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Well, it sounds silly for me to post here since I am almost a doctor, but seeing other doctors post... I too know how to use those and am trained in First Responder Training as well as ATLS. I had my First Responder Training under Prof. Dr. Bernard Jaffe, MD from Tulane University Emeritus Professor of Surgery, US, a good man; especially so since he travels even at his age, all the way to third world countries of SE Asia, to help train us in this field. I am sorry to say, we had no idea in this field before med school. It is not as well taught in India or most of SE Asia as in the west. So, no high school or office training as such. People like Prof. Jaffe is trying hard to change that. Hats off to that! Thank you Mikel for bringing this into notice! Hugs and Chocolates, everybody!

I second your thought, Andy. It's open season for eligible straight guys, did you know? *goes to find his shotgun* Thank you Joann for sharing your love. It is true; you are indeed quite blessed to find such a guy! God bless you both! I am not so sure that I shall be lucky as such! Anyways, Mark and Stuby and many others like them give me hope that Love is not a fairytale! I personally think, it is doubly difficult to find a true same sex lover than a heterosexual one. But then again, we are talking about Love; so, you have to take all those unpredictable chance occurrences into consideration. I just hope and pray, my karma does not lead me into a sad single life or worse still a loveless relationship. *Rubs nose with Joann* Hope I get some good luck on me too, mama bear. Hugs and Chocolates.

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Ok... So, the whirlwind ride has begun... I like the way it has started. As usual you have conquered the flashback technique as well. Quite smooth. Keep posting. Hugs and Chocolates.

Ok... Don't get angry. I know I am late. But you got me hooked. Excellent beginning. I have only one problem. "Oh god! I hope nothing bad has happened to him." -Given the situation, I don't think this is an adequate expression. You were going just so smooth before, you were gliding in 100kmph, and this was a glitch I felt. Rest of it just Avant grade. Hugs and Chocolates.

Happy Birthday!

Man... You just said what I believe in the deep of my heart. Will we ever be happy? *sad hug* May be you are my Mr. Right? In any case, I will keep praying for both of us and everyone else. May God grant everyone happiness. Hugs and Chocolates.

Damn, all I get is kissing dreams and great story material action romance drama dreams. Wish I had you visiting in my dreams!

Happy Birthday, Mr. Grim. May Lord bless you and keep you. May the coming year be filled with love, happiness and all round prosperity. Hugs and Chocolates. PS. Don't be too naughty! Have fun!

Happy Birthday Nephy! Hope you have a great partey! God bless you. May the upcoming year be full of wonderful new surprises. Hugs and Chocolates.

Please post this as a story so that I may be able to share it with others who are not a member of this site. I am too overwhelmed to write anything in praise. Thank you for sharing such a personal thing with us. God bless you and your father. May his soul rest in peace. Hugs and Chocolates.

Oh! Rob! I was so moved reading your blog post. I had to make a response. I wanted to comment. Then, I thought this deserved more attention and I wrote this post. The teaching of the Bodhisatvas is all about touching hearts. And you examplified that in such vivid manner in your post, simple and elegant; I was compelled to answer that call. Please keep writing and sharing. Thank you. God bless. Hugs and Chocolates.

Look it's about saving one's skin. It's not because of you that they are in that position and you tried your level best to pull them out of it. That is all anyone can ask out of an honest man. Rest is your own business. Congratulations on your new job, and based on your progressively depressing posts before, Good Riddance. Hoping for happier days now. God Bless. Hugs and Chocolates.

You are more than awesome Joann, especially for me. *Warm Love-filled Bearhug*

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This post is in response to Yettieone's beautiful blog 'Proudly Standing Strong'. So, if you have not read that yet you better come back later. Yettie is a wonderful blogger; His words well-chosen and to the point, and his content heartwarming. It is not the first time I have been so moved by his words, and hopefully will not be the last either. His latest post is about people, who has touched his mind and rendered it gold. He is talking about people who are not related by blood, but has remained close to his heart. And as always human kindness is the core of his thought. He is talking about childhood friends and distant cousins and standard issue wayfarers. People, who for us regular mortals are rather common and thus under-appreciated, are his topic. These are the people who have touched his heart profoundly. But, an uneasy surprise is the pen pal on death row. It is someone, he agrees, who deserves his fate, which puts him apart from the rest of the list in my eye, and yet who again is just a sacrifice to the social paradigm of law and order. This person in his own words, "...is that after all this time locked in a tiny cell for up to twenty three hours a day, waiting for his day to die, he is alive. His mind is beautiful, quirky, happy. His imagination is unreal. He is funny and serious. He is human. And above all, he has grown up. He just needed a chance to be himself, and out of all that anger, hurt, pain and evil, a wonderful individual is there." Not a regular Joe you meet in the market! I don't know this person. All that I have about him is this blog post. Yet, I can feel the desperation and the pain just as clearly. It is the common human consciousness that is providing the necessary empathy in this case. But, unlike most of us, Yettie is capable of amplifying that feeling a thousand times. He seems to have a faster connection with better bandwidth to the collective unconscious! lol! I envy him. But, the question is, "Do I really need to?" In the picture above, we are seeing a tender young man, aristocratically dressed, seated in a leisurely fashion upon a lotus. Avalokiteswara, Lord who looks down, is the name of a Bodhisatva. A Bodisatva is a being on the path of righteousness. It learns the true path through millions and millions of lifetimes in different bodies and different worlds. They learn about the pains and sufferings of Samsara through each and every one of their lives and lives of their loved ones. All that knowledge is stored in the Bodhimanjusha, a sort of a locker for knowledge, and when they attain Buddhahood, that knowledge becomes instantaneously accessible. Avalokiteswara is one such Bodhisatva, the one who learns through compassion. His is the path of mercy. He has millions of hands and each hand is reaching out to support a dimension of sentient beings in suffering. This guy lives to help those in need. I love this particular allegory of Avalokiteswara. According to Buddhist thoughts, we all are striving Bodhisatvas in our own way. In each of our crimes, our failures, our successes, our desires, our anger and frustrations and actions and inactions, everything is propelling us towards that goal of enlightenment. Yet, we are so engrossed in our own lives, we have forgotten to see the bigger picture. We have forgotten that id-password for that eternal knowledge. But, Avalokiteswara is continually telling us the answer. It is Kindness, simple human kindness, that we have forgotten. Human beings are only better than others because they can feel empathy, because they can recognize the other's sufferings and do their best to alleviate it. Whatever be the social position of the other person, his financial status, his educational capability, everybody needs a hug, a simple shoulder, a warm nonjudgmental affective smile. And that is Yettie's message. In a way he is reminding us the words of all the ancient enlightened beings. The same words etched in eternity, Love thy neighbor as thyself. I can quote each and every ancient tome saying the same thing. Unfortunately, that also shows how this clear universal understanding is still beyond our reach. But, with more people like Yettie, we can still sense a beacon of hope in the distant future, when all of humankind shall band under one banner of love and fellowship. That is the day when the Kingdom of Heaven shall truly descend amongst us. Thank you Yettie for the simple reminder. God bless you. Hugs and Chocolates.

not word for it, just a big OMG! Hilarious!

Happy Birthday Arpeggio! God bless you man. May the coming year be full of love, happiness and prosperity. Keep smiling.

So, I would have run around naked as a jaybird proclaiming your birthday to the unenlightened mortals; but, then I thought Stubby may not be happy with the plan. Happy Birthday, Marky! Years will come and go; and so will people. I just hope your ability to love another and to shower compassion over others never forsake you. May Lord bless you two with love, understanding, happiness and all round prosperity. Forever shine.

The point is how to let him know he is overcompensating... Try to find out what is the source of this problem. What is making him so anxious to maintain an impeccable exterior? Is it a peer influence? Parental/Authority pressure? Or is he jealous of someone and is trying to best that person? Who is his ideal and why? Try to be as non-judgemental as possible. It may be that he is suffering from Social Anxiety Disorder. The more you will scrutiny him, the more distant he will become. So, try to get under the surface and find out the core of the problem. If possible talk to his family and friends and teachers and co-workers. This will give you an objective assessment of the problem. Maybe it's not him but you who is reading too much into apparently normal behaviour. Also, observe his body language and choice of words. Is he becoming more 'closed' than before? Talk to him. But, don't pressurize. Do not raise your voice, no matter how frustrated you feel. Talking after sex or a full meal is a good timing. Do not push just guide the conversation. Allow him to come clean to you on his own. Last and foremost show him that he is loved no matter whatever he appears like to others. I know all the stuff I said above is easier said than done and, more often than not, requires professional training. If the whole position radically deteriorates or if he starts showing manic/depressive features or if he tries to harm himself or others including you, immediately seek professional help. We are here for you. Hope this helps. God Bless. Hugs and Chocolates.

Extremely well-writ piece on the subject and I really like your astute inference.(I hope you are not a socio-anthropologist then you may have read that eternal youth theory in some articles. Cudos to you if you haven't.) Now, lets start at the very beginning Yes, I do shave from time to time and there are othertimes when I let the jungle grow as it pleases. I am not partial to the pre-pubescent look. But, I would not deny I am turned on by it. Is it wrong? may be. Is it common? more than you care to know. Does it indicate deviant behaviour? no. It just indicates your sexual preference. Just like, not dating a black man does not make me racist, shaving my junk does not make me a sex offender. But, there may be a certain correlation to the fantasy needs of the person. Some serial sex offenders shave not to leave an extra piece of evidence via the hair. Gay men are more likely to shave, an old medical myth imo but still in use to identify Sodomy convicts. For an asian guy the above mentioned point four is an extremely valid point. We, unlike blacks or arabs are not blessed with mighty pythons. Watch an asian video and you will understand. Us, Indians are a mixed bag. I, myself were once horrified by my friend's erect dick; the monster looked a good 10 inches and extremely disproportionate to his body. With my sensitivities an extremely huge junk is a turn off. About the patch, I personally favour the greek statue look, not too much or too little. Check out David by Michelangelo and you will understand. About the medical end of the bargain, Shaving can be a real health hazard, especially in those parts. The hair is not for decoration. It perspires and releases pheromones. Pheromones attract your dream mate and Perspiration keeps your nuts cool, 2 degrees cooler than your body core temperature. That temperature is needed for spermatogenesis. So, shaving in itself can lead to functional sterility. Nextly, the act of shaving itself produces millions of microscopic cuts in your skin, even if you don't damage anything grossly. These act as a portal of entry for skin commensals and can lead to cellulitis. Your genital skin is thinner compared to the facial skin that you shave regularly. So, more chances of infection. The inflamed skin can also act as a royal road for STDs including AIDS. So, even if you are wearing rubber, a imperceptibly small cut in your gentital skin can destroy your life. At first, you have more chance of contracting Gonorrhoea. And when you have that, the rest of the package easily follows, ending with HIV. Gonorrhoea and Syphilis, my friend, are both very sneaky offenders and can remain asymptomatic for a long time or may appear quite benign like an insidious urethritis, which clears off in a few days. Their dangers in post Fluoroquinolone era, is not from themselves but from the associates, HIV being the prime one. I will end this with a small advice para, Do NOT shave just before a date to look good. Do NOT shave if you are not being monogamous. Do NOT shave if you are with a sero-discordent partner. And for those who do shave regularly, DO remember to use proper water-based moisturisers afterwards. The itching is just from dry skin and new hair follicles growing. Shaving may block the hair pores leading to Furuncles and even Cellulitis, both I have experienced personally. So, be careful and don't over-shave. Do NOT try to get it extra smooth. Keep these pearls in mind and SHAVE RESPONSIBLY.

Happy Birthday! May God bless you and keep you! May the upcoming year be filled with new possibilities and happiness! Party hard! Hugs and Chocolates!

It's apt but scary!

Yeah! there is a great one! it is called... wait for it... Gay Authors! lol!

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