I've been reading a lot of the stories here, and I think gardentuber is probably referring to Mark Arbour's Man in Motion, in which the protagonists have at least three family members and three friends contract HIV and 5 died of AIDS (very quickly) and one of the currently surviving characters, that the protagonists rescued, is HIV+, but is so far, not suffering with any AIDS related maladies. The reason for his own HIV+ status is extremely promiscuous sex, and his drug use habits are heretofore unknown, although they have been reasonably alluded to.
I don't mind the plot of his story, the telling has been great, but I am disappointed that the one "rescue" had contracted HIV... I have to temper my own likes and dislikes, however, with the fact that an author may write fiction woven into the reality that is our world as it is or was. Mark's weaving of Man in Motion into the 1980's--while slapping us in the face with the reality of that one thing we don't want to admit exists--is at the very least, believable despite the fictions created.
Gardentuber, I also do not like to be reminded of the reality of the existence of HIV, that's why I try to enjoy the stories for the love expressed in them. But I've been living with it for 19 years, and it's a fact and I've got to live with twice a day for the rest of my life, just like 60 million other people dealing with it for the rest of their lives, and like those 20 million people did who aren't here anymore: It's here, but it can't change who I am.