Although I had long suspected it, now I'm absolutely sure. You're one of the good guys Green.

I'm glad you talked to him Green, he clearly needed to talk to someone and once again you proved yourself to be one worth turning to. I only wish you kind of lived near me, for I could have really used a friend like you around me during points of this year. I might not have run away and did what I did, but that is another story.

I hope the two of you can work it out and reamain friends.

You beat me to it, James. Exactly what I was thinking, "you're a good guy, Green."

Kitty

You beat me to it, James. Exactly what I was thinking, "you're a good guy, Green."

 

Kitty

Green to add to that Green you are really a great friend. Chaz is very lucky and well, I feel Chaz is a great friend to you. I am betting you will be amazing long term friends:) and end up in an LTF (long term friendship) and in some ways you tend to be each others ying and yang in terms of gettting each others backs in fun times and tough ones.

So, Green, since I feel like you are friend, we have your back and Chaz's too in the coming days as Chaz comes out. Hey, if Chaz feels comfortable, don't forget to include your husband so he feels part of the process and friendship (of course it helps you if your hubby wants to be included and I might add since Chaz is such a hottie, then it should help cut down on the jealousy factor which may ensue.)

On another note, with twins there have been studies about Gay twins...usually, identical twins both are either straight or Gay and with fraternal twins, I think if one is Gay sometimes the other is straight..I think I read that some where.)

Green you are the best:)

Michael

You beat me to it, James. Exactly what I was thinking, "you're a good guy, Green."

 

Kitty

 

Green to add to that Green you are really a great friend. Chaz is very lucky and well, I feel Chaz is a great friend to you. I am betting you will be amazing long term friends:) and end up in an LTF (long term friendship) and in some ways you tend to be each others ying and yang in terms of gettting each others backs in fun times and tough ones.

 

So, Green, since I feel like you are friend, we have your back and Chaz's too in the coming days as Chaz comes out. Hey, if Chaz feels comfortable, don't forget to include your husband so he feels part of the process and friendship (of course it helps you if your hubby wants to be included and I might add since Chaz is such a hottie, then it should help cut down on the jealousy factor which may ensue.)

 

On another note, with twins there have been studies about Gay twins...usually, identical twins both are either straight or Gay and with fraternal twins, I think if one is Gay sometimes the other is straight..I think I read that some where.)

 

Green you are the best:)

 

Michael

I'll add my two cents in here. You are a GREAT FRIEND. I don't know what the situation is and I will not ask you to break confidence. Be there for him, but check for other resources in your area, gay youth groups, counseling centers, etc, JUST IN CASE it gets to be to much for you to handle. From reading your other posts it seems that Chaz has been troubled before. Be there for him, but know when to say that it's to much for you to handle and that there are compassionate professionals out there.

On the twins issue that that Michael mentioned. I personally know quite a few sets of twins, fraternal and identical. The 2 fraternal sets of twins, one out of the four is gay. Of the three identical, one set self-identifies as gay, one straight, and the other; one gay and one straight. Personally, I think he's at least bi, but closeted. He supports his brother entirely, but his parents are "with it".

Okay, first off; Green, You are amazingly lucky. Sure, your life is insane, but how many others have such great friends and situations? I'd keep Chaz around indefinitely. Your boyfriend sounds great, though. I love the emo boy story where he is doing the lovely spanish accent. And the story about the girl telling you how good in bed you are.

About the twin thing...one of the leading theories, and the one I believe, about the cause of homosexuality is that it is a recessive aberration of the X chromasome. So if one IDENTICAL twin is gay, there is a 50% chance that the other is gay (among men). If one FRATERNAL twin is gay, then the other one is straight. Unless the mom is a lesbian. Which is rare.

Thank you all for replying.

From what I know Chaz's twin isn't gay. I know this because I met his girlfriend, nice girl.

Now I wouldn't call myself a good guy just somebody that knows what's right and is extremely loyal to his friends. I have dropped friends just because they use drugs until they stopped. One of my friends committed suicide and one decided that he was better off on the street than in a home. To this day I regret not being there for either of them but I can't be everywhere at once. The last time I saw my friend (that lived on the street) he was about eighty pounds skinnier and I knew he was on some type of drug. I just smiled and I walked away. That night I cried about it. I felt so cold and negative. Like Chaz's brother I really felt like it was happening again and I made sure he had help.

Now before we jump into conclusions Chaz is not using drugs LOL. But his situation calls for really good friends right now and I know that I will be there every step of the way. That's more that I can say for his brother and that makes me angry because his brother should be there too. I'm not going to let his absence stop me from doing what's right.

To the friends I still have I am loyal but they know the rules. I don't deal with people that do drugs. I don't judge them but I don't want to be a part of that, I can't. I am not friends with people I can't respect all of my friends the many of them know that I respect them and their views, but they have to respect me and my views and each other. I am a very confidential person everything that is told to me in secret stays in secret. I learned that trick from my friend Jonathan. He's like a safe when it comes to stuff like that. In retrospect I guess it's hard to be my friend but I really absolutely have to be this way.

Thanks again Green

Green, you have a good value system. Especially keeping secrets and confidences that friends and family and others tell you. I am the same way. It often frustrates people who want to know what I have been told. Those who have told me confidences and secrets know they stay in an iron clad vault in my brain NEVER to be revealed. Once my sister's best friend told me something in confidence but not to my sister. I never told my sister, who was so pissed that I knew and she didn't...when her friend finally told her the secret and that I knew she said she knew I would never tell so she felt safe to tell me. My sister was shocked that my lips are always sealed. It also helps in my line of work as an attorney. Keeping the ears open, the lips zipped. It gets you far in life.

I am sure Chaz will be fine. It does help, as others said, to be forearmed with whatever his issues are. Research, get resources available to him for when he is ready to deal with those issues. That will help him and you as you help him:)

Good Luck Green:)

Michael