I am getting quite an unexpected education. I've suspected for sometime that I'm in a very mild version, long term version (approaching 10 years) of such a relationship, though my D has never used such language with me. There's no sense of coercion, really. At one point he raised the issue of handcuffs, and then discarded the idea, saying that he didn't need them because I let him do whatever he wanted to me. He is very tender, gentle, kind ... but I somehow get the sense that, in the end, he's the one calling the shots. And that's fine with me.