Yes, we all grieve differently but we also have different sensitivities…and all that on our own schedule of what is right and when we’re ready.
The sad part is too often we think we have to totally let go, it’s farewell forever. Even our new interest should be concerned with that expectation, as to what does that say about any future relationships when you’ve been one so disconnected that it’s so easy to say farewell…forever.
On a side note; severe old studies found that divorced people were much more likely to divorce, again, than others for the first time; in fact, many had a least two divorces or more. Human nature is often habitual. So a widower is hopefully more likely to love…until death do thee part. 🙃
So back to Lonnie, seeing someone else may be a slow, healing, and forgiving process for Lonnie, but also allowing Keve know it’s ok to speak of the departed partner, and that Lonnie needs to be able to speak of his departed partner. Finding a balance of understanding, balancing the past and present, is bound to be a work in progress.
if ever lonely, I can’t think of a better person to help…fill that void, than a hunky plumber; he should be very good at snaking your lines and Che king line pressures.