I can't hold you, just offered an internet hug.    Sounds like you are in a rough time right now, hang in there.

20 minutes ago, CassieQ said:

I can't hold you, just offered an internet hug.    Sounds like you are in a rough time right now, hang in there.

3 minutes ago, Valkyrie said:

  

Thanks you guys. ❤️ 

I offer you my hand in support; my arms in embrace; my hope in friendship. 

1 minute ago, Parker Owens said:

I offer you my hand in support; my arms in embrace; my hope in friendship. 

Thank you, Parker. That means a lot. 

I can offer a warm heartfelt hug. 

1 minute ago, dughlas said:

I can offer a warm heartfelt hug. 

Thank you.  

I'm not sure if this helps, but I had a relationship of sorts with someone I met online, on Comsie's chat actually, and it was before I actually told anyone I was transgender, so when I noticed that we were becoming pretty invested with each other, I told him the truth. 

Annnnnnnd

He was very accepting, but I am very glad I told him early on with the mindset that it might be our last conversation. 

If I could make a suggestion, it would be to talk to your boyfriend before he moves. He sounds like a great guy, but even the greatest people can be confused or unsure when it comes to this, and the last thing you'd want is to have everything come undone after he's there. You don't have to know your place on the gender spectrum, but he really ought to know you're struggling with it, especially if he's straight. 

Good luck! If I was him, I wouldn't let someone like you go. 

4 minutes ago, Arpeggio said:

I'm not sure if this helps, but I had a relationship of sorts with someone I met online, on Comsie's chat actually, and it was before I actually told anyone I was transgender, so when I noticed that we were becoming pretty invested with each other, I told him the truth. 

 

Annnnnnnd

 

He was very accepting, but I am very glad I told him early on with the mindset that it might be our last conversation. 

 

If I could make a suggestion, it would be to talk to your boyfriend before he moves. He sounds like a great guy, but even the greatest people can be confused or unsure when it comes to this, and the last thing you'd want is to have everything come undone after he's there. You don't have to know your place on the gender spectrum, but he really ought to know you're struggling with it, especially if he's straight. 

 

Good luck! If I was him, I wouldn't let someone like you go. 

You are just about the sweetest person on Earth, you know that?

I mean, we have talked about it. We are talking about it, and he still wants to come here. I mean, it's not just for me he's coming, he wants to get the hell out of dodge before Brexit comes through, and honestly he needs a fresh start cause he's been stuck in his shithole town going nowhere for thirty fucking years. Still. It's scary, you know? Especially since today I went out without my binder on, went shopping and stuff, and when I came home there was nothing I wanted more than to put it on again. Which, I've been putting it on to go out, but this is the first time I've put it on when I got home. That feels significant.

My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. Long distance, but still two years. And we talk every day and I have told him about all this, but I feel like everything's changing so fast I don't even know who I am half the time... Sorry, stream of consciousness going on here right now. But thank you, for your advice and your thoughtfulness. I figure on here you're probably the one who understands the most clearly what I'm going through. I appreciate you.