Well... I think you should have told him. Now it's a little tricky because you knew when he was talking about the other thing and didn't say anything, that's charged as "complicity" But I don't know if I had guts to tell him if I were in your shoes...

Jeez- this sounds like the back-story of a murder.

I'm just saying...

Talk to A and tell her how you feel. Tell her that she has to tell him and if she doesn't you will. I wouldn't tell K without speaking to A first but I would certainly make it clear to her that you are not going to lie for her any more

I agree with paya. I think it's time to tell K all you know. I then would refuse to talk to A, K and M for some time. I would wait and see how things work out. It's not your business, after all. You can only lose. They could make you the scapegoat for telling, for not telling, for interfering in their affair, etc. People tend to blame others for their mistakes. Better stay out of their business.

This is the way I see it. You know about the affair, correct? Whether you like it or not, you're involved. You've been involved since the minute that A told you.

He has even been going to M (their mutual friend who she had sex with on Monday) and talking to him about her cheating and what he should do. (How can M do that?! Lie right to his face like that and comfort him when he is having an affair with his wife? It boggles my mind.)

The way I see it, and K might potentially see it if/when he finds out about this whole thing is... 1. you're as guilty as A and M because you knew about the situation and told him nothing. Unfortunately, just like M, you're talking to K and not saying anything about the affair... therefore you're guilty too. Of betraying him.

I still feel that it is not my place to tell him the rest, however I feel like I am betraying our friendship. He does not know all the facts, and he should not have to make a decision without all of them, and he is missing the biggest facts!

 

And! I have to lie to his face when he comes to me! That hurts me a lot. It makes me dislike my self. It makes me feel like a coward, and it makes me feel like a horrible friend and person.

I think this proves what you should do. If not for them, for yourself.

James

Kurt,

James couldn't have said it any better. I would confront A and tell her either she tells him, or you will. One way or another he needs to know, this will just keep eating away at you until there's nothing left.

Excuse me, I need to go take some organ lessons...I hear the company that produced Guiding Light is selling theirs after stopping production...