Actually I'm surprised what I was wearing didn't "tip anyone off"

 

Given that and your behaviour at the wake, you seem to be subconsciously determined to out yourself before you move on!

 

I sing in the Vancouver Men's Chorus; the boyfriend of one of my fellow chorus members visited rehearsal a few weeks ago and he sings in Houston's gay men's chorus. You could check to see whether they have a performance while you are visiting Houston. If you sing, there are few more enjoyable ways to meet people than joining a chorus. If you go to a show, as you watch ask yourself, "Could I do that?" It's not as hard as you might think, and way fun. If you're interested, google "Houston Men's Chorus," they'll probably have a web-site with concert dates and stuff.

Given that and your behaviour at the wake, you seem to be subconsciously determined to out yourself before you move on!

 

I sing in the Vancouver Men's Chorus; the boyfriend of one of my fellow chorus members visited rehearsal a few weeks ago and he sings in Houston's gay men's chorus. You could check to see whether they have a performance while you are visiting Houston. If you sing, there are few more enjoyable ways to meet people than joining a chorus. If you go to a show, as you watch ask yourself, "Could I do that?" It's not as hard as you might think, and way fun. If you're interested, google "Houston Men's Chorus," they'll probably have a web-site with concert dates and stuff.

 

Hmmm I hadn't thought of that before. LOL guess I'd better watch it.

 

Thanks for the tip, I'll look into the chorus thing to see if I can catch a performance. LOL no one should have to endure my singing though.

Kevin, I am excited for you for your trip to Houston...and hey why not see if you can visit the University too?

 

Its funny that your co worker wants to fix you up with a girl...well, now here is your Out (no pun intended) You may wish to say with your busy schedule, and plans to move away, dating is not on your agenda....(ok, so dating girls isn't on your agenda..but hey, trust your instincts if he is the type to "Out" you and you aren't ready for that, then don't go there.) Or you can just pretend you didn't hear him and then it never happened....

 

Beyond all that, you are doing just fine, IMO, in your coming out process....going at your own pace and when you get to a city like Houston with a pretty decent Gay population, you can make your own way on your own terms at your own comfort level...a win win win all the way around:)

 

Good luck and safe travels and enoy the Holidays with your family...BTW you really do have an AWESOME MOM:) send her our hugs:) and of course Holiday Hugs to you and your family..

 

 

Also, it sounds like your cousin is a Lesbian..so hey, you may have a cool Gay friend in the process to vibe with:)

 

Michael

Hi Kevin

 

I so happy that your making the move. I felt deep in my heart that it was the right thing for you to do. Good luck on all your preparations and I hope you find a great place to live.

 

It's strange I thought I was like "immune" to hangovers. I mean I haven't drank much anyway in the last 4 years, but even when I used to I never got them. I always attributed it to the insane amount of water I always drink. Anyway today I definitely had one.

 

Now it may sound strange me giving drinking advise to you, but I know something about this.

 

"Don't ever mix drinks. Find one type and stick with it. Mixing drinks is a sure fire way to guarantee a hangover." :wacko:

 

Hope to hear from you when you get back.

 

Merry Christmas

and a

Very Happy New Year

 

Eric

LOL no one should have to endure my singing though.

Yeah, I used to think the same way about my voice. But it's amazing what happens when you're around other people who sing well. When it comes right down to it, there are very few people who really can't sing. The hardest part about being in a chorus, for me, isn't the singing anymore, it's all the memorization (the VMC usually sings off-book). If I can do it, believe me, it's a cinch that you can.

 

The reason I suggested you look into Houston's chorus is that it's an excellent way to meet a lot of gay men in a new place without going to a bar or club. There are loads of other benefits, too. And if you are adamant about your singing, every chorus has non-singing members who help put on the shows, do publicity, etc., etc.

 

Like I've said, Kevin, sooner rather than later....

Kevin, I am excited for you for your trip to Houston...and hey why not see if you can visit the University too?

 

Its funny that your co worker wants to fix you up with a girl...well, now here is your Out (no pun intended) You may wish to say with your busy schedule, and plans to move away, dating is not on your agenda....(ok, so dating girls isn't on your agenda..but hey, trust your instincts if he is the type to "Out" you and you aren't ready for that, then don't go there.) Or you can just pretend you didn't hear him and then it never happened....

 

Beyond all that, you are doing just fine, IMO, in your coming out process....going at your own pace and when you get to a city like Houston with a pretty decent Gay population, you can make your own way on your own terms at your own comfort level...a win win win all the way around:)

 

Good luck and safe travels and enoy the Holidays with your family...BTW you really do have an AWESOME MOM:) send her our hugs:) and of course Holiday Hugs to you and your family..

Also, it sounds like your cousin is a Lesbian..so hey, you may have a cool Gay friend in the process to vibe with:)

 

Michael

 

Thanks Michael! Yeah I'm pretty excited too, can't wait.

 

I think I lucked out where the girl was concerned, he gave me her info and visa versa, but she never tried to contact me either, so I'm thinking it was really just him that was interested in getting us together lol. Not that I don't appreciate it.

 

Actually my best friend (and the first person I ever came out to) is a lesbian, and I know quite a few of them. I wish I got to hang out more with my cousin, I do miss her.

 

Anyway take care

 

Kevin

Hi Kevin

 

I so happy that your making the move. I felt deep in my heart that it was the right thing for you to do. Good luck on all your preparations and I hope you find a great place to live.

Now it may sound strange me giving drinking advise to you, but I know something about this.

 

"Don't ever mix drinks. Find one type and stick with it. Mixing drinks is a sure fire way to guarantee a hangover." :wacko:

 

Hope to hear from you when you get back.

 

Merry Christmas

and a

Very Happy New Year

 

Eric

 

Thanks Eric!

 

I think it's the right decision too, and now that I'm moving along with it, I feel much better.

 

Thanks for the tip about not mixing my drinks, I'll try to keep that in mind. It's tough though since it's mostly my desire to try everything that got me in trouble in the first place lol.

 

I hope you have an awesome Christmas and a teriffic New Year too, take care

 

Kevin

LOL no one should have to endure my singing though.

Yeah, I used to think the same way about my voice. But it's amazing what happens when you're around other people who sing well. When it comes right down to it, there are very few people who really can't sing. The hardest part about being in a chorus, for me, isn't the singing anymore, it's all the memorization (the VMC usually sings off-book). If I can do it, believe me, it's a cinch that you can.

 

The reason I suggested you look into Houston's chorus is that it's an excellent way to meet a lot of gay men in a new place without going to a bar or club. There are loads of other benefits, too. And if you are adamant about your singing, every chorus has non-singing members who help put on the shows, do publicity, etc., etc.

 

Like I've said, Kevin, sooner rather than later....

 

Thanks Andronicus!

 

That's really good advice, I'll look into it. Though I really don't think I have such a great voice. Anyway thanks and take care!

 

Kevin