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I don't share tooth brushes and I don't share boyfriends. That said, when I'm in a relationship I don't cheat and I certainly don't wait for my boyfriend to do it. If it happens, and it has, then they're gone and I move on, because I know myself too well to try to work it out. I'll hold a grudge and those don't belong in a relationship.

 

So today I'm talking to this girl who thinks her boyfriend is cheating on her. With his cousin(distant, but still), no less. All because the girlfriend doesn't like the cousin so he made the mistake of not telling her that he saw her recently. The girlfriend obviously found out and her solution was to hack all his accounts and analyze his phone records to see who he's talking to. She went as far as running a back ground check on him, all to prove that he's cheating on her. She finds nothing, of course, because this guy happens to be completely in love with her but she wants him to admit he's cheating anyway and when he won't she breaks things of with him. That's madness to me so I felt like sharing. If you care about someone why not trust them? If you suspect someone's betraying you then you probably shouldn't be with them in the first place. If they're doing it get rid of them unless you're a bigger person than I am then forgive them, then move on.

 

Okay, I'm done being Dr. Phil

 

I'm still working on WT and 19 should show up soon, just trying to keep up on it and things are a little busy right now so I don't think I can swing more than one chapter a week unless I cut them in half and that doesn't work for me.

 

I'll mention it if that changes.

 

Smiles, Dom

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Unfortunately I'm somewhat on the boyfriends boat in this one. Trust is the foundation of all relationships. If you can't trust or you are always looking for a reason not to, you won't be happy. People need to just get on with life unless bad things are actually happening, lords know they do often enough.

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It's a good thing she broke it off with him, then, otherwise their relationship was headed for the "Oprah could put this on her show" bin. Seems she was more upset over not finding anything to prove it than she was over his 'cheating'.

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If you can't trust or you are always looking for a reason not to, you won't be happy. People need to just get on with life unless bad things are actually happening, lords know they do often enough.

 

Yeah, once you lose the trust, justified or not, it's not a good situation for either party to be in.

 

Trust until you get burned, then cut bait.

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The more I think about it, trust is a really interesting thing in a relationship. It's something that's kind of assumed from the outset, but it's also something that is earned/reaffirmed over time. Jealousy is the enemy & destroyer of trust and is more about the jealous person than about the relationship. I'd guess the girl in your story is jealous in a lot of her relationships. I also bet she doesn't realy like herself all that much.

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:blink:......Wow! Did she really go through all this trouble to find out if he was cheating? Or just looking for an excuse to break things off with him? He is far better off being without her, trust very important if a relationship is going to work.

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