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"Making Risky Comittments"


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So a little while ago I was taking this personality/interests test online. See a couple of weeks ago (before my epiphany in church :boy: ) when I went to see the 2nd counselor she told me I should take this test to better gage my interests, THEN I actually figured out what I wanted to do without taking the test. So not actually having any good reason to take the test I hadn't gotten around to it. But I did pay a fee to sign up for it and I actually kinda like taking tests like that so I figured, "why not?". Anyway I need to go back and talk to them about what I'll need to do to become qualified and find a job in counseling/social work. SOOO I figured I'd might as well take the test so that we could discuss it if they wanted to.

 

Well I'm taking the test and it gets to a section which asks me to evaluate how interested I am in performing various activities. So I'm going along answering, when I come to a very odd activity, "making risky comittments" :blink: Now of course I indicated that I "strongly disliked" making risky comittments, but it made me stop and laugh uproariously for several minutes (which probably sounds like a big deal but it isn't, I'm kinda a laughy sorta person anyway, and I was already giggling my head off as I imagined myself doing the various things the test was enquiring after :lol: ). But it really struck me, who on earth would actually mark, "yes, I strongly like making risky comittments". "Promising to do things there's absolutely every possibility I'll never do, raising people's hopes when, hey it just might not happen, all around being a constant let down to myself and everyone I interact with...Yep, I love to do that!" :blink: I began to wonder what exactly they would suggest I do as a career if this were indeed one of my interests? "ohhh, you like to let people down I see. Well we've got just the job for you! Hmmm they'd probably get me a job making those recording you hear when you call technical support, "you're call is very important to us and please rest assured that we'll be with you momentarily." Yep after waiting an hour and then finding out there's nothing the tech. can do to help most people tend to be pretty dispirited.

 

I imagine I'd run into people occasionally in the supermarket and after a polite "hi", get back, "Hey, aren't you the voice that tells me someone will be right with me to help troubleshoot my beyond repair computer?", "Why yes I am, and I've got more bad news for you: this is the last carton of milk, but don't worry the cows are working diligently even as we speak, and if you stand here for a couple of hours someone may come by to restock the shelves."

 

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In other news I've had/and will have an interesting next couple of days. Yesterday was fun, due to the shuffled schedules at work for Spring break I had to work with Kim. This of course wasn't the "highlight", but actually it was fine, we're at that nice stage where we're politely disinterested in each other and even overly formal to avoid setting the other off. Polite and overly formal? Believe me growing up in preppy private schools I'm fully comfortable in this arena. There was even a nice bit of gossip throw in (another hallmark :boy: ), when Coressa told me privately that Kim was pregnant and attempting to hide it from our employer (for silly, not practical reasons).

 

Anyway it was nice working with Coressa again. We had so much fun we ended up making plans to go eat boiled crawfish (A southern Louisiana tradition and MMMMMmmm) that evening. It was great, we went and picked them up at a local grocery she knew of which served excellent ones. I happened to be the only white guy there and I got the impression people were regarding us as an interracial couple, but I was actually pretty comfortable with that. I immediately thought it was only fair since often minorities are the only ones of their race present. Besides I love being exposed to new cultures etc. And everyone was very nice. Anyway it was alot of fun and afterwards we went to a park near my apartment and I got her "life story" :) . Then I took her back to my place to introduce her to Lucky and Timmy, and shockingly Timmy was actually very gregarious (Lucky's always a doll). The only unfortunate incident occured when I was holding Lucky and Coressa mistakenly turned on the garbage disposal while looking for the light switch :thumbdown: . My chest is a little worse for wear but I'll cope. Anyway in the course of things she expressed an interest in learning to drive a standard, so I took her to the now mostly empty parking lot at work and taught her. She caught on really quickly!

 

So after that I took her home and went and visited Mandi for a bit. We got some ice cream then she showed me how to bake some sort of pumpkin cake rolls. She quite likes to bake and was happy to have the company, I of course have no experence with baking (though I love regular cooking) so I was happy to be exposed to something new (well newish, she's exposed me to baking a couple of other times).

 

So today I slept in and awoke to a phone call from my mom, which contained unfortunate news :( . My grandfather was climbing on something and fell, landing on a rather unyielding block of wood. He's mostly okay, but does have FIVE broken ribs :,( . I'm just such a mess whenever he, my grandmother, or my mom are sick/hurt. :(:( . Anyway it's just really scary, I mean he's almost 85 and.... Well anyway he's the "dad figure" in my life.

 

But on the bright side I'm meeting my mother tomorrow in a city midway between our two homes and we're traveling to see my other grandmother and aunt. It's basically a combined "Easter visit" and "going away visit". I probably won't see either of them again before I move...or for quite awhile afterwards. It may seem odd that my mom wants to go, but she's always been close with her former mother and sister-in-laws. That and it's a good 3 or 4 hour drive so I'll be happy to have the company, not to mention the navigational skills. I've gotten much better of late, but I'm still not sure I could find my grandmother's home completely on my own (well I guess I could but not without a good map and detailed directions).

 

Anyway after the visit we'll be driving back and I'll just stay the night with my mom and grandparents, then spend Easter with them. Of course I'll be very happy to see my grandfather and make sure he's okay, talk to him, sympathise etc. . But on the down side I really do hate to sleep away from home (my own apartment I mean). I never minded sleeping away from home before I moved out, but after I got my own place, filled with all my things in just the places I wanted them, I found that I wasn't eager to have to try to pack all the stuff I require and make do with other accommodations. I'm one of those people who believes you should back two outfits and a couple of pairs of shoes for every day you'll be away. I also have quite a few bath, bedtime, and morning accessories and undoubtedly I'll forget my cucumber bath scrub, or my moisturizing/SPF containing face wash.....yeah yeah I know what you're thinking, but hey I'm gay so it only makes sense right? :boy::P Anyway I guess I'll just "rough it". I'm really not a big queen though, I like sports and outdoorsy stuff, heck I even do some of my own plumbing and other DIY-ing. I just like to come home and clean up nice.

 

Anyway I'll be away until after Easter, so I hope you all have a fantastic time and spend it with the people you love. Take care and I want you all to have a smile on your lips and a song in your hearts. Pleaseeeeeee :D:boy:

 

....seriously you guys better be smiling Darnit!

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My grandfather was climbing on something and fell, landing on a rather unyielding block of wood. He's mostly okay, but does have FIVE broken ribs

 

I hope your grandfather is getting better and better. :2thumbs: And you know what, my maternal grandfather is 92 years old now. He stays in a good health. He looks younger than he is, and I really want to know his secret. he he.... :D

 

I also have quite a few bath, bedtime, and morning accessories and undoubtedly I'll forget my cucumber bath scrub, or my moisturizing/SPF containing face wash.....yeah yeah I know what you're thinking, but hey I'm gay so it only makes sense right? Anyway I guess I'll just "rough it". I'm really not a big queen though

 

Actually, applying the sun/ moisturizing lotion or using the particular facewash is the normal behaviour now. My dermatologist told me that whoever or how old you are, people need to use the suitable treatment for their skin. By the way, applying sun lotion is the best way to protect our skin from ultraviolet. If we don't apply it, we will look older which my dermatologist told me. Moreover, it will increase to get the skin cancer if we don't apply it. Therefore, we need to apply it for our better skin health. B)

 

Colin

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Hey kevin..

hope your grand father gets better.. im always a nervous wreck when ethier my grandfather,grandmother,mom, or dad is sick. i go bizerk! :P i like that word hehe

 

yeah the sun /moisturizing lotion or a facewash is completely normal. i know alot of guys who arent gay that use it. i tell them they are worse then girls :P cuz i do have my collection of cucumber rub and facewash and all this crap to make pimples go away or to tan hehe im such a girl at times :P well hope you enjoy the easter holiday kevin ..

 

<3 coley :D

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Hey Kevin!!

 

Crawfish boils are awesome!! We used to get 30 pounds of live crawfish and have a huge party and cook all but 2. I would take the last 2 and set them free in the little river thing :D They probably died right away, but it still made me feel better :)

 

Hope you have an awesome Easter weekend!!

 

Joey

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Hi Kevin!!!

 

So a little while ago I was taking this personality/interests test online. ... Well I'm taking the test and it gets to a section which asks me to evaluate how interested I am in performing various activities. So I'm going along answering, when I come to a very odd activity, "making risky comittments" Now of course I indicated that I "strongly disliked" making risky comittments, but it made me stop and laugh uproariously for several minutes (which probably sounds like a big deal but it isn't, I'm kinda a laughy sorta person anyway, and I was already giggling my head off as I imagined myself doing the various things the test was enquiring after ).

 

So how soon do you get your test results back? I always love taking those, surprisingly they usually come out somewhat accurate to what you're already thinking. So I hope the results say exactly what you're expecting instead of something like "Politician" or "FBI agent" ;) . Although, after watching "Miss Congeniality" a couple of times really makes me want to rethink this whole science bit and go joing that crowd!!! :lmao: hehehe

 

So I got a good chuckle out of your "it made me stop and laugh uproariously for several minutes (which probably sounds like a big deal but it isn't, I'm kinda a laughy sorta person anyway, and I was already giggling my head off" . That had me smiling!!! I'm the type of person that will giggle at the dumbest thing. :off: Ok, so did you see "Meet Joe Black"?? Well towards the beginning of the movie "Joe Black" gets killed by being hit by several (and I mean several!) vehicles. At one point he's flipping through the air and I'm sitting there with a group of friends...and I'm the only one on the floor laughing at that. ;) Doesn't mean I wanted him to die...it was just the sight of him constantly bouncing!!! 0:) Ok, so sometimes I'm a wee bit awnry :*) .

 

But it really struck me, who on earth would actually mark, "yes, I strongly like making risky comittments". ...Hmmm they'd probably get me a job making those recording you hear when you call technical support, "you're call is very important to us and please rest assured that we'll be with you momentarily."

 

:lol: I HATE those automated voices!!! THEY are sooo annoying! Have you heard the "weather alert" guy...well computer animated guy I suppose...(I really hope NOBODY has that boring of a voice **thinks back to highschool Algebra I class...eyes glazing over** ) for some reason that voice really REALLY annoys me...where am I going with this??? ;) lol no clue. and now I'm typing to myself....hmmm... :wacko:

 

I imagine I'd run into people occasionally in the supermarket and after a polite "hi", get back, "Hey, aren't you the voice that tells me someone will be right with me to help troubleshoot my beyond repair computer?", "Why yes I am, and I've got more bad news for you: this is the last carton of milk, but don't worry the cows are working diligently even as we speak, and if you stand here for a couple of hours someone may come by to restock the shelves."

 

:lmao: heheheheeeee

 

Anyway it was nice working with Coressa again. We had so much fun we ended up making plans to go eat boiled crawfish (A southern Louisiana tradition and MMMMMmmm) that evening. ... ...So after that I took her home and went and visited Mandi for a bit. We got some ice cream then she showed me how to bake some sort of pumpkin cake rolls. She quite likes to bake and was happy to have the company, I of course have no experence with baking (though I love regular cooking) so I was happy to be exposed to something new (well newish, she's exposed me to baking a couple of other times).

 

Good grief!!! It sounds as if you have very fun evenings. :2thumbs: Mine are usually A LOT duller than that! I'm glad you had a great evening. :) So tell me...is a boiled crawfish similar to a boiled lobster then??? I've had a boiled lobster before...well it was at a restaruant so I'm not sure how they cooked it...I'm assuming it was boiled. They only time I've seen a crawfish was in my zoology class during lab...is there much meat on them?? I'm just a naive northern girl.... :sheep: ....so I'm still learning! ;) But it sounds good.

 

So today I slept in and awoke to a phone call from my mom, which contained unfortunate news . My grandfather was climbing on something and fell, landing on a rather unyielding block of wood. He's mostly okay, but does have FIVE broken ribs . I'm just such a mess whenever he, my grandmother, or my mom are sick/hurt. . Anyway it's just really scary, I mean he's almost 85 and.... Well anyway he's the "dad figure" in my life.

 

:o:( Oh! I'm so sorry!!! :hug: Hugs for you, your mom, and your grandparents!!! I'm sure he'll be just fine in a short time...that is very very scary though!!! Oh, I hope he's ok!!! I'm sure he'll be fine.

 

But on the bright side I'm meeting my mother tomorrow in a city midway between our two homes and we're traveling to see my other grandmother and aunt. It's basically a combined "Easter visit" and "going away visit".

 

Drive safely!!! I bet your grandparents will be very happy to see you, especially during a holiday!!! :) That's awsome that your mom is going with you...I hate long drives by myself...if for no other reason than I just get so BORED sitting there by myself for so long. :) I hope you have a great visit with everyone while you're there!

 

But on the down side I really do hate to sleep away from home (my own apartment I mean). I never minded sleeping away from home before I moved out, but after I got my own place, filled with all my things in just the places I wanted them, I found that I wasn't eager to have to try to pack all the stuff I require and make do with other accommodations. I'm one of those people who believes you should back two outfits and a couple of pairs of shoes for every day you'll be away. I also have quite a few bath, bedtime, and morning accessories and undoubtedly I'll forget my cucumber bath scrub, or my moisturizing/SPF containing face wash.....yeah yeah I know what you're thinking, but hey I'm gay so it only makes sense right? Anyway I guess I'll just "rough it". I'm really not a big queen though, I like sports and outdoorsy stuff, heck I even do some of my own plumbing and other DIY-ing. I just like to come home and clean up nice.

 

I know exactly what you mean!!! My parents live about 3 hours away and I really prefer just doing "day visits"...I hate the drive but I hate sleeping away from "my home" even more...my bed is AWSOME!!! The bed in my bedroom at home is different and it's just really weird sleeping there anymore. And since when does having "good personal hygeine" and skin protectants an indicator of one's sexual orientation!!! lol That doesn't prove anything!

 

Anyway I'll be away until after Easter, so I hope you all have a fantastic time and spend it with the people you love. Take care and I want you all to have a smile on your lips and a song in your hearts. Pleaseeeeeee

 

hehehe I have had a smile on my face the entire time I've been writing this!!! (except for the part about your grandpa, then the smile ducked out for a short time)

 

Anyway, I hope you have a great trip, a safe drive, I hope your grandpa is feeling loads better, and finally I wish you and your family a very happy Easter Sunday. Take Care!!!! :hug:

 

- Kaiten

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Hi Kevin

 

But it really struck me, who on earth would actually mark, "yes, I strongly like making risky commitments". ...Hmmm they'd probably get me a job making those recording you hear when you call technical support, "you're call is very important to us and please rest assured that we'll be with you momentarily."

 

I just want to point out that making risky comments doesn't really mean things like promising stuff you can't deliver. How about speaking the truth when people don't really want to hear it, or even worst when they just don't believe it. Pretty risky if you ask me. How about standing up for someone that can't do it for themselves another risky act. This is just a couple of possibilities I'm sure you can think of more. Like defending someone accused of a crime ( innocent till proven guilty) instead of going along with the crowd. Just a thought. I'm sure that all of us make risky statements every day, unless your a member of the flock, in which case you probably don't have any opinions of your own anyway.

 

Making risky statements is never easy, but to quote the Bard, "To thine own self be true."

 

Just some thoughts. 0:) Happy Easter!

 

Eric

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Well, Eric, you beat me to it.

 

I was going to say that my interpretation is that the "risk" in "risky commitments" doesn't refer to the probability of your actually doing the thing committed to, but rather the likely consequences and the risks you're taking by doing it. (The way they worded this question is a lttle weird. It could have been asked a lot more clearly.)

 

As a matter of fact, Kevin, you're in the middle of fulfilling a risky commitment to yourself right now, by moving to a new city and starting a new life there. You're putting yourself on the line and taking action when you have no guarantees as to how it's going to turn out. So I'd say your answer to that question would be a definite "yes." :2thumbs:

 

 

Kitty

 

Edited to add: well, I was thinking about this some more and wanted to add, counseling and therapy are all about "risky commitment", on the part of both the counselor and the client. This is one reason I thought counseling might be a good career choice for you. You seem to have good insights, and you're not afraid to state them, plus I see you being very committed to your clients' process (and your own.)

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Hey Colin!

 

I hope your grandfather is getting better and better. :2thumbs: And you know what, my maternal grandfather is 92 years old now. He stays in a good health. He looks younger than he is, and I really want to know his secret. he he.... :D

Thanks for the good wishes :) , I guess he's doing better :/ . He says he's in quite a bit of pain and it hurts if moves suddenly, or has to laugh or cough. But he is getting around really well and not really letting it stop him very much....which I guess may not be a good thing, but at least his spirits are high :)

 

That's awesome about your grandfather! LOL if he ever tells anyone his secret he could make a fortune!

 

Actually, applying the sun/ moisturizing lotion or using the particular facewash is the normal behaviour now. My dermatologist told me that whoever or how old you are, people need to use the suitable treatment for their skin. By the way, applying sun lotion is the best way to protect our skin from ultraviolet. If we don't apply it, we will look older which my dermatologist told me. Moreover, it will increase to get the skin cancer if we don't apply it. Therefore, we need to apply it for our better skin health. B)

Thanks, that's why I do it :) . Of course I like the way it feels, but I'm definitely interested in protecting myself from aging and skin cancer ;)

 

Anyway I hope you have a really awesome day and take care!

 

Kevin

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Hey Coley, :)

 

Hey kevin..

hope your grand father gets better.. im always a nervous wreck when ethier my grandfather,grandmother,mom, or dad is sick. i go bizerk! :P i like that word hehe

Thanks :) , as I said for the most part I think he's doing better. Hehe, I like that word too! I'm also quite fond of "transcontinental", lol it just seems to roll right off the tongue.

 

yeah the sun /moisturizing lotion or a facewash is completely normal. i know alot of guys who arent gay that use it. i tell them they are worse then girls :P cuz i do have my collection of cucumber rub and facewash and all this crap to make pimples go away or to tan hehe im such a girl at times :P well hope you enjoy the easter holiday kevin ..

Thanks :) , it's definitely fun to pamper yourself sometimes! And I think you're right; it is getting more and more prevalent among guys (even straight ones :P )

 

Anyway take care and have a great day!

 

Kevin

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Hey Joey! :)

 

Hey Kevin!!

 

Crawfish boils are awesome!! We used to get 30 pounds of live crawfish and have a huge party and cook all but 2. I would take the last 2 and set them free in the little river thing :D They probably died right away, but it still made me feel better :)

 

Hope you have an awesome Easter weekend!!

 

Joey

awww! That is so sweet! I bet some of them survived, and even the ones that didn't probably suffered a better fate than being boiled alive ;) . So go you :2thumbs: .....(hmm now I'm starting to feel bad about it...but I always try to tell myself they have primitive nervous systems and that it doesn't hurt as much somehow :blink: )

 

Anyway take care and have an awesome day :D

 

Kevin

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Hey Kaiten! :D

 

Hi Kevin!!!

So how soon do you get your test results back? I always love taking those, surprisingly they usually come out somewhat accurate to what you're already thinking. So I hope the results say exactly what you're expecting instead of something like "Politician" or "FBI agent" ;) . Although, after watching "Miss Congeniality" a couple of times really makes me want to rethink this whole science bit and go joing that crowd!!! :lmao: hehehe

I'm not sure when I'll find out to be honest. The office was closed for the holidays, so tomorrow I'm going to go in and find out. Thanks for reminding me by the way ;) ! LOL I'd already made a "mental" note, but clearly I'm going to need a physical one too :P .

 

Have you seen the second Miss Congeniality? I've been wanting to but haven't.

 

Ok, so did you see "Meet Joe Black"?? Well towards the beginning of the movie "Joe Black" gets killed by being hit by several (and I mean several!) vehicles. At one point he's flipping through the air and I'm sitting there with a group of friends...and I'm the only one on the floor laughing at that. ;) Doesn't mean I wanted him to die...it was just the sight of him constantly bouncing!!! 0:) Ok, so sometimes I'm a wee bit awnry :*) .

LOL! :lol: I hadn't seen that movie, but I'm going to try to watch it now, lolol

 

Good grief!!! It sounds as if you have very fun evenings. :2thumbs: Mine are usually A LOT duller than that! I'm glad you had a great evening. :)

Thanks, LOL they're definitely not all exciting; I'm just less inclined to write about my dull ones! ;)

 

So tell me...is a boiled crawfish similar to a boiled lobster then??? I've had a boiled lobster before...well it was at a restaruant so I'm not sure how they cooked it...I'm assuming it was boiled. They only time I've seen a crawfish was in my zoology class during lab...is there much meat on them?? I'm just a naive northern girl.... :sheep: ....so I'm still learning! ;) But it sounds good.

Hmm no, I wouldn't really say it tasted like a lobster. You eat the same parts (tail and claws), but the texture is much different (crawfish aren't as chewy). I dunno, they're both delicious as far as I'm concerned!

 

 

I know exactly what you mean!!! My parents live about 3 hours away and I really prefer just doing "day visits"...I hate the drive but I hate sleeping away from "my home" even more...my bed is AWSOME!!! The bed in my bedroom at home is different and it's just really weird sleeping there anymore. And since when does having "good personal hygeine" and skin protectants an indicator of one's sexual orientation!!! lol That doesn't prove anything!

Yep, that's how I feel too; I just like my own space. LOL I guess you're right, I just don't like feeling like a stereotype, lol I've always liked to consider myself slightly countercultural in a benevolant sort of way.

hehehe I have had a smile on my face the entire time I've been writing this!!!

Yay! My work here is done :P:boy:

 

Have an awesome day and take care! :D

 

Kevin

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Hi Kevin

 

I just want to point out that making risky comments doesn't really mean things like promising stuff you can't deliver. How about speaking the truth when people don't really want to hear it, or even worst when they just don't believe it. Pretty risky if you ask me. How about standing up for someone that can't do it for themselves another risky act. This is just a couple of possibilities I'm sure you can think of more. Like defending someone accused of a crime ( innocent till proven guilty) instead of going along with the crowd. Just a thought.

 

 

Well, Eric, you beat me to it.

 

I was going to say that my interpretation is that the "risk" in "risky commitments" doesn't refer to the probability of your actually doing the thing committed to, but rather the likely consequences and the risks you're taking by doing it. (The way they worded this question is a lttle weird. It could have been asked a lot more clearly.)

 

As a matter of fact, Kevin, you're in the middle of fulfilling a risky commitment to yourself right now, by moving to a new city and starting a new life there. You're putting yourself on the line and taking action when you have no guarantees as to how it's going to turn out. So I'd say your answer to that question would be a definite "yes." :2thumbs:

 

Thanks Eric and Kitty, you two are right. I guess I did rather miss the point of the question (which I'm sure is why I found it so amusing). Thank you for helping me with it :)

 

 

 

Edited to add: well, I was thinking about this some more and wanted to add, counseling and therapy are all about "risky commitment", on the part of both the counselor and the client. This is one reason I thought counseling might be a good career choice for you. You seem to have good insights, and you're not afraid to state them, plus I see you being very committed to your clients' process (and your own.)

Aww thanks Kitty! I really appreciate it that. *blush* I only hope you're right :)

 

I'm sure that all of us make risky statements every day, unless your a member of the flock, in which case you probably don't have any opinions of your own anyway.

Yes, I completely agree, Eric. I've always prided myself on not just going along with the crowd :sheep:

 

Making risky statements is never easy, but to quote the Bard, "To thine own self be true."

I love that quote too! And I definitely try to live by it. I also quite like the quote, "Don't compromise yourself. You are all you've got."

 

 

Anyway I appreciate the insight you guys, I hope you both have an awesome day and thanks again! :D

 

Kevin

 

P.S. But in my defense some of the questions on that test were pretty funky! Like this one part was asking me to rate how much I'd like to do various hobbies. One of the hobbies was: "Drill soldiers" :blink: ....as a HOBBY? LOL "Yes, that's right, I like to yell at soldiers in my free time!"...hmmm I bet a few people around here would agree with that! :boy:

 

LOL but I'm not usually into soldiers, firefighters, and policemen. Don't get me wrong I appreciate and respect them very much. I just have this perception (which may indeed be false) that they're too "tough" and "serious". I like more lighthearted and playful when it comes to attraction.

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One of the hobbies was: "Drill soldiers" :blink:

 

Depends on how you interpret that.

 

Just don't ask and don't tell.

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