JeffsFort Posted April 16 Posted April 16 "He really set off my Gaydar!", "He never even registered on my Gaydar!", or my favorite, "My Gaydar must be broken!" Some describe it as a kind of sixth sense, others play it off as simply being able to sense "Their own kind", but all claim to have the ability to just know that someone is gay because their "Spidey" sense tells them so. To be honest, I've had friends that claim to have excelent Gaydar and have called it correctly more times than I'd be comfortable saying it was a coincidence, but it's got to be luck, right? Are they making a guess when it isn't obvious, if so how often does effeminate give a false Gaydar reading? I mean, I kind of think that as time moves on and acceptance makes it less important to be "different', the need to "stand out intentionally" isn't as important so it would make it more difficult to tell. Total opposite of needing to hide it, same effect in the end. Or am I wrong. So what do you think? Is Gaydar some kind of 'fabulous' myth or can it be listed right up there with telepathic ability? What are YOUR thoughts? 💜 2
JeffsFort Posted May 2 Author Posted May 2 I think I've done a pretty good job of demonstrating how messed up I am over the years. LOL! Knew I was gay very young and of course hid it because I was afraid of being targeted, both at home and in school. Then spent a decent amount of time experimenting with straight friends who were willing. But that is a sticking point that makes me wonder if I actually broke my Gaydar or something along those lines. It has to be possible, right? So for example: two boys are hanging out in a bedroom, one has an adult mag the other a crush on the one with the adult mag. One thing leads to another and sexy fun times ensue. LOL! I look back at a few experiences that follow a very similar path and realize that I may have traded off my Gaydar operators license for an incurable crush on straight guys. Totally ripped off cause I didn't read the fine print or something. Not that I would trade THOSE memories for anything in the world but, I have been surprised to learn many people who I thought were gay were not, and many I thought might be straight, were actually gay adjacent. It's almost as if I got the wrong piece of equipment 'or' whoever was issuing them thought it would be funny to give me the "Stra-Dar" and curse me with the ability to identify the straight cute guys who would be open to messing around until they find a girlfriend and I have to step aside and pretend to be happy for them. It actually sucks quite a bit and there is one that I fell so hard for that when he started dating a girl, I needed to create distance between us because jealousy would have been a real problem. If he showed up at my door today, I would not leave him standing outside, his heart was just as beautiful as the rest of him. ::sigh:: Anyway... ...in a way, I guess the ability to tell is real but, not everyone has it mastered and some (like me) got totally ripped off with the bargain basement Gaydar that is more Gayish than Gay. LOL! So, I don't think it's a myth but in my case, it's a frickin' unicorn. A drunken, glittery and brightly colored unicorn who has a weapon on his head and a messed up sense of humor. With him in my arsenal, I'm better off staying home. 🤪 2
Page Scrawler Posted May 4 Posted May 4 Gaydar? I never even heard that term until I was, like, 17 years old, and at that point, it seemed pretty silly. There were a couple of guys in school whom I thought might be straight. But, I was later surprised to learn that they were gay. And there were a few guys whom I thought "sounded gay" who dated exclusively girls. I don't put any stock into stereotypes; the only way to know for certain, is to ask someone directly, and that's something I would never do unless I were already close with the person. So, to answer the question: No, I don't believe Gaydar really exists.
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