We all seem to have this vision, this idyllic relationship where we find the ONE man/woman to be our soul mate, who completes us, who we can be happy, love, and have unprotected sex with. Maybe. But I was just thinking about this (Billy inspired me with that hot picture of him with the mask) and it seems that it's easy to set that as the overriding goal and to forget the fun and excitement of f**king someone new. The thrill of meeting someone and seeing if you can get into his pants, and if you do, what it's like to explore someone fresh, with new turn-ons and turn-offs. That guy you see, at a party, at a bar, in the restroom... he's such an enigma. So interesting. What would he look like without his clothes on? Could you get them off? Ah, the challenge begins. And if you do, what will you find? The true excitement of exploring a whole new world.

You're standing in line at the grocery store and there's a guy behind you, waiting. He smiles at you, you smile back. Was the smile more than just a friendly smile? What was that twinkle in his eye for? You strike up a conversation and start flirting. He flirts back. You start to wonder if he's straight or gay, or bi. Who gives a shit, as long as he's into you. And if you could get him to come back to your place and rip off his clothes, will he have a hairy body, or be smooth as silk? Both can be cool, but will the hair be in weird tufts that make him look like a Wookie that had a battle with a bottle of Nair, or will it be distributed in a sexy, masculine kind of way. Hairless can be cool too, unless the whole thing makes him look like a 13-year-old.

Will he like to kiss? Will he let you kiss him? Will he be any good at it? I love kissing, even if the guy is bad at it, but if I meet a guy who really knows how to do it, he can get me to do anything. I'm talking about the guy who seems to have muscles in his lips, who can undulate them. Not the guy who's lips seem to flop around with no control, their only inspiration a raw passion that becomes mildly unattractive. I'm talking about the guy who knows how to use his tongue, when to wrestle with it, and when to tease with it. Not the guy who thinks he's got to try and reach your tonsils.

When you kiss his neck, behind his ear, does he like it? Does he moan and roll his head back, exposing his throat to you in a primitive way that says he trusts you not to bite him and sever his windpipe? I love guys like that, who get into that kind of attention, who grab the back of my head and pull me in, begging for more.

When you move lower, to his chest and his nipples, what does he like? I think this is one of the most interesting parts of a guy, because guys all seem to respond differently. Some like really gentle touches, some like a more firm touch, some like to have their nipples flicked, some like to have them squeezed hard as hell or damn near bit off, and some don't get off on having their nipples played with at all. For me, it always pisses me off when I'm with a guy and he does that to me and thinks that just because he likes to have his nipples bit hard, that I will. I don't. The downside of a new lover.

What about his dick? Call me shallow, but how exciting is it to meet a new guy and finally get his pants down and see what he's packing? I'm not a size queen, so it's not about being huge. But I think that first look, when he's hard and you pull it out of his pants, is one of the most exciting things about the whole deal. It's like Christmas and you have no idea what's in the nicely wrapped up box.

Then it's beyond the visual, it's about the taste and the smell. The smell. Does this guy know what hygiene is? I hate that, guys who smell like they haven't showered in days. A guy who has been working out, who has that "new" sweat....damn those pheromones can fire me up. And all guys smell unique...the question is will this guy smell good. Does he like to have his balls played with or sucked on? Some guys really get into that, not me, but some guys.

What about his response? Is the guy just laying there while you do this, or is he active? I love feedback, I love to hear a guy moaning, letting me know I'm hitting his buttons. Will this guy be a moaner? Or will he lay there like a car on a rack waiting to be serviced?

Speaking of hygiene, will he let me roll him over, and if I do, what will I find? I'm always hoping for that perfect blend of clean yet not so clean that all of the scent is washed away from his taint. Still, that's better than the alternative. I figure if he's taken the time to clean up, I'll reward him. But by now, I'm usually focused on one thing and one thing only: will he let me f**k him?

And now it's a whole new ball game. What will he be like when he really gets into it? Will he work with me, move with me, really let me know what he likes, or will he be like the Dead Sea?

Everything is new, everything is a discovery. With an old lover, it's comfortable, and no matter how much you try, there's a sameness to the sex. With someone new, everything is a surprise, sometimes a good one, sometimes a bad one.

All of these possibilities, and it's just a guy standing in line behind you at the grocery store. Wink at him.