John Doe

Haha... this glared at me from the forum page, I had to read it... glad I did...

I am not surprised.... and I like Jackson Pearce.

what? this is funny... hehe did i hear/read my name?

Yes thank you all who are/were involved for putting together a nice piece of collective work. The borg will be proud of you/us...

Happy late bIrthday!

Happy birthday feline!!!!!

I posted this on my facebook and already have comments... Well spoken young lady...

It's actually season TWO... so it's not entirely new... season one the group called nota won... it was also on about the same time this year last year... my roommate records this show and use to make me watch it with him. Now his girlfriend is my sometimes saving grace... Thank god he has a girlfriend cause I would rather spend my time reading than watching tv but now they sometimes both make me watch it with them... and a group did do a beiber song.... same episode as that lady gaga rendition... -something- Hour... 11th I think... they sang Justin's Baby song... gah I can't believe I know this stuff... no tv for me!!!

LOL I read this intiallly as my "Christian" group... I laughed at myself after a reread it... I think theres some closeted folks at my school... some of them gets way too friendly with me... makes me feel weird since I'm not entirely out myself and yet I know... and they know about me... hmmm Interesting stuff though. That survey won't last a minute where I live.

Makes me want to go see a musical...

did you mean to post that like a gazillion times? @_@

Thanks... sorry I didn't reply earlier... the semester was crazy and I was without a computer for a little over 6 months... crazy I know... hopefully you'll pick up my other "fun magical" stories... and I really really appreciate you writing something this little back... it tells me a lot. So thanks.

Awesomeness! Congrats. When I have time I will read some of your work.... damn life is overwhelming me... Cheers!

I would have to say that a kiss is impossible for me. Even a hug is breaking bounds with me. Maybe it's me and my comfortability and a little of my Asian inheritence. But if its someone I know I will smile and nod an acknowledgement. A handshake if its a business situation or meeting someone for the first time. (I hate the fist bumps and handshake gestures though... it always confuses me and makes me feel like a loser). Even among my friends I smile and nod. If I'm in a cultural setting (read that as other Asian people, regardless of specific ethnic race) I would most likely bow a bit at the waist instead of the simple nod, especially if its to an older person (even if only by a year or two). My closer and better friends force me to hug them. I'm okay with it now. But most everyone knows and respects my simple smile and nod. It's okay for other people, but for me I like my space. Kissing on the lips I can respect and separate it from sexuality. But it still would shock me if I saw it, if even for a split second. It just very uncommon.

Reminder this is a poll, so who knows what the participants are saying... and it's a pool poll too so... there's a large possibility of descrepency. Or more correctly of the people they polled that was the percentage that represented those they polled. Anyway I clicked on here cause I thought we'd be talking about shirts... now that I'm here it made more sense. On clothing mode cause I'm redoing my wardrobe!

Nephy is right. If you are a beginner writer or even new to the english langauge, do not be discourage. Experience has to start somewhere. I know my posts are at times overwhelming and even may be a bit discouraging, but I hope you do read it through. It's harsh but I also believe in being told the realities of a situation rather then stumbling along and being blindsided by something that I should have been told or informed before the face smack. Like in everything that you do in life, do it, enjoy it while you do it, and learn from it. Don't be discouraged. My posts on this thread is more for the serious writer, who wants to join the big man's club of the industry, but I also believe in doing something at the best of your abilities (and trying to meet the standard). If you just think to yourself: well I'm not that good, so I'll just come to this level instead, you are cutting yourself short of your potential and creativity. Even though currently you may not be "that" good, if you attempt to reach that standard, set that standard as a goal, you've done two things. 1. You aren't selling yourself short. 2. You have expanded your abilities and increased your knowledge. Here's my example to illustrate my point: () I have a friend who is overweight. One of her goals is to do a marathon (she's crazy, even I don't want to do one). But due to her size and the impressions of the world about overweight people, she had always passed it off that one day she'll do it (basically quitting before even trying). Two years ago she just had the notion of screw it, I'm gonna try it. She got on the track field ran a few hundred yards and then quit, saying it was too hard. That fat people can't do such a thing anyway. A few months later she reagined her composure and started again. Long story short about seven months later she ran her marathon. She completed it in 6 hours and some twenty odd minutes. She ran at her own pace but what got her through is the fact that she was constantly thinking to herself that she can do it and that if she finsihed the marathon she would have accomplished something many people haven't. So now a marathon is off her bucket list and she can say she ran in a marathon (while I haven't...haha). Before she never once believed it was possible, but as she tried and conditioned herself with self training, that goal wasn't so unattainable in the end. Now she is within range of her weight/height proportion and runs regularly (to which I hate cause she makes me go with her somedays... I may be thin looking but I'm so out of shape). So hopefully the story painted a picture in some way that's relatable. Haha. I can see it clearly in my mind but I'm not sure I got it through via words correctly. With that being said... I come across to most starters as either harsh or arrogant, which I can see why, but I want to psuh you to do your best. Especially in a area that can be improved. It's not like sports, where your body limits your best abilities. (Even then you can train to become slightly better but your best ability plateaus.... evens out. The human body can only handle so mucha nd each person's body has it's own breaking point). Knowledge and intellect can always be expanded, without measures (generally). So read what I say if you want but don't take it to heart and don't be discouraged. If that was the case I would have quit when I got my first rejection letter from an agent. Like I said, there is always room to grow.

You should be glad. Discussions are much needed, even if they get tense and heated. Without it, the world would still be "backwards" (more so than now). Blacks will still be slaves. Chinese will still be making railroads. Native Americans would be wiped from the face of the earth, and depending on how history falls there would be no more Jews. Korea would be one state, but basically an unfunctional country due to it's civil war. Science will still believe the earth is the center of the universe. The Christian God will be non existant. And majorities of humans would still be runnning around hunting and gathering. And you shouldn't toss your own opinions aside so lightly. It's not nonsense. It reflects a part of your understanding and impression of the world.

Are you using a template? Cause I saw this format in another forum thread. It's be easier to discuss this if an asexual just lacked sexual organs. Done. No gripes about it. No gray areas.

I got a similar one to this.... knows that all women and girls on chat or role playing games are men, and that anyone under the age of 18 are the cops. (This is the version I heard)

The way you have presented yourself (word choice and structure) kinda shows that you are not open to other people's opinions. I was not commanding you to do something. Only pointing out the fact that your tone was very condensing. Your last two sentences were condenscending as it was a response to Yang and myself's comments. You speciifcally made that comment (and addressed us) because our views were slightly different. If they were the same would you have made those comments about enlightment? Why not simply say I disagree or We're coming from different perspectives. To use that specific word (enlightment) has its own implication and taken from the context and the mode of response it read that way, hence I suggested a better way of stating your emotions. Enlighment suggests that we lack something, thus making our own comments and opinions invalid, thus condenscending. As I have stated before my comments and opinions are my own and I do not assume or implicate them onto anyone else or have my own opinions and comments influence how I feel, think, or assume to know about a person. I do not think I was "right and know everything about 'gay.' gayness,[etc.]." Looking back I should have stated that I agreed with Yang and not use the words "yang was right" (or whatever words to that effect I have used). I have stated that what I have said on this forum strand is my opinion and is how I feel about the subject. Even Yang and I have our disagreements we do not claim the other of claiming to be something or wanting to be something. You are right there have been assumptions and generalizations made from ALL three of us, but for me I don't think they meant this is the only and final way. The words we chose to show and write all have a connotation. As writers and even as anyone who speaks a language we all know this (you called yang out on his slack language because of this very notion). As I have stated before you should find a better way to articulate your feelings. You accuse us of being unopen and "convinced of our correctness." Explain to us. Instead of accusing us of making assumption and generalizations as I wasn't making such claims and (I'm stretching to say) that Yang's repsonses were not of that sort either (at least for the earlier parts.) I'll say this now, I was annoyed with your responses. We need to reevualate this situation. I apologize if you felt like you were being attacked for having your own opinions and even more so if you felt like you couldn't voice your opinions. You have that right (to voice that opinion as this is a forum). It was not my intentions of doing so... We argued that you cannot be asexual if you have a physical attraction to some guy. You stated in a previous post that you have been attracted to a guy in the past and still feel that attraction. You said you would not have sex with him, to which I have commented that sexual abstenance and celibacy does not infer asexuality. I said my thoughts of asexuality means that you have to be void of that attraction, but you can still love a man (if you are a man or woman if you are a woman). Thus what you said did not fall into my definition of asexuality. Your article articulated and questioned the meanings and definitions of being gay but nothing of the sort of asexuality. You have yet to offer an explantion or definitions of asexuality from your perspective. Instead you keep saying that Yang and I are making assumptions and generalizations. That we should not define you in our terms. Well define yourself. State your mind. What does asexuality mean to you? What constitute it and wasn't doesn't. Yang and I keep explaining our piece and we are accused generalizers and assumers. I can't even see where you are coming from as you offer us no foundations to begin with. It'd be a different story if you explained yourself, defined your perspectives and if we continued to say that "no that's not how it is" then yes we are doing what you said we were. You say you come from a society and culture of discussion. It's kinda hard to have a discussion where one side refuses to explain oneself and only accuses the other of generalizing and assumptous. I don't consider that a discussion.

Yang - Heh, I can see where you are coming from but just based on those words alone I can't come to that conclusion. I have a guy friend who I'm very close to. We hold hands, hug, whisper to one another, do all the small "cute" things that most would define as couple like but neither one of us find the other attractive. He's straight by the way. (It's kinda weird but kinda not. You have to take cultural aspects into perspective. Physical displays of affection between the same sex is more acceptable in Korea and Japan (friend is Japanese) than the western world and it doesn't always constitute sexual physical attraction. That's why Red's passage that you pulled ... I can't get right up there with you on that bandwagon cause I can see the two of us (friend and I) do that.... but I can see where you are coming from. That wanting of touch is in the gray zone ... borderline. Where as in my relationship with my friend we both uderstood that we deeply cared for the other, there wasn't a moment of oh I love him *hits a wall of realization* . We kinda just figured it out(i'm talking platonic here); it's like loving your parents. There's no sexual tension nor do sexual thoughts or responses occur when we do those small things to each other (i.e. brushing one's hair aside). Sleeping on the other's stomach if the other is already laying down or using their lap as a pillow. We just do it without a thought. I guess that's the difference. Red's passage hints at wanting to touch, an urge... that's why I can see your argument... but I just can't be completely sold.

I am not in the mood to be talked down to today so I'll make a response to this specific part here. Maybe in the future choose better words to describe the way you feel instead of belittling others as if you knew them. The same can be said to you. This world is created by definitions and representation. Thats how we communicate. Without them there would be no sense of communication and a world with no communication is a world lacking of many things. I wasn't saying that an asexual person can't love or that it doesn't exsit. I was saying that being gay means you feel an attraction (sexual) with other members of the same sex. To be asexual you have to be void of that desire. There's a difference from abstaining from sexual desires and being asexual. Just because you are celibate and have no involvement in sexual activities does not mean you are asexual. That's where I side with Yang. Asexuals are platonic lovers. (I disagree with your <yang> assesment of Red's article passage that you pulled though.... I believe you can love physical qualities of a person and not be sexually attracted to them. For example, I go around judging girls if they are attractive or not and I'm not sexually attracted to women. But I have a ideal of what an attractive woman is... but that doesn't make me bisexual. Wmoen do not excite me.) And I did not generalized as I was speaking on behalf of my self and my opinion of the subject at hand. I understand that that what I said was my understanding and perspective on things and I know others have different parameters in which they qualify things. I do not assume that what I think is what everyone thinks. That is generalization: applying ones thoughts to represents others. To clarify I was responding to Yang's definition of asexual (in my first response). I wasn't saying that asexuals cannot love. Nor for the matter that in order to love you have to be sexually attracted to someone. I love my family and I do NOT want to have sex with them. To sum it all up: I stand by what I say. For me, one cannot be asexual and gay. One can love a man and be a man. That doesn't make or define one as being gay. One needs to be void of physical attraction to be asexual.

Yang is right. In a world where everything is being interchanged people confuses the meanings and uses of certain words. For example take the word "nationality" and "ethnicity." I get asked what I am by people all the time (as I live in a not very diverse city in the US). These two words get used interchangably from most people. There's a huge difference. I'm a very proud person meaning I take pride in what I recognize as an explanation or part of my identity. Whenever people ask me what my nationality or what my ethnicity is I tell them. When they ask about my nationality I say American. Ethnicity? <insert Ethnicty aka race and creed> (I'm very private about this matter whenit gets combined with my gay identity... not because I'm ashamed of being gay, far from it. It's difficult to explain). Some people get pissed off at me but for me they are two very different quesitons. I have been yelled at for being not patriotic enough and for being too Asian (and to those people who says as such, you just lack a sense of personal identity... so shove it) and so I learned distingush the difference of the two and when I explain my reasoning these days people are like "Oh that makes sense" and I don't get accuse of being too white washed or Asian anymore. Tangent big time. But Yang is correct in his reasoning. Asexual lacks sexual desires and attraction. Asexual and gay at the same time is not technically correct.

You are not mistaken. In the publishing world it is the job of the writer to find an agent. After that the agent will find an editor who belongs to a certain publisher. That's the big publishing world. Now people can hire small local publishing company to bind and make their books and with that method there is no editors but the writer him/herself. Now let me say this, as I want to be a serious writer (as in that's what I want to be when I grew or in my case when I graduate in a year with my degree), is that if you don't write well to start with agents drop you. You have two sentences from your work to catch your prospective agent's attention. If there is poor writing, they trash your manuscript without a second thought. If it doesn't hook them immediately? In the trash bin it goes. The writing world isn't an easy one. You have to know what you are doing and you have to do it well. That's why many folks chose to "publish" their works online. Critques and feedback are always good. Then there are those who post their works online because they can't train themselves to become better writers and won't see the light of day in the "real" grown up publishing world. Some people write to just write. It's a passion. They may not be good at it but they like to do it. So kudos to them. If it's bad, it's bad. That's why there are some people out there who is willing to read their stuff and help them grow as a writer. (I am not one of those people.) Usually the first few paragraphs is all it takes. I won't even waste my time with a half chapter of poor writing. When I read I like to read halfly decent written works. They don't have to be great but good enough to to not make my brain and eyes stumble through the sentences. I have to comment on your A works and first time around draft. I would highly disagree with your assessment. In all my writing classes at the Uni I recieved A and no lower. (I have taken about 28 credits of creative writing classes). But I still find that my work is constantly in need of revision and work. Sure you may write grammatically well, but writing creatively takes more than just writing well. Heck sometimes wrting grammatically well makes your writing less interesting. Remember that grammar is just a tool for writing. It's all about the prose of your craft. Fragments, one word sentences, run-ons, punctuation, if used correctly heightens the prose and craft of your story thus making it a better read. Stick with what yoiu write in your literature courses or high school class essays and I'll say the work is boring. Sentence structure, syllables in a sentence or word, surprisingly has an effect on world in whcih you build. So having great grades in English doesn't mean better, greater writing, it just means you can write decently in a "formal" writing position. I'm not discrediting you. I just want to say this so that other "would -be" and "maybe" writers who read this won't be discouraged. Creative writing in its own right is an art form. It's not just words on a sheet. As an author you have pacing, word structure, grammar, details, and many other things to worry about to write a believable story. Honestly, the stories that I post on here are first drafts. What I write down first gets posted. No edits and no beta readers. So I do the same too. But first drafts are not the best drafts. They are typically the worst. But I know some of us are too busy to edit (like me). Sadly, if it's an onloine story for me then I'm satisfied with the first draft and they go to posting. If it was a story I was sending in to an agent? You can bet the final draft would have been revised over five or six times before the agent evens sees the title of my work. Word to word, sentence to sentence, and page to page. Spell checks are over rated and not really trustworthy. Reread your work. Take a break from it and reread it. You may be spelling things write but spellcheck won't catch if it's the rite word or not. In cases like these spell check is useless. Plus depending on spellcheck hinders your righting capabilities. You diction remains limited and thus you won't get new vocabulary to use for writing. Words matter for a writer. (I know I'm using the wrong words. I'm making a point.)

An anonymous name for me.