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He's got something to tell me

AFriendlyFace

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...and I really shouldn't be trying to figure it out, but it's driving me crazy now!

 

So, if anyone happened to be following the "weird night" thread in the Lounge, they'll know that I purposely stayed up all night so that I could get some of that quiet alone time. Anyway around 8am I went to sleep. Well about 11:45 William called. He and a couple of other guys we're friends with had had plans this morning to go to this event. I was originally going to go with them, but it feel through. Well actually it feel through because I was originally NOT going to go with them, then I realized I could and we made plans...then it turned out that I'd missed various deadlines and what not. Anyway, no big deal because I got my long, quiet night and I got to sleep in. So about 11:45 they're done and William calls to let me know how it went and to further let me know that they'd all decided to go out tonight. Big surprise there! LOL, I go out with some combination of these three almost every Saturday night :P The cool thing though is that we're going to a bar I haven't been to yet! So that'll be nifty. So naturally I accept, chat awhile, then go back to sleep.

 

Well a couple of hours later, 1:45ish, I get a call from Scott. According to William (who if you've been paying attention you'll know is Scott's roommate), Scott is coming with us tonight. The problem is according to Scott, Scott isn't coming with us tonight. Well, no big news there either. Just as we go out almost every Saturday, Scott almost always says he isn't going and William always insists that he is. About half the time William prevails and Scott comes and about half the time Scott prevails and he stays home. My job is just is say things like, "well, it'll be more fun if you come and I really hope you do, but I understand if you don't feel like it" to Scott, and to say things like, "yeah, I wish he'd come, but no sense in forcing him, you know how he likes a quiet evening in" to William. Then I just sorta let them battle it out themselves, and only really get involved if it seems especially important to one or the other of them.

 

So, so far events are unfolding according to their usual rhythm, albeit several hours earlier than they normally do - when Scott throws a new card! It turns out that the reason he doesn't want to go out tonight, is because William's told him something that's upset him. So we then proceed to have a very confusing conversation in which Scott basically tells me that William intends to tell me whatever it is as well, and that he himself can't tell me because he's promised not to tell anyone, but that it's made him conclude that William's lost it. I was able to gather that it's something to do with William's new boyfriend - whom Scott doesn't approve of - and that Scott thinks they're moving too quickly.

 

Obviously then it some sort of 'relationship announcement', which under normal circumstances is probably supposed to be viewed as good news. I suppose there are several things it could be, probably mostly involving moving/moving in together, an engagement or similar pledge of serious commitment, or really any moderately "big step" I suppose.

 

Now personally I like the guy well enough. My attitude is basically, "if you make William happy you have my blessing". Scott on the other hand doesn't like the guy and feels that he's going to hurt William. As such he's avoiding being with both of them together, or being with William when he'd have to talk about him. Now of course I have the "you better not hurt my friend" feelings too, but I trust William to make his own decisions, and I also trust his strength and resilience. If he gets hurt we'll be there for him and he'll get through it, and in the meantime if he's happy and it has a chance of being really good for him I'm all for it.

 

The biggest problem is that while William doesn't seem to have worked out that it's related to his new boyfriend he's noticed Scott being more distant lately and is bothered by it. So actually I wish Scott would just suck it up and come with us tonight and try to have a good time so that William won't worry. Unfortunately I know Scott...he wouldn't have a good time tonight and I think it would be fairly apparent, so it's probably best if he doesn't come.

 

And now, about 10 minutes ago while I was typing this actually, Luke's just called. He hasn't met the new boyfriend yet, but he was trying to subtly get information from me and find out my opinion. Now perhaps I'm reading too much into it, but it seems fishy that an hour after I get off the phone with Scott, Luke calls me up and tries to casually discuss the same thing. I'm reasonably sure when he hung up with me Scott called Luke to vent further. Which is fine of course, Scott should do whatever he can to feel better, but I feel like it's getting even more complicated!

 

Meanwhile I'm going out of my head trying to figure out exactly what William intends to tell me tonight. I've even been practicing my I'm-so-surprised-and-delighted! reactions.

 

Well, at least I feel better having gotten all that out lol.

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rich_e

Not to pry or anything... but what did he have to say?? haha

 

My guess is that he's considering moving in with this new boyfriend. That would explain why Scott isn't too crazy about him, and would be big enough news to have to tell people individually. At the same time, if I were Scott... I'd probably be a little more upset. hmmm.

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Not to pry or anything... but what did he have to say?? haha

 

My guess is that he's considering moving in with this new boyfriend. That would explain why Scott isn't too crazy about him, and would be big enough news to have to tell people individually. At the same time, if I were Scott... I'd probably be a little more upset. hmmm.

You were right!

 

He is planning to move in with the boyfriend. The trouble is the guy lives in Kentucky! He's a flight attendant so he comes to Houston a lot, and they often spend the weekend and stuff together, but apparently they've decided it's time to do the moving in thing, and they've mutually agreed that William should move there.

 

Yep, Scott's pretty upset about the whole thing, plus he's out a roommate! AND to top it all off something else kinda cruddy just happened to him. So I'm seriously feeling for Scott :(

 

As for William...well I'm pretty conflicted. I'm going to miss him like crazy of course! And I'm just kinda in shock about the whole thing. But I'm also pretty happy for him. I mean he's really happy and excited, and it sounds like he's just ready to leave Texas in general. So even though I think he might be rushing things and moving more quickly than I would advise, I think in general if he just wants to get out there and try something new he might be doing what's right for him. I mean I up and moved to a new state and I didn't have a boyfriend - however new - waiting for me.

 

I'm just really torn. I mean he is a very independent person, and I think he'll be fine. I mean he'll definitely meet people and make a lot of new friends, and I could see him being fine even if they did break up. Plus he'd have the option of coming back. I mean I know we'd welcome him back and do what we could to help him get back on his feet. So all in all I think for him it might be a good decision. He's doing something he wants to do, it has the potential to turn out really great, and even if it doesn't I think he'll be okay.

 

...now I just need to explain all that to Scott.

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rich_e
Not to pry or anything... but what did he have to say?? haha

 

My guess is that he's considering moving in with this new boyfriend. That would explain why Scott isn't too crazy about him, and would be big enough news to have to tell people individually. At the same time, if I were Scott... I'd probably be a little more upset. hmmm.

You were right!

 

He is planning to move in with the boyfriend. The trouble is the guy lives in Kentucky! He's a flight attendant so he comes to Houston a lot, and they often spend the weekend and stuff together, but apparently they've decided it's time to do the moving in thing, and they've mutually agreed that William should move there.

 

Yep, Scott's pretty upset about the whole thing, plus he's out a roommate! AND to top it all off something else kinda cruddy just happened to him. So I'm seriously feeling for Scott :(

 

As for William...well I'm pretty conflicted. I'm going to miss him like crazy of course! And I'm just kinda in shock about the whole thing. But I'm also pretty happy for him. I mean he's really happy and excited, and it sounds like he's just ready to leave Texas in general. So even though I think he might be rushing things and moving more quickly than I would advise, I think in general if he just wants to get out there and try something new he might be doing what's right for him. I mean I up and moved to a new state and I didn't have a boyfriend - however new - waiting for me.

 

I'm just really torn. I mean he is a very independent person, and I think he'll be fine. I mean he'll definitely meet people and make a lot of new friends, and I could see him being fine even if they did break up. Plus he'd have the option of coming back. I mean I know we'd welcome him back and do what we could to help him get back on his feet. So all in all I think for him it might be a good decision. He's doing something he wants to do, it has the potential to turn out really great, and even if it doesn't I think he'll be okay.

 

...now I just need to explain all that to Scott.

 

Wow. I kinda didn't want to be right. lol. But yeah, it sounds like a great opportunity for him, especially if he just feels like the need to switch things up. I just really feel for Scott. From what I take, they're really good friends. To have a really good friend not only want to move out, but move to another state... that's got to hurt. Not only that, but now Scott has to find someone else to live with. I suppose he could always find a roommate, but to find someone compatible to live with has always been hard for me.

 

It's good that William is independent though. I would be worried if he was moving up there for the wrong reasons, and then be stranded by himself.

 

How did you decide that you wanted to move to Texas? Was it spur of the moment, or did you have friends or some connection? I've had the oddest urge to move lately to a completely different state. It's not plausible at the moment because of school, but I wonder if I would actually do it when I'm finished. Scary thought. :blink:

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AFriendlyFace
How did you decide that you wanted to move to Texas? Was it spur of the moment, or did you have friends or some connection? I've had the oddest urge to move lately to a completely different state. It's not plausible at the moment because of school, but I wonder if I would actually do it when I'm finished. Scary thought. :blink:

It was completely spur of the moment. I didn't know a soul in the whole state.

 

I guess I did just feel like I needed to do something new, change things up, prove to myself I could do it...and I'm really glad I did :)

 

If you think it'll be good for you then I'd definitely say go for it! But it's not for everyone and it really depends on the people and the situation :hug:

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