If people want to label me, they are going to and theres nothing I can do about it. Sexually, I strongly prefer guys but I still think girls are hot, but I wouldn't be rushing to jump into bed with them like with guys. So I guess the closest thing to that is 'Gay' hence why I put it in my profile. Although, I hate and avoid saying at all costs 'I'm gay' because that label denotes weakness and effeminacy to many people; two things I've worked hard throughout my life to not be.
We as people want to put everything into neat little categories because it makes it easier to distinguish us from them. But like you pointed out, sometimes people don't entirely fit into the category and vary widely. I'm gay, but would never want to live among the 'gay community' because its just something that makes me gag and is the anti-me. So, since I'm gay shouldn't that mean I wanna go to gay pride parades, do drugs and screw every guy I can get my hands on at the club, or not act like a real man? No. Gay, bisexual, lesbian, whatever are just like straight people. We have a wide variation among us, and there isn't a 'one size fits all' category like so many people believe.