A touchy topic for some, I assume? I apologize if it's an offensive question, or even if it's the wrong place to ask it (the lines are blurry, between the forums), but I must ask...
I've read a few highly-rated stories on GA over the last few weeks, and have noticed a slightly-disturbing... characteristic in pretty much all of them. Normally, I wouldn't really mind--I mean, stories need drama, don't they? Gotta spawn it somehow.
And have the main character hate himself/herself(?) is certainly a way to get it, ain't it? Pretty much all the stories I've read have had the gay main character just absolutely disturbed with himself, disgusted by... his ways? (At least in the beginning, anyway.)
It ticks me off, as I really can't see from where they're coming. I talked to a friend over it, and he suggested it--the self-hate and disgust--is birthed from the character's upbringing and environment.
But, I'm really interested in it for some reason. Is it realistic for a... character/human/person to be disgusted with their sexuality? And just be extremely fearful of telling /anyone/ about it, for fear of being rejected? Rejected by the people they've known for years? The closest of friends, and even family?
I mean, it seems plausible (Real Life is a scary, scary, ridiculous place, after all), but... I don't know, I have trouble seeing it... I'm not afraid of being rejected by my family nor my friends (most of the latter know, told in a rather casual, off-hand way). Though, that might just be because I A.) don't give any concrete number of fraks, and B.) live in an "uber-liberal" state? Maybe even C.) I'm crazy AF.
Anyway, I realize I'm terrible at this discussion-spurring thing, so I'll summarize: Are you or were you afraid of being rejected by your family and friends for being gay? If so, why? Did/do you hate/feel disgusted with yourself for it; for being gay? Do you think it's founded, for one to be fearful of having their close ones abandon them for coming out? Why?
I'm asking this as in four of the last five stories I've read have had the main characters be extremely fearful of telling their family and friends that they're gay (I'm not judging it, I'm just questioning and trying to understand it). Rory in Desert Droppings was batshite afraid of coming out, as was Jake in In Due Time. Owen in The Long Way; hell, even Billy Chase in The Secret Life of Billy Chase. Only characters who weren't ridiculously fearful were the guys in A Single Promise, but they were adults (and ticked me off for other reasons, so all is good ).
Feel free to tell me if I'm just reading too much into /books/ and am being silly.
Also feel free to direct me towards further uber-literature; I'll hate you for it, but I do so enjoy reading. Cookie if it doesn't have a character who's afraid of this stuff.