Bob Spangler “celebrated” his sixtieth birthday by burying his partner, Ron. They had been a committed couple for thirty-seven years. Bob met Ron when he was twenty-three, at a Memorial Day barbeque in the home of a mutual friend. Ron was thirty-five, but he was fit, hale and hearty and didn’t look much older than Bob. In fact, he was always healthier than Bob, who had begun to develop arthritis, and had an irregular heart beat. That’s why it was such a shock for Bob, when he came home from work