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Featured Story: Memoirs Of A Child Of The Past Century


Renee Stevens

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Being the start of a new week, Monday's are also a good time to take a look at some of the different stories that can be found on Gay Authors. With so many great works, it can be easy to overlook one and Monday's provide an opportunity for us to help make one of them stand out and maybe catch your interest. Today, we're bringing you a review by Percy of Old Bob's story "Memoirs of a Child of the Past Century." Enjoy!


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Reviewer: Percy
Status: In Process

 

Old Bob’s memoir, Memoirs of a Child of the Past Century, is one of the many treasures to be found on GA. Written with humor and grace, the memoir reveals the intersection of one man’s life with the changing political, economic and social landscape of the 20th century. In lieu of a review, I’ve chosen an excerpt from each decade in order to let Old Bob tell his story in his own words. I made selections I thought the audience here would find interesting and which are reflective of a major event or thought movement of that decade. By way of introducing Old Bob, let’s begin with some remarks from the author himself.

 


“Concluding these reflections, when I said earlier that I accept myself as I am, I count also among it my sexual orientation. Having lived almost 60 years with a woman I still love and having been the father of four children is a fact. Having had alongside many homosexual experiences, both in ongoing relationships and in casual encounters with no future, is another fact.”

 

Old Bob was born in Geneva in 1929. Switzerland becomes an island in the middle of a world war as Old Bob enters his teens. Though still a child, he has an active role aiding refugees from the war.

“The trick was to make them to take the train with one or more children from Geneva, who could pass for their children and who were their insurance in case of police control. I was one of those children and I am very proud of it.”

 

On living in a commune in the 1950s and on marriage between those of different religions:

“It was the start time of the hippies (they were called then ‘existentialists’), and such communities were beginning to be fashionable. On our return from Paris in late 1951, we decided Yvette and me to join that community, but each with its own bedroom, at least to save appearances vis-à-vis our families. Marry someone of another religion than his family’s was a taboo at the time for both strict Catholics and for Jews after the Holocaust. In addition, Yvette’s great-uncle was Bishop, so we couldn’t imagine the approval of her family for such a marriage.”

 

On childrearing in the 1960s:

“Yvette and I were brought up strictly and we therefore resented the discipline of our parents. In response, we wanted to give our children the freedom that we missed. We have given guidelines and goals but we were very "broad" if they were not followed or met.”

 

For the decade of the 1970s, he intersperses the descriptions of professional life (fascinating and too involved to include here) with references to his personal life. In talking about the traveling he did with his film distribution company in the ‘70s, he shares:

“During the day my wife went to see movies in numerous cinemas reserved for professionals. For myself, I found two places where many gay men (as well as straights) could swim naked and enjoy good times with some new friends.”

 

And in the next paragraph…

“I later learned that my youngest son, who sometimes accompanied us for his vacation, had his first gay experiences in Locarno (he was 16), I don’t know with whom and where. I still wonder today what we would have said and done if we had been at the same place in the same outfit!”

 

On the advent of office computers in the ‘80s:

“I found in one of the offices a 5150 IBM PC, which nobody knew how to use and that George had just bought to show his clients that he was following the 'office fashion'. In fact, the offices were still working as in 1970, with ‘antediluvian’ typewriters and calculators.

 

So I proposed to fully computerize its business. Very quickly, I set up an internal network with a PC at each workstation Secretaries abandoned their typewriter and worked directly on Word and Excel. Today, it seems obvious, but in 1985, it was a real innovation.”

 

In 1990, his business operations took him to the USSR at what was the very beginning of perestroika, the opening of increased foreign commerce between the Soviet Union and other nations. He shares a highlight of the business trip.

“About vodka, I have a special memory of the Russian breakfast . Start the day with a large glass of vodka and a plate of charcuterie with a mass of pickled cucumbers is an interesting experience!”

 

It’s not just life that brushed the major events of the 20th century. Death touched him in the same way. Bob is the father of four children, two of whom are still living. He lost one son to a heart attack, partially attributed to the man having been a two-pack-a-day smoker. He lost his daughter to AIDS which she contracted during a blood transfusion in the early 1980s. The 1980s and 1990s are two decades well within my own memory and both were marked by public campaigns to raise awareness around AIDS, HIV and the effects of smoking.

 

The memoir is not complete. The last installment ends in 1993. However, in an intervening chapter, Old Bob shares details of his current life. He remains married and devoted to Yvette. There are many grandchildren and great grandchildren. Of his two living children, one is gay and one is straight, and both have established lives with long term partners. Again, to quote Old Bob:

“The last time we were seventeen at dinner. It was necessary to add two extensions to the table, gather all the chairs in the apartment and take three additional chairs from the terrace!”

 

I encourage you to delve into the Memoirs of a Child of the Past Century. The chapters are supported by photos (check out the sweet ride he had in the 1970s!) This is one of the best reads on GA. And Old Bob, I encourage you to keep writing!

Category: Fiction Genres: Creative Non-Fic Tags: Light-hearted, 20th Century, Autobiography Rating: Everyone

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Reading this and from the beginning, I was taken by the raw honesty in Old Bob's memoirs.  He leaves nothing to the imagination.  It's there for you to see and form your own personal opinion.  His journey through life is full of joy, trials and tribulation.  His experiences with his children is happy and sad as it is with all of us and our offspring, but he and his wife have endured so much.  Go read and laugh and cry with Old Bob and his family.  I did.

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Lovely review. Life is, in so many ways, far more interesting than fiction. Thank you for sharing your story, Bob, and to Percy for the review.

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