Sarah

And this is her sister Marbles They are gorgeous. Marbles looks like one of my cats.

My 12 year old daughter has a big crush on him since seeing Twilight. I saw some pics of him in her room and she blushed and said they were her friends, then she admitted that actually her friend had given them to her because she knew how much my daughter like Robert Pattinson. Aww....

Hi Razor, If you are way behind everyone else, then I must be way way behind everyone else because that's the first time I had heard about postsecret.com. Thanks for mentioning it. I had a look at the site, and it's such a great idea. I'm going to order some of the books. Sarah

A couple of people have said to me that I should go and see Marley and Me, but I refuse. I know I will sob and sob and sob!

In my experience, just because someone is family, it does not mean you will get along with them. Some of my family are lovely, some aren't. I could not live with my parents again..EVER! They are judgemental, and drive me nuts. However, I have friends who have been incredibly supportive of me and I would say they have been more like family than my actual family have been. There's that well used saying 'you can't choose your family, but you can choose your friends'. I believe that gets used a great deal because it's true! Is there any way you could move out into a place of your own, or share with a friend?

I hope for your sake, that's the last you will hear from them.

I'm sure your friend will get comfort from you being there. One of the worst things you could say would be "I know how you're feeling", because nobody but the person grieving knows how they feel. You could be honest with your friend and tell him that you are not sure of the best way to help him, but that you want to be there for him and support him in any way he wants you to. And yes, if you have the sort of friendship where you hug, then hug. You will probably find that your friend has days when he seems better, and then days, or moments when he suddenly becomes emotional. That is part of the grieving process and he needs to go through that.

I hope the test results are negative and that your health improves soon. I also hope that your family are accepting when you come out. Sarah

I'm glad you have got rid of them. They aren't friends they are spongers. If this situation arises again, just tell them no. You don't have to make up an excuse. In my experience, if you do that, they will find a way around the reason you have just given them. Keep calm, and say, "I'm sorry you are in this situation again, but you can't stay with me". Refusing them doesn't make you a bad person. You are a decent person who is no longer prepared to be walked all over.

On New Year's Eve, we get together with a big group of friends and see the New Year in together. We always have a great time. I find that New Year's day is a usually a bit flat for me. To everyone's disgust, I always take all the Christmas decorations down on N Y day. Once Christmas is over, I want them all put away. In fact, if I lived on my own, they'd all be down now! :-)

There was also a case where a few people tried to put an air compressor hose somewhere it did not belong. This one actualy killed someone. OMG!!!! I can't believe some people can be so stupid!

Whether he thought it was a boy or not, he should still have had the cat neutered. That was pretty irresponsible of your ex, as well as the fact he then left the cat with you. Unneutered males will roam for miles in search of a female in heat, they will get into fights with other males, and FIV is very common in unneutered cats, which can be caught easily through fighting and mating. Also, the cat population is getting out of control and they are suffering because of it. There are just too many cats and too little homes. I've got 4 cats, and would have given this mum and her kitties a home. Well done for keeping her, and her kittens, until you could find a good home for them.

I'm looking forward to seeing this movie. Someone I know, in America, has seen it and said it was fantastic with great acting.

I have only just read the whole of this thread, and I agree with Jessiflash. You both crossed the line of being 'just friends' some time ago. Your feelings developed to a point that it would have been awful to have seen him go off with other guys. I think you did the right thing by telling him how you felt. If you hadn't, you would have always been wondering 'what if'.

Take things easy Jovian. I was so worried when I saw the first message. Sarah x