I think there is a slight divide sometimes here around the gay people that I've been in touch with. My three gay friends are on different levels of masculinity, but they all belong to the masculin stereotype. Two of them are more open to being around all of what the gay lifestyle brings and are open and accepting of all the different stereotypes as they've been out longer and are in a committed relationship. The other one tends to stay around other masculin gay men and feminin lesbians or straight people. He hasn't been out as long and isn't as comfortable with his sexuality as the others.
The divide, I've witnessed has a lot of different reasons. Here there are two extremes, the effeminate and the ultra masculin and the two don't mix well in every day life for the most part the two groups tend to stay away and when they to interact it's at dance clubs or privately even that is strained. My friends get angry with me, but I tell them the only reason they don't want to be seen around a group of more effeminate men is because the stereotype makes them uncomfortable in a public setting. It could just be a preference and I'm making a larger deal out of it than what's actually there. It just seems to me that the effeminate men are way more willing to communicate with masculin gay men.
I think stereotypes is the whole problem. Things will be more accepted if the overall general public was as well.
Dating - I feel it's more of a personal preference. The problem I think is socially.
Krista