I think Shane got his point across beautifully and without malice! An adult talks things out, not throw a tantrum, slams doors, and run away. A person can not assume what you're upset about. Ya gotta tell em and Donavan did that perfectly (eventually). I felt it also explained why a woman can call her friend the B word, a black person can call another the N word, etc.
A round of applause for these two. They have a ways to go but now they are heading in the right direction.