well, what about going back to that person, (I presume person) if you can and seeing how they are doing, and if not, being a friend or whatever...

You're right. We all do things we are not proud of. I can remember doing a couple of things at around the age of 8 or 9 that I am ashamed of. However, at that age, we are not always mature enough to stop ourselves. Without knowing what it was you did, it's difficult to say whether or not this is something you can put behind you. I have with mine. I realise now that it was a sign of immaturity, and not knowing how else to deal with things that were going on around me at the time.

However, when I have suffered with depression, I found I often dredged things up from the past and went over them again and again, and beat myself up about them, when I normally wouldn't. Do you think that maybe you were feeling low before being reminded of what you had done? If so, this 'thing' from the past will feel much worse to you than if you weren't feeling low.

Sarah x

brilliant sarah, my mum does the same. its a habit that she is trying to stop, and also she is soo much harder on herself when she is low, well in fact all the time.

Thanks Smarties. It is difficult to stop being hard on yourself if that's how you have always been. It is something I've managed to get a grip on though. There are of course times when I revert back to it, but no where near as often. I hope your mum manages to stop being so hard on herself.

she's doing various support group things at the moment which are helping loads thanx. At first I think they possibly were raking over the past too much, but now they are helping her put into perspective/look at in a different way the events that have happened in her life. and learning alot about herself and behaviour patterns, so she's alot more confident about the future now. glad you have made progress. hope you do too tiger

Tiger- you were 8. E-i-g-h-t.

 

Forgetaboutit.

 

Save your guilt for your thirties when you can properly savor it.

Thanks guys! I talked to a couple friends of mine about it and even got into specifics. I feel a lot better now. I suppose all children do things that aren't all that smart. If it feels good, do it. That's the basic mindset of a child. Basically, I sometimes think that I did something wrong. At my current age, it's easy to over-analyze to the point where I think I need to feel guilty. I really should stop that.