I think it's something a lot of people have philosophical issues with. Many don't understand or don't wish to. I do talk about using a leather strap on him in this. The general response is, "How could you hit someone who's tied up?" The short answer is I don't ever hit him. He takes pleasure from the strap or other implement and it's applied in a safe and caring manner. There is a comfort to both of us in assuming control of another or surrendering it. Like any other relationship, treating each other with care, respect, and love is what's important.