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Lessons learned



So this week I discovered that I may have jumped into the deep end of the pool without my water wings, now I'm learning quickly to swim without them. I'm sure as Hell not gonna sink!

I decided to jump into writing a story with a strong BDSM theme. Five chapters in I've discovered that I need to rewire my brain and how it can relate to the material. 

I did do a lot of research, and not on porn sites! I have since learned that I still have a lot to learn, which is ok by me.

Part of what makes me want to write is knowing that I have to learn about my characters. When you've got an insistent voice in your head and they're guiding you in a direction you're not familiar with, you have to learn. Learn about the subject matter and sometimes learn technical stuff. 

With Lex's story I had to reasearch some technical issues regarding the tattooing process. With Jarren's story I researched amputations and prosthetics. Now I'm learning so much more about BDSM than I ever thought possible. 

Comments on Ch 4 of 'Raising The Limit' is brought to my attention my lack of knowledge, not of the technical aspect per se, but of the emotional side of things. 

Thankfully the GA community has some amazing members willing to step up and help. I've gotten some great advice and, as well as been steered toward resources that I can avail myself of and am doing. Thank you @MichaelS36 @Mikiesboy for your sage advice and insights, they are truly appreciated. 

I will be taking what I'm learning and hopefully make this new story translate into words what I see in my imagination. 

Lesson learned.

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41 minutes ago, MichaelS36 said:

 You're welcome. I am pleased my comments were taken as they were offered. Let us know if we can help you any further.  And I would just like to say thank you.

Thank you for your open minded attitude and willingness to learn about how we really live. 


I try, and that's the best that all of us can do. Truth be told, knowing what I now know, if I was going on 22 instead of going on 52 and with a different partner it would probably be something I would get into. Not on the level that you and tim have, but in some way. 😊

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24 minutes ago, MacGreg said:

Mike and tim are excellent resources; wise of you to seek their input. 

Thanks, I've gained some great insight from both of them and hopefully it will be reflected the way I want it to be in my writing. 

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