NaperVic

You mean you both didn't laugh watching 'old school'?

I said 'No, I'm a one person man'. I don't think I could share someone else for a LTR. And if I were in a threesome, I'd always be paranoid that the other two would have a stronger relationship and feel like a 3rd wheel. But if it works for others, yay for them . Vic P.S. - Now if Paul Walker & Tom Cruise ask me to be a 3rd with them, I'd be game ***This post has been labeled Label Free

Wow, you know it's bad when you start dreaming about Dom Last night I had a very vivid dream about Dom. I don't usually remember my dreams, but this one stuck out. So anyway, here's what I remember... It starts out with me checking GA and finding that Dom has blogged again. I was sooo excited, that I considered updating my signature to say 'Domluka has reemerged again', but decided it was more important to read his latest blog entry. Dom said a few things, like why he was busy and such (work, new bf, blah blah blah), but then he also said he was working on a new project, where he and the bf were making short movies. He posted a link to the movie, so of course I clicked on it. The movie starts off with Dom sitting at his desk talking to the camera. Do you remember Danny the gay guy from Real World New Orleans? That's what Dom looked like , with a slight beard. He then introduces his bf who looked how I imagined Riley from TLW/ITFB would look like. It was a pleasant surprise to see that Dom was dating someone like that. Anywho, I don't remember the entire movie, but there's this scene where Dom & the BF where dresses as cute little puppies with floppy ears and such and they were on their hands and knees pretending they were dogs. At one point Dom was play pouting as his BF was coming up from behind. Dom pouted into the camera, 'please don't hurt me'. And then all I remember next was the movie ending with credits saying it was owned by HBO . So anyway, that was my Domluka dream. I'm sure there are all kinds of symbolisms & Freudian type things to find in there. Weird....

That reminds me...When I was driving across the US from Chicago to California, I stopped at some pretty rural places. Not being white, you get some strange looks & not so friendly treatment sometimes. Well, the 2nd day of my trip, I stopped at a motel for the night. I didn't have a reservation, but the woman at the counter was trying to find ANY way to get me a discount for the room. She asked if I had triple A and a few other things. I unfortunately said No to all of them, but then she ended up just giving me a discount on the room just for grins. I thought 'wow, finally someone really nice on this trip.' When I got to the room and went into the bathroom, I saw myself in the mirror. I was wearing a necklass with a cross on it (thought I had it under my shirt), but it must have come out and was very visible. So I think the reason she treated me so nicely was because she thought I was a good christian boy . So when in Rome....

On that link, the actor 'Michael Urie' plays the character Marc on Ugly Betty. Marc has some stereotypically gay characteristics and some may call him femme. I don't think there is a picture of the boyfriend who Marc was embarassed to be seen in public with...But that was the situation that got me thinking about dating a 'Ben'.

I said maybe , but gosh that would be scary. I'd have to really really really love someone to take those kinds of health risks. However, if I knew upfront that someone was HIV+, I'm not sure I would ever allow myself to get to the point where I would love them that much to take a risk. And let's say I was dating someone, and they told me their HIV+ after I've fallen in love (and after a significant amount of time), then I'm not sure how I'd feel. tough question...

no words. thanks for sharing

I should clarify. My friend is alive (and he's been living much longer than he feared at first), but it has taken a toll on his life. He's gained weight in weird parts of his body, and it looks out of place compared to the rest of him. He's had to change meds a few times because one set would start loosing it's efficacy and his T-cells would go down. Luckily the company he works for has an awesome medical plan and they cover all his drugs, but if he wanted to quit, he'd be restricted in finding another job because he'd have a 'pre-existing condition' and they might not cover his medical. He had a good friend who also has AIDS, and he's been loosing weight in his cheek area, so he's looking emaciated, yet the rest of his body looks 'normal'. He's tried dating again, but as soon as he brings up his HIV status, guys tend to shy away. So while many more are living with AIDS now then in the past, it's still a very hard life.

I have a close friend who's been living with AIDS for over ten years now. He's been on several cocktails and has been doing pretty well. I was curious...do you know anyone close who's living with AIDS? I think having AIDS be so close to home is a constant reminder that I should be careful if I were to start dating again. To the younger guys...do you think not knowing someone with AIDS makes it seem less real to you (and thus less cautious when it comes to unprotected sex)? ***This post has been labeled Label Free®***

Happy 54th Birthday Benji!!! You're twice as old as Davey, so I guess that means you're going to have twice as much fun this year that he'll have.

How to break it to him? Print this quote out and show it to him: Good friends are way to important to risk loosing it with an attempt at dating. Good luck Kevin! Vic

Happy 27th Birthday Davey!!!! Hope you have a great one!

I'm not meaning to offend anyone 'I am Jeff'. I was just thinking back to when I first knew Joey online, when he was much more confused. He's done a lot of growing since then and it's nice to be able to see him gain some confidence about himself and who he is (whatever he chooses to 'label' or not label himself). Regards, Vic 'Who apologizes to Joe if his blog is a label free zone'

On the show Ugly Betty, Marc (Wilhelmina Slater's assistant), was embarassed to be seen in public with his boyfriend. Marc really liked his bf in private, but was embarassed by the way the bf looked and dressed (the bf was husky and dressed somewhat like a slob). Ben from TLW could best be described as 'femme' if one had to label him. Here is the first discription of Ben from TLW Ch 4: I'll admit that when I was first coming to grips with being gay, I probably wouldn't date someone like Ben (assuming he would have me ). I was sooo 'worried' what other people thought that being seen out in public with someone like Ben would be extremely uncomfortable. I'm happy to say that I've gotten beyond that over the years and aren't so concerned what other people think. If there was a good personality match, I'd have no problem dating a Ben and being seen out in public with him. What do you think? Could you see yourself liking/loving someone in private, but being embarassed to be scene seen with them in public?

I think the straight best friend fetish is a common one for many of us. Maybe it's the thought that maybe one day, when all the planets line up, that the strVIII best friend might indulge us in a fantasy night...one of those one time only things. Also, many xx websites cater to that fantasy by having straight guys have sex (corbinfisher, seancody, etc). Take Care®, Vic

Maybe we'll get the Luke short story for Christmas

Are you identifying as 'Gay'? If so, welcome Vic 'who had it in his head that you were identify as Bi'

Slow it down a little partner...you're already talking about moving in together. :wacko:

The best of nifty site over at awesomedude is probably the premier listing of the best stories. I think they're categorized in a way to find whatever floats your boat. http://www.best-of-nifty.org/ Take Care

But may through december...that's only a 7 month difference

Awww, poor Kevin . No matter how much we don't want it to bug us, it usually does when an ex starts dating someone else. You're only human having a little green monster in you. But while yours is about the size of a flea, mine is a huge mo fo that has public hissy fits . Anywho, the logical/supportive side of you will prevail. Take Care, Vic

Maybe Joe plans on using his masculine ways to bring back GA chat

Does this mean you're going to be eating tuna from January - June? :wacko: Sounds like a lot of fun! Now that the stagehands strike is over, you'll probably have lots of choices on Broadway. I haven't broken it yet to my family that I won't be going to Chicago for Xmas.

It doesn't matter what your label is Graeme, I wouldn't date you cause I wouldn't want to be the mommy of two upcoming teenage boys. Too much stress :wacko: . Just kidding Graeme