Hey Viv

So I was talking to someone the other day, I think it was Will, (hi Will! we should talk again soon, cause it was fun! biggrin.gif ) and I mentioned something that I have wondered for a while. Anyway, when I was talking to Steve last night, and we were talking about how f**kING AMAZING Luc is, and how The Shower ( http://luc.gayauthors.org/daydreams/theshower.php ) was SO FANTASTIC, just perfect really, and I mentioned it to Steve and that made him wonder too, so now we wanna know dammit!

I've yet to read "The Shower", but I agree that Luc is a very amazing and gifted writer!

What do you guys think... when you read the sex or love scenes authors write? Do you wonder if the scenes are real experiences of theirs, or if they are imaginary, fantasies, something they saw once and thought was provocative (hot)? Do you read them and wonder what our preferences are, or if we are good in bed? Or is it more like... you are so (hopefully if the writing is any good) wrapped up in the story and the characters that it doesn't cross your mind? Maybe it doesn't cross your mind at the time, but then later it does? Tell us what you think!!

I'm definitely in the "too wrapped up in the story at the time to think about it" camp. However, I sometimes do ponder such things later as you suggested. Generally I assume the events are from imagination, but possibly/probably based on real events. When I (on the extremely rare occassion ) write anything, I find it most appealing to write feelings, events, emotions etc. that I've never experienced in that way, but of course everything a writer writes is going to contain some part of themselves. So I use that baised perspective when I evaluate "fact or fiction" in other writer's work. So if I read about a hot scene in the back of a car, I wouldn't necessarily assume that it happened to the author (though I would allow for that possibility), but instead just assume that the author has thought or fantasized about doing that, has seen/read/heard about events like that and been inspired, or that perhaps it did take place but in an altered form.

Generally I guess I try to respect the author's "privacy" on this matter as well. So I'd never just become convinced that what I was reading happened, and thus start thinking about/treating the author accordingly, but at the same time I wouldn't be surprised if I found out it did happen.

Okay moving on from that... I have FBTE 25 a third done so hopefully, and with any luck it will be out next week sometime, but I'm not making any promises I can't keep since my big bro Jeff is visiting this weekend from the other side of the country. But that's just an update for those of you who have been emailing and asking, or just wondering and not emailing

YAY! I can't wait

So my old cell phone, the one I have had for like... ever (as in, I have had it SO damn long I can't even remember how long ago I got it) retired last Friday and I had to go get a new one. So I got this Samsung Blackjack ( http://www.samsungblackjack.com/ ) and now I have to learn how to work it blush1.gif But all the boys like it tongue.gif You know boys and their toys right? Rich is holding out till June for the new Apple iphone that's coming out for the low, low price of $500 wacko.gif but he just got a new one.... whatever

Nifty phone! Mine recently died (geez I'm going through them like crazy this is about the 4th or 5th one in a year! ), but it's still under warrenty so they're just sending me a replacement.

I was just in the car and I heard, what may possibly be, one of the most ridiculous commercials ever! It's for Pizza Hut, which I like, and it's got this girl in it who is talking all about how it's the best pizza and how her boyfriend works for Papa John's Pizza (which I like also) and how she always has to pretend with him that it's the best pizza. Then it goes on to say how Pizza Hut pizza was chosen over Papa John's and Domino's (which I hate, and that says a lot cause I LOVE pizza) every time 'among people with a preference'.

 

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Well DUH! if you have a preference then you PREFER it... of course you would choose it. Are they kidding?

LOL, well personally I don't really like pizza. I'll have some like once or twice a year, BUT when I do and when I used to live in places where those were the only three options, I usually did opt for Papa John's. I didn't really like Pizza hut or Domino's (but then I don't really like pizza).

I think the only time I've had pizza since moving to Houston (so for the last year), was about a month and a half ago when I was hanging out with a couple of friends and we were hungry, but had been drinking and couldn't drive ( ), so we ordered pizza. I can't remember where we got it from, but I think it was a local place.

Anyway, my son had his first field trip EVER yesterday biggrin.gif Too cute! And he went for his first sleepover last weekend at his cousins! My sister in law told me some story about my son in his pajamas and a cape, while his cousin, wearing a teenage mutant ninja turtle costume from last Halloween and carrying a light saber, and my niece in some type of costume ran by in a hurry to somewhere to apparently slay some evil doer or something.

Awww, I'm so glad they had fun!

So I have this 'gay' story... Every day I pick my son up from school, and then we have to wait 30 minutes for my daughter to get out cause she's in the upper grade, and since it's just far enough from the house that all I would be able to do is drive home and then turn around and drive right back to the school, I just hang out in the parking lot for the half hour and read, or write, or talk on the phone (usually with my angel wub.gif ) Well my friend Joe, he has the same deal. Get there to get the little one, wait 30 minutes for the older one, and he has a son one year younger than mine, so they like to play while we wait. Normally we'll park near each other so the boys can play, and sometimes they'll play in my car, and sometimes they'll play in his van. Well Joe's son is VERY lovey, a hugger, and all about the kisses and 'I love you's' and so the other day it was time to go, so I told my son to say goodbye and get in the car, and so Joe's son hugs mine, and then kisses him, and my son was like huh.gif So I was slightly ammused and when he got in the car I said something to him like 'Did he kiss you goodbye?' like it was no big deal, and my son (5 years old) said, "Yeah, he thinks I'm gay..."

 

Thanks the not so nice, and slightly older, new neighbor boy for teaching him the word in a bad way, and forcing me to teach him what it really means, and that it's not a bad thing (at 5 years old) but at least he's using it properly... sort of. wacko.gif So I told him I was pretty sure that's not what the other boy (who is 4 years old) thinks, and that he was just saying goodbye, and so my son says, "Oh... okay," *shrug* But yikes right?

awwww, lol! Well it certainly sounds like you handled it really well! It also sounds like the kids don't see it as a big deal, which IMO, is a good thing

So I forgot to mention in my comment in Steve's blog about our night out, (yes that's right, if you haven't read it yet, Steve and I hung out last Saturday and had SO much fun as written here http://www.gayauthors.org/forums/index.php...;showentry=5782 )... anyway as I was saying, I forgot to mention, cause I got so sidetracked about how good he smells tongue.gif , that he is REALLY smart, which I was only reminded of again the other day when we were on the phone with my sweetie wub.gif So as promised, I have ammended the situation!

Just read that! Thanks for pointing me to it! It sounds like you guys had an awesome time!

take care and have an awesome day!

Kevin

Viv mentioned my name in her blog

I can't say that I have ever wondered whether an a sex or love scene came from the author's personal experience, observation or imagination. *laughs* Though now that you have put that thought in my head, I will be wondering that the next time I read such a scene. I HAVE wondered whether some stories I have read (the story as a whole) were based on an author's personal experience (either in whole or in part). I doubt I would ever ask the author whether he or she based anything in his/her story on personal experience. Not unless I knew the author well enough to have a personal conversation. Though I would gladly answer anyone who asked ME that same type of question. (Yes, I will tell total strangers just about anything they ask me :wacko: )

My son is a bit like the little boy you mentioned who is very huggy and demonstrative. Sam always hugs and says "love you" when he leaves (to go to bed, to go out the door, whatever). He usually does that only with family, but he has often "slipped" and said it to his friend Jacob when I drive Jacob home. On those occasions he has usually laughed and said he says that to everyone and then pretends to act like he knows 'guys' don't say that sort of thing to other 'guys.' But all the while he is acting like that, he is smiling in a way that clearly says "I don't really believe that and it IS ok to say that but I don't want you to think I MEAN anything by it. The cute thing is that the first few times Sam did it, before he 'caught himself' Jacob smiled a shy little smile that really told me he liked hearing that. *sighs* I doubt he hears that very often at home. But now they both just laugh (aka giggle) at each other and punch each other in the arm. I can SO see that going 'somewhere else' when they are older.

Hi Viv

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What do you guys think... when you read the sex or love scenes authors write? Do you wonder if the scenes are real experiences of theirs, or if they are imaginary, fantasies, something they saw once and thought was provocative (hot)? Do you read them and wonder what our preferences are, or if we are good in bed? Or is it more like... you are so (hopefully if the writing is any good) wrapped up in the story and the characters that it doesn't cross your mind? Maybe it doesn't cross your mind at the time, but then later it does? Tell us what you think!!

No

So my old cell phone, the one I have had for like... ever (as in, I have had it SO damn long I can't even remember how long ago I got it) retired last Friday and I had to go get a new one. So I got this Samsung Blackjack ( http://www.samsungblackjack.com/ ) and now I have to learn how to work it blush1.gif But all the boys like it tongue.gif You know boys and their toys right? Rich is holding out till June for the new Apple iphone that's coming out for the low, low price of $500 wacko.gif but he just got a new one.... whatever rolleyes.gif

Sorta like my phone

I was just in the car and I heard, what may possibly be, one of the most ridiculous commercials ever! It's for Pizza Hut, which I like, and it's got this girl in it who is talking all about how it's the best pizza and how her boyfriend works for Papa John's Pizza (which I like also) and how she always has to pretend with him that it's the best pizza. Then it goes on to say how Pizza Hut pizza was chosen over Papa John's and Domino's (which I hate, and that says a lot cause I LOVE pizza) every time 'among people with a preference'.

Pizza Hut makes pizza? Sorry I'm from the northeast.

"Oh... okay," *shrug* But yikes right?

Matthew's a cutie but yikes is right. But he has good parents.

Later Honey!!!!