I am going out on a limb here and I'm going to guess, based on some of the feedback I've gotten, that Tony isn't popular because guys like him are in a lot of pain, but they also tend to spread that pain around. It makes for a less-sympathetic audience. I'm also hypothesizing that those of us who are older have more tolerance for a guy like Tony, while those who are younger perhaps can't understand his denial over his sexuality. I don't see how Will was intimidated by Hank. In fact, he's about the only one of them who's found a way to relate to her effectively.
I've been working on Bridgemont, and have a few chapters in the works. Writing takes time, but so does editing.