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yeah already saw this. really sweet. can be a marriage equality ad.

For Carl.

Dirges and Obituary You said I wouldn’t like your playlist But, my dear, I love your songs How could I not Our choices are so similar But every word, every tune, is like they are wrought in my tears, my heart's blood How songs disappear How tears end all wars Troubles in the garden and the roses bleed love Here lies my heart all bruised and dark Here lies my heart all silent in prayer Now & forever yours ©asamvav111

I kinda agree with Mr. Hottie-with-good-taste. I mean you are such a wonderful person, who wouldn't wanna be with you. I am just angry that the whole thing was only on a physical basis... Okay I am a little jealous. But, you get what I mean. Hugs.

I was having a lot of problems in life lately. Then I read this blog and see how blessed I am. It doesn't reduce the pain but it helps regain a perspective. Thank you for sharing this with us. I know it takes incredible courage and high threshold for pain to share something like this. Whatever your faults had been, you are in the core a good soul. God bless. Happy New Year. May this year bring you love and happiness and good health. Hugs.

This is not the dick you are looking for, but I'm gonna jump on Ieshwar's wagon and say, you are an amazing person and many guys are so damned fighting each other to get inside your heart and your pants. You really have to be a dick to ignore you, Fishyy. (yeah this is dumb jokes week) May be he is in some sort of trouble and thus couldn't reach you. Hope things straighten out soon... or gay-fy whatever you like. Have a Happy New Year. We love you and would very much like you to be happy not depressed. Hugs.

Thanks Fishyy, Wild One. You did a splendid job with the petition. I'm sure things like that will bring us results. Thank you for your input Zombie! What you say is true. However, by the law India is indeed a modern pluralistic democratic society and perhaps the biggest example of the fact that legislation can not change the popular mindset. As I mentioned in the blog, being a minority is a big thing in India. Government Quotas will open doors to places you otherwise can't imagine and the representation is good too. But, this has done little to disperse the stigma associated with thousands years old discrimination. There is still hope. Globalization has done much to bring forth a new dimension of ideals to modern Indian youth. And even if there are a few black sheep, things are changing for the better. Caste based discrimination are no longer a majority ideal. Even 20 years back inter-caste marriages were frowned upon. Now-a-days, parents are happy if their son marries a girl not a boy, caste be damned. Caste based discrimination has given way to religion based discrimination. May be one day that will pass too. In the meanwhile, we must fight.

Ok, I have stayed silent for long... for too long it seems. There has been a good number of blog posts in GA and thankfully all of them are in favour of the LGBT community of India. This was expected. GA is a safe space and a close community of great solidarity. In today's hateful cyberspace, this is a truly unique oasis of love. I am really thankful for GA. But, regarding this matter, there has been some amount of confusion and misinformation as well. I want to target those and clear the air a bit. First of all, homosexuality is not criminalised in India. It never was. It never will be. All citizens of India are provided equal rights and protection under the constitution. There is however a law introduced by the British that talks about the legal ramifications of the so called "unnatural sexual offenses". IPC s377 is concerned with sexual intercourse which implies penile penetration (except in the case of lesbianism where there is no penetration obviously and hence the act is termed "bodily congress") in routes other than the vaginal. This is applicable for anal and oral intercourse in both homosexual and heterosexual situations. There is no mention of sexual orientation in the law. However, it is clearly understandable that this law can easily be used to incriminate people of queer identity. The same section talks about bestiality. The punishments are of various degrees from life imprisonment to 10 years in prison to 3 years in prison with or without fine. And you need medical evidence to prove the offense (as unfortunate as as this is, I, as a Doctor, was trained in this). But, most importantly although rarely used, this is the one and only law that protects male rape victims. If this section is simply writ down without amendment or insertion of another law for the matter, there will be no law against male rape in IPC. Generally the misinformed police of India use these laws as threats to extort money from queer couples in public. This and the law against public indecency are a perpetual nightmare for couples of any orientation and a regular fund raiser for the Indian police force. It is not like they get to enjoy the bribe. the money is fed into the political system and everyone gets a share. This is an open secret in the subcontinent. Secondly, although it was majorly the religious-right-wing-extremists who were the plaintiff in SC and the defendant of the Delhi High Court ruling, their focus of contention were not religion based. Such religion based contention would have fallen face first in Indian court where the concept of secularity must rule supreme, as per the constitution. Although, there is also a matter of religious freedom, it would not have worked here. The main discussion was thus focused on public health, specifically HIV/AIDS spread due to widespread sexual immorality if s377 is writ down. In Delhi High Court that was overruled due to lack of evidence and presence of evidence of the contrary. WHO provided some significant statistics in this matter. Details of the ruling are available on public domain if you wanna read the long pdf. http://judis.nic.in/supremecourt/imgs1.aspx?filename=41070 Lastly, SC did not overrule Delhi High Court's ruling in order to define sexual morality and to uphold an unused outdated law. They only defined the power of a lower court to suggest for such writ down. And passed the ball to parliament to do the honours. Now if only the parliament passes the bill in its current session, this law can be writ down. In any case, a clear 2/3 rd majority in upper house is needed to effect the writ down. Now, these are all technical facts. Let's see what is actually happening. The current coalition in power is somewhat similar to liberal socialists of the USA. Their main vote banks are the minorities, the Scheduled Caste, the Scheduled Tribes and Other Backward Classes. A significant proportion of these are composed of Muslims and Christians and Sikhs. So, they will not do anything to anger the religious leaders of these sects. And the religious right wing nationalist coalition, who is a strong opponent to the said coalition, is tight with these people. After all, in India the masses sway to religious fervor. They will put their vote where these leaders ask them to. This is because the general lack of education and unthinkable poverty makes them more vulnerable to God's people's council (yes just like in the middle ages). Although the current government has done much for the poor and the less fortunate, the staggering population makes it impossible to reach all. There is still much to be done. Unless the level of education is increased beyond a certain benchmark, social issues like homosexuality will never be properly understood by the masses. After all, if you are concerned about how to feed your son and daughter the next day, you can hardly be interested in what the upperclassmen of the metropolis are talking about in their comfortable drawing rooms. Still this is an issue that needs to be addressed, because globalization has hit India hard and these issues need to be discussed if India is to step into the new millennium. India is a country of apparent contradictions. It is hard to understand things in a linear view. People in general are not completely against homosexuality; Especially in the metro cities, they are quite supportive. Homosexuality in men are more accepted than in women. Honour killings and rapes of LGBT are still a regular thing albeit under-reported. And the status of security of women are in all time low. But, that doesn't mean women are suppressed. For an upper-middle-class educated Bengali household my family is extremely supportive of my choices. I have seen the same with a number of other families. Then, there are those who appear liberal superficially but are deeply bigoted in heart. My religious Muslim friends are okay with my choices even if they are not okay with homosexuality. They see it as a personal choice and leave it there. Yet some of my Hindu associates find homosexuality abhorring and are all too vocal of their disgust, sometimes beyond the border of civility. This is weird since Hinduism has no moral code against Homosexuality while Islam does. Also there is a strong connection between history of childhood sexual abuse and homosexuality in the popular psyche. s377 is making rounds in the media circus at the moment. The Central government (federal gov) has come out in support of the writ down. And so has a good number of politicians and ministers. However, with elections next year it is highly unlikely that a bill will be passed. Then again, Indian politics is big on minority games and if LGBT are solidified into a minority and a significant vote bank, then things will start changing really fast. Everybody wants the pink vote. Ultimately next year when the other coalition comes to power (as they most expectedly will, since the current rulers have sent the economy to dumps and the other party is considerably better at managing the economy), the prosecution of the LGBT will reach record high. Homosexuality is after all the result of western influence in Indian society, as per these bigots, therefore most ardently to be battled and the society to be purified back to its ancient glory. Trial by fire... The best you can do for us now is, pray and wish us luck.

awww Fishyy! You are too kind! Hugs!

(This is dedicated to Carl) Your face is fading from my memory Your form Dispersing In the cold winter night In the condensations on the grass that look like teardrops And my vision is blurred Fin ©asamvav111

Happy Birthday Johnathan! God bless! Hope you have a great party and wonderful year ahead. Godspeed on your projects. Hugs and Booze!

omfg! THIS actually happened? He loves you sooo much. Damn! We Bengali's have a proverb the gist of which is "as impossible as boiling oil". Lol! This was thoroughly entertaining to read but must have been hellish to experience. Dare I say good story?

wow! can we have the next installment please?

The strong Rajput flavour of the story made me wish it was written in Hindi or any other Indian language. The premise and the execution reminded me of Bollywood films where this subject is made to cliche. But, your writing has its own flavour that I enjoy so much. Good story as always.

um... can I just say one thing? If you read through all those crazy bits, it seems like you were both being rather childish. Do we ever grow up? Anyways, Tree or Hearth or whatever, ultimately it's the loved ones that make Christmas worthwhile. That is the rule for any festivity. Without those around you, without their laughter, all the ornamentation is useless. Happy that you met peace in the end. Hugs and Chocolates.

You can move mountains, they say If only you ask with love I found it true when my Softest touch moved your reluctance away And I saw the sun rise Though before I was blind And its warmth pierced my heart In million rays, in million ways I felt it burn, I cried out “Gloria in excelsis Deo” Every kiss tells a story Ours was the beginning ©asamvav111

Belated Happy Birthday!!!

Happy Birthday Unc! God bless. Hope you have a great one. Have fun and enjoy the rest of the year as it's gonna be fabulous. Love and huggles and loads of chocolates.

Happy birthday Nostalgic! God bless. Have a wonderful day and great year ahead, full of love, hope and nice surprises. Hugs and Chocolates.

Interesting story, good writing, very good character development. Expecting good things in the future. Please don't disappoint. And the editor needs to be more thorough, especially regarding sentence structures. Work on that. Hugs and Chocolates.

Ok, plain and simple please suggest me some Christmas flavored LGBT movies. So far, I've found only "Make The Yuletide Gay". It's a 2009 comedy about a gay college student who "straightens up" for the holidays as he visits his family and on a turn of fate his boyfriend appears on his doorsteps as an unwelcome surprise with altogether hilarious consequences. It's funny to the hilt but emotional as well. Worth a watch. http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1305714/?ref_=nv_sr_1

What happens next?