss it. Perceptions, I believe, are very hard to break. Trust me I'm not saying that every family in the armed forces was like mine, because that's simply not true. All I'm saying is, that stability is a reality for a lot of families who were in my situation, which in itself proves that it can be done.

Just because a parent is off serving their country doesn't necessarily mean that they are neglectful, or providing an unstable home; and yes I am talking from personal experience here. My dad was in the air force for a good many years. Did I feel neglected or loved any less when he was away? Of course not. I always knew that when he got home that it would be our special time together, and trust me he ALWAYS made time. I was sad when he was away, that's only natural, but neglected, never. As for stability, I'm sick and tired of people telling me that I came from an unstable home, just because my dad was away abroad for long stints of time. Nothing could be further from the truth. Trust me I'm not just having a pop at you, but why do people have to judge on what some research paper tells them, and not on real facts and real people; after all, not everyone

Are you saying then, that every father, or mother for that matter, that serves in the armed forces are somehow neglectful of their children? Or they are emotionally unable to cope with being a parent?

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I've heard the same thing. I wonder if they will show it on the Fox network in Europe!

In this I have to agree with Conner. Granger has shown remarkable maturity beyond his years, and due to his upbringing and education, I feel he would make an excellent father. We all, despite our years, can act like kids sometimes, and I really don't see anything wrong with that. It certainly doesn't preclude people from being good parents. Now, you were talking about him being emotionally boyish, and I find very little evidence in the story of late to support this theory. Yes he does flirt, and agreed he does go on the prowl sometimes. However, I fail to see how this would stop him being a good parent. One I feel, has very little to do with the other. Now, onto the chapter! Well, that was a shocker, I guessed there was a wedding coming up, but never expected it to be quite so soon. She seems like a formidable woman, and Granger would do well not to piss her off too often! Just how many Wilcox's are out there? I had to do a double take when I read that, because I thought he was Captain of the Barracuda, only to realise it was another Uncle! It seems this clan get everywhere. But Granger seemed to handle it with great maturity!! It did make me smile when he explained to Travers that the missus would be the third wheel, but I surmise that the relationship just got a little more complicated with the recent addition.

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Congrats Libby!

The song was awful, but the eye candy more than made up for it!

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I expected a British Airways logo or something to pop up at any time because it sounded like something you would put in an advert!

I did go and edit my original post because I had JD ears on; admittedly there was a bum note at the end. The Icelandic entry was still my favourite, but why we gave 12 points to Turkey is anyone