Thanks for the insights on how it feels to be on a team and secretly gay, and then how your teammates handled learning the truth.
For a long time, I've been of the opinion that a lot of homophobic insults are really just insults where the user doesn't believe what they're saying. That doesn't make it acceptable, but it's not always meant as being a personal attack.
This is more true for young people today than it was for young people in my time, and a lot of that is because homosexuality is a lot more accepted today than it was then. However, I still remember when someone I used to work with came out to her boss, who is of the same generation as me, and he immediately apologised for all the homophobic comments he'd made in the office. That just reinforced to me that a lot (but not all) of homophobic behaviour is not meant to be homophobic -- being gay is just an abstract subject for too many people and hence available to be used as an insult. As soon as there's a concrete example in front of them, they back away from their previous behaviour.
I'm looking forward to more of these stories. Thank you!