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To live with concern for death


old bob

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Death and you  

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  1. 1. Do you think we live in a dangerous world ?

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    • no
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    • other answer ? explain
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  2. 2. Does it bother you that you will die once ?

    • yes
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    • no
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    • other answer ? explain
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  3. 3. For some people, talking about death is "taboo". and you ?

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    • no
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    • other answer ? explain
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  4. 4. Do you like to talk with old people ?

    • no, most are senile
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    • sometimes, but they are talking too much
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    • Why not ? specially with GA members
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Going back to Neph’s blog about death (24.01.2011), I see now that her point of view concerned more the feelings of the accompanying people then these of the main person, the dying one, while my blog concern more what I will myself feeling at my last moments. In one phrase : the most important is what happens when you are with someone dying, helping him or her to cross the border between life and death, not what will happen with the body afterwards.

 

The chance I have to have lived till now such a fine life is also that it seems to me that I’m better prepared to what will once happen, and that I already reached the 5th stage of Elisabeth Kübler-Ross in her 1969 book, On Death and Dying : Acceptance

 

From my own experience, everybody is going through these stages, more or less, alone or with<a name="OLE_LINK12"> accompanying people sharing with them their feelings. But the best way to go through it is to think of it in advance, to be prepared to live it and not to fear it.

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I love talking to all kind of people and it fascinates me how people think... Death as a whole doesnt scare me... i mean, i was born i HAVE to die some day right? and i'm really okay with that! I like to live my life at the moment and make the most of what i have, so that i leave with no regrets!

also, if someone does wanna talk abt death, then why not, i mean, its just another inevitable thing of the world.. Like the sun rising. :)

 

lol I hope i made sense!

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As Freddie Mercuru sang, show must go on. I think the song kind of has everything in it about facing death with. I've been listening it a lot as a young gal and lately too. Mercury dying shortly after this song gave it even more important message. I'm so sad Mercury died, but he gave face to so many things: beign gay artist, Aids, masterful vocalist and performer etc.

 

It's the legacy we leave behind that counts. Our childern, our friends and family. Everyone we hav once touched. Death should not be romanticed or idoliced. It is there always. I hope I'll have the courage to face it when time comes.

 

I don't like losing loved ones, but in a way we should see death as a gift also. If everyone lived forever, would nothing really matter? Embrace life fully everyday and love the ones around you with all you've got. That's my goal.

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Thanks Man :worship:

What I wrote here is only a small part of my blog. I suppose it was too big, so it didnt work at first (?)

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Yes it is a dangerous world, but then it always has been. It may seem that it is more dangerous than ever, with serious crime, terrorism etc but is it? Is it really?

 

In the past we have had to face

 

disease... cholera, typhoid, flu epidemics... plague

 

war - from the world wars, to civil wars and invasions and that doesn't include raping and pillaging.

 

Terrorism... see above for raping and pillaging... sometimes from invaders, sometimes from occupiers and sometimes just for the hell of it; also the witch hunts and inquisition.

 

We had times when the ordinary people were little more than slaves and times when whole countries were decimated by disease. It has always been a dangerous world we just have more effective communication and we are more aware of the scope of it.

 

I think humans have a great difficulty in talking about a lot of natural processs... farting, burping, copulating - dying. Personally i don't understand it. People say they dont want to talk about it because they would rather not think about it and i don't understand.Are we not insulting the deceased person by refusing to acknowledge the huge step they have just taken? We dont show any respect for death, they dying or the dead.

 

I am glad that you have found peace with death. it can either be a huge shadow that bends closer and closer as we get older, or it can be a new adventure that, whilst we dont look foward to we don't run away from either.

 

 

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it can be a new adventure that, whilst we dont look foward to we don't run away from either.

I'm sure it is :).

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