I never really thought I hid my gayness out in the real world and certainly don't hide it with my online persona here on GA. I don't have Gay & Available stamped on my forehead, but I don't deny or deflect when people ask.

However, a friend called me out on the fact that my Facebook profile doesn't provide any direct evidence that I'm gay. Sure there are clues that the trained eye can deduce, but nothing definitive to say 'I'm Gay'.

In the past, I've justified the lack of information to being a private person. But I've called myself out on the B.S. I think it has to do with the fact that I have so many distant relatives and people from High School on Facebook. Just thinking about H/S seems to get me in High School mode . And relatives...all those weird aunts who are always judging .

In a way, I'm being a hypocrite. When I look at FB profiles of people in my past, I check to see whether they come out and say they're gay. I always admire those that do. I need to be a good example to anyone else that might be looking. What if I have some young, distance cousin who might be confused or questioning? I need to be out for their sake.

And if someone has a problem with my being gay? They can always drop me as an FB friend. It's not like I'm going to lose any sleep over it.

Another reason I want to be more Out on Facebook is due to friends I'm adding from GA. I started worrying about inconsistencies between NaperVic of GA and Facebook Vic.

I won't necessarily let my hair down on FB as much as I do on GA, but I do need to be more honest about who I am over there.

Take Care®,

Vic

P.S. - I'm still not adding you Nate