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My condolences to his friends and family.

Welcome Steven!

I just Kant get behind this suggestion. Wow, sorry you guys. The last study I read on this indicated that homosexual males tended to have more testosterone than straight males. I believe this was actually determined to be essentially a study "fluke" and it was ultimately concluded that in all likelihood there is no significant difference in the amount of testosterone in a gay males versus a straight male. I may be wrong though, just going from memory. Personally I disagree with the supposition that being straight would make you better looking. In my experience gay males tend to be better looking than straight males, and the only logical conclusion that I've drawn from this is because they tend to be more aware of their appearances and act accordingly. Obviously this just a generalization. Just my thoughts, but come on guys, let's get some GAY POWER going! -Kevin

Oh my gosh! I did both these things! How did you guys know?!?

Thanks Viv! I'm definitely looking forward to a new week!

The certainly did pile up! LOL, thanks though, I appreciate your confidence and your support! Awww thanks, Mike! I am doing better now. Thanks for everything!

Thanks you guys!

Well, just to give you the other side of the coin, we're about the same age you and I, and for me it's pretty random whether I'll be carded or not. Personally though I feel the exact opposite. When I get carded it makes my day, when I don't I feel like crap. I'd feel worse, but I usually try to convince myself when it doesn't happen that it's because I conduct myself with a dignity and maturity that belie my youthful appearance. This is also, hopefully, why when I go out to dinner with friends the server usually presents me with the check. (either that or they can sense my proclivity for overtipping ) Kevin (who got carded tonight )

Well you're in good company then Hmm, personally I have a touch of the activist in me. Life is too short to makes things miserable for yourself and waste your time trying to convince people who aren't going to change their minds. However, I do believe that with a little bit of perseverance and hope we can change some people's minds and generally make things better for the community as a whole. Just my thoughts though, -Kevin

And this one's certainly sucked big time! There's little point in me sitting here whining about it and there's very little constructive good that this blog entry can make, but just as a general update of my life... Things didn't work out with the new old boyfriend. We broke up tonight. It was a nice break up I suppose. I mean we were both primarily concerned with not hurting each other, it was mostly mutual, and we're probably going to remain friends. Perhaps one day I'll write a blog about the whole thing, start to finish, but I don't particularly feel like it right now. Yesterday I quit my job. I had been sick a few days before that, and I was under a lot of stress, and in general everything was worse because of the crazy, random hours I had to work, plus there are quite a few things I need to do with my life that I couldn't have done while working that schedule. So I quit. I feel really good about my decision, just a little stressed about finding a new job and what comes next. Prior to that, almost a week ago now, my best friend (in Houston) "broke up" with me. For the past three weeks or so there have been quite a few problems in our relationship. The breaking straw was apparently my new relationship with Andrew (that was his name). Basically it all came down to my friend having issues with it and me apparently not seeing that until it was too late. Actually though, while I was hurt at the time - and very surprised - I feel okay with that as well. The way I see it my brief relationship with Andrew wasn't really relevant to our relationship. If he felt the need to end it, it had problems anyway (which it certainly did). So, in the span of a week I've lost a boyfriend, friend, and job. I'm sure I should be much more upset than I am right now. I mostly feel numb and overwhelmed by the whole thing. I sorta wish I were more upset because I feel like I must be in damage control, repressing mode right now, and that's not really the best way to get over this stuff. It is good that my head is fairly clear though. I'm just going to go on. I'm going to find a new job, I'm going to forge stronger relationships with my other friends, I'm going to try to be there for Andrew but not too close and hopefully we'll work out a nice friendship in the end as well. I'm going to go on.

Happy Veteran's Day and Remembrance Day everyone!

I definitely think one of our European/UK friends ought to coordinate an event. Like Trebs I can't really volunteer to do anything with it since I'm unfamiliar with Europe and wouldn't be able to attend anyway, but I think the key is just someone putting together some basic plans and communicating with the other interested parties to find out the best time and place. Personally I don't think it's particularly important that we time the two events to coincide. I suppose it would be fairly nice, but I think the first priority should be finding times that work best for the people attending each event. After all we can catch the pics and find out how everything went here on the site later Just my thoughts though, Kevin P.S. Welcome back Snowy and Tim!

It's up to the individual. Labels are for people not the other way around. We define ourselves and the labels we choose to use. Of course your question cleverly asked "what does being gay mean to you?" which implies that you're already well aware that it varies from person to person. So, to me, being gay is roughly: -1/3 sexual attraction/desire/activity -1/3 lifestyle/friendships/community -1/4 emotional connection, -and the rest (about 9%) just sort of an intangible "something" that doesn't fall neatly into any categories. -Kevin

This is actually quite sensible if you ask me. Indeed I would support the passage of this law throughout the rest of the country as well. Sure it may seem unnecessary and a little absurd...if you've never driven in the South

Sounds like a ball! Thanks for filling us all in! I wish I coulda been there too!

Of course!

Boys are stupid...my boy's not stupid...but I still can't figure him out Anyway, the majority of them are wacko so I'm sure it's them and not you

I certainly wish I could have been there! Great pics, you guys I voted for Dallas, because obviously since I live in Houston there's no way I wouldn't be able to make it. Even if I couldn't get the time off or something, I'd just call in sick if I had to since it would be so close. Incidentally I really was sick over that span of time so had I been able to attend and make plans I'd have either had to cancel them (unlikely) or spend the whole time feeling lousy (more likely ). Anyway, I picked Dallas, but while Dallas would be so much easier, NYC would be so much more fun and would feel so much more like a "real vacation". Either way though I hope to make the next one That's a great idea, old Bob! I hope someone does organize one! Take care all! Kevin

I can make her go both ways using either eye only (or both of course), but you're right in that each one seems to have a preferred direction. A link to this image, and a fairly lengthy discussion, are actually available in the Lounge right now. I guess this is "making the rounds" right now.

I'm sure it'll be fine, Demetz. Hang in there! All the best, Kevin

I heard about this yesterday via a text message! Good to know the fuller story. I think the lawsuit is justified.

ohh I'm so sorry, Richie How awesome! Oh my gosh! I read "eightyears" as "eighty years" I JUST managed to read it correctly lol I definitely don't think it's wrong. Just take it slow and see what happens Have an awesome day and take care! Kevin

Congrats on getting in, Kurt! I'm sorry things are rough with your parents right now. Personally, I agree with you, you'll probably be happier on your own, and while I doubt that THEY will be happier, I agree that it's probably something you should do. Just my opinion though. Anyway good luck! Have an awesome day and take care! Kevin P.S. Watch the swearing IN your blog title okay?

Happy Birthday, Dude!!