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Believe me, my parents tried sending him to rehab, but they went and talked to the cops and they said that they have to first put him on probation and all this other bulls**t. That was my parent's first choice. And no, I do not expect everything to be the same right off the bat and I realize it's gonna take a while and it might no always be pretty. But I have a more optomistic view of what's going to happen. Also, my parents would never send him to faith based rehab, because as you said, it's a joke. Luckily for us there's a top rated rehab facility just 25 minutes from where we live. So when it does come to that point, and yes I believe it will, he'll be in good hands. Again, many thanks to everybody!

My condolences and may he rest in peace.

First off, I want to sincerly thank everyone who has posted on this. I literally didn't get any sleep last night as I stayed up all night thinking about all this and spent the entire day at school rethinking it. I've decided on what I'm gonna do. I'm going to sit down with him somewhere quiet and away from the house and tell him everything. I'm gonna apologize like you guys suggested and tell him that I still very much care for him and don't want to end up as "the guy with the brother who he hasn't seen in 20 years". But the biggest thing I'm going to tell him is that I'm gay. He doesn't know it yet and I hope by telling him that that he will realize that I told him that in absolute trust because there are very few people that know and I have a hard time with telling people. So all I can do is pray for the best and hope that he understands. I think he wants everything to be fixed but he just won't admit it or can't figure out how to do it. And to answer Mark and Rush's questions. Does he still live with you/how do you interact? Characteristics Doesn't Seem Like Just Pot? Yeah he still lives with me under the same roof, but we have not said a word to each other nor acknowledged each other's existance for 10 months almost. And to the pot thing, I highly doubt that he is on anything else, but more that there is something troubling him that he won't say. The pot is just something he hides behind. Not communicating problems and holding them in until they explode is something him and I both have a problem with. But I hope to change all that! Does he know I'm gay/how will he react? Like I said above, I'm pretty sure he has no clue. As to how he will react, I think he will be surprised since I'm not in any way a stereotyped gay guy, but I don't think he will react negatively because he's not that type of person. But he won't go around telling everyone he has a out and proud gay brother because where I live, homosexuality is looked down upon a lot because the majority of the people are uneducated/uncultured hillbillies. Again, you have no idea how grateful I am to get advice from all you guys/gals. Thank you so much!

I'll try to keep this short and sweet. I have a younger brother who is 15. Up until this past January, me and my brother had a really good relationship and always got along really well. We used to always do things together and I would always watch out for him. He ment the most to me of any other person. But then he began smoking the occassional joint around age 13. I knew he was doing it, but since he only did it once in a while all I did was tell him he shouldn't do it and left it at that because I didn't want to get him in trouble. Boy was that a big mistake! As time went on, he started to become such a user that he smoked every single day and would always come home high. My parents were completly oblivious to this fact and I kept on trying to hint it to them, but not say it outright. Well, they still didn't get it. He started to become angry all the time and that led to constant arguements with my parents and my house became a very unpleasent place to be. He then completly shut me out and stopped talking to me. Well, then everything hit a low point on my birthday. He got into an arguement with my parents and he sucker punched my dad. When I saw that I lost it and jumped on top of him. Long story short, I ended up with three broken knuckles, him a broken nose, my mom sobbing, and two cop cars outside our house. It was the single worst moment in my life. After that incident, we completly ignored each other and each held a deep hatred, and yes, I mean hatred, for each other. I went through a period of intense hate that I had never experienced before, followed by a feeling of sorrow, and then finally the feeling of wanting to make things better. I'm afraid that since I'm leaving soon, this whole mess will be left unfinished and become unfixable. I really want the old days of my brother and me to come back, but I know they wont until I take the initiative, because he's not mature enough to understand all this yet. I still love him and that is why this is the most important goal of mine to accomplish. So I guess what I'm asking is: Does anyone have any advice on how to at least breach the subject with him? I think things have calmed down a lot since all this, but I'm still kind of lost/scared/nervous as hell about doing this. Any advice would be extremly appreciated. Thanks, -Matt

10o F is about normal for morning temps come late November and then winter. Anything above 80o is too 'effin hot.

I was exaggerating...but you get my point.

This is not at all unusual where I live!

Well, living now in a pretty rural area, I can say, in my opinion, that the benefits of urban areas outweigh those of the rural areas. In urban areas you get everything: culture, sports, diversity, excitement, etc. You dont really get that in a rural area. Also, people tend to be more accepting of differences in urban places where in rural places, most people tend to be ignorant because they haven't experienced the rest of the world. I plan on moving somewhere big and exciting because small town life bores the hell out of me. But don't get me wrong, I woulnd't mind coming back for the occassional hunting trip or snowmobiling, but thats all it would be: a visit. Just my $0.02.

-Right Handed -Index and ring are same length (I think) -Don't know about the hair. -First born (of 2 boys) Doesn't being born first make you like twice as likely to be gay or something like that? I think I heard that on TV once, but I can't remember.

What I like about this site the most is that it is the only place where I can be who I really am. I've gotten a lot of great advice from people and it helps me to remember I'm not the only one. Also, I like reading all the stories people write!

I chose Italian only because it makes me think of some really hot, dark featured Mediterranian guy.

Well, as a born and raised New Englander, I hope the Yanks win so the Sox can beat 'em in the ALCS. I also agree that it's nice to see overpaid players (A-Roid, Texiera, Sabathia) get put in their place by true players.

NYC Prep. I loved to laugh at how desperate these kids were for attention, and then how they made complete asses of themselves on national TV. Other than that, the show was pretty bad.

LOL! I don't think I've ever heard a Ford cry. But I love my black 2005 Ford F-150 XLT, and I wouldn't trade it for a Ferrari. It's a 100% man machine. I love it like it was my own child.

http://www.marijuana.com/legalization-decriminalization/130749-keene-nh-marijuana-protest.html This protest took place in the city where I live. Every day for the last week, a bunch of Free Staters, marijuana advocates, and pot heads have been gathering in central square at 4:20 and lighting up joints and passing around bongs in front of rush hour traffic downtown. I went down just to see it and there must have been over 60 people "lightin it up" in the middle of the busiest part of the city. The cops showed up, but eventually just left after realizing it would take the entire force to arrest all of them and bring about a whirlwind of bad publicity. Living in NH, the unofficial motto is "Live Free or F**k Off", so most people support legalization.

I don't really see what the big deal is. Since I play high school football, it has been something I've done since I was a freshman. Since we always came in from practice/games covered in dust, dirt, mud, melted snow, blood, etc., everyone showered in the locker room. It was always funny, because the first few days of practice, the freshman would all be scared and be showering in their gertels or boxers, and all the upper classman would tell them they had "tiny penis syndrome" and make fun of them until they finally got over it.

That would be pretty cool, but I don't really know much about fantasy sport. And, to quote the great Jack Edwards, "THIS BUILDING IS VIBRATING!", after the Boston Bruins' Marco Sturm scored the game winning goal of Game 6 against Montreal in the 2008 playoffs.

I agree with Mark Arbour. Hockey is the most exciting sport. The action never stops. But the NFL is still great and is like one giant American cult.

Patriots!!!! The greatest team to ever play the sport. Super Bowl #4 is coming our way this year.