:hugs: Joe

Ok 'So your mom knows'. You and her embarking on what could be a long journey, hopefully one of acceptance on her part. Think carefully about what you want to talk to your mom about also with the understand that this is all new to her. Be understanding of her POV, but also be strong in your convictions and that what you are is not 'WRONG' or something that can be fixed with a charm.

How did your mom know? Who knows, maybe the smile that's plastered on your face when you talk about Zac.

Good Luck Joey. We're here if you need help.

Vic

This is a tough one.

The fact that you are still living at home and her initial reaction was to "help" you (whether genuine or self-serving) I think means that the door is open for some sort of understanding. And that's really what you need, and more than a lot of people get; still, a hug and a calm talk I think would have been a lot more helpful.

Like Vic said, try to be understanding to her point of view if you can. It's really hard for me to say that because she's the adult and you're not supposed to have to be "the bigger man" here but this is new for her too, and keeping a calm head even if things get strained may save a lot of cleanup and apologies later on. And I think we both know that you're the more mature one, at least in this situation. You know how these situations go sometimes - if she's trying to "heal" you then there might be some knee-jerk reactions, like telling you not to see Zac anymore. Don't panic. Let her blow off whatever steam is bubbling around in there, and fight for your right to love your boy after she's calmed down.

I'm not a parent, I don't have kids, I wasn't raised in a religious home and I'm obviously biased towards being tolerant of homosexuals (duh), so my viewpoint is pretty far to the left of hers. But I really wish parents could put the young ones first in situations like these. Why on earth couldn't her first reaction be to sit down and ASK you what's going on, and hear your side of it before jumping to all sorts of conclusions? Joey, man, we're not your parents, but you're family to me, so whatever you need, you got it. Just say the word.

All the love in the world,

Jeff

Well, I suppose it could be worse. Thankfully she didn't fly off the handle and start shouting at you. It seems as though she tried to resolve the situation, albeit uneffectively. I do not know your mom, but it seems as though there may be some room for you to explain to her your feelings.

Anyway, I hope that everything goes well, and I hope to hear from you soon!

Your friend,

Mike

((Who loves the one liners you put beneath your name))

Hey Joe

I'm hoping the best for you and wanted you to know that you have any support that I can give.

Eric

Hey Joe,

I'm so sorry things are uncomfortable right now. It does sound like your mom isn't too pleased with the situation, but it's a very good sign that she approached it in (from her point of view at least) a warm, loving way. It sounds like she's pretty religious, but not in an agressive, malevolent way. So it may just end up being one of those things that you guys always disagree on. However, the other are right; with time and more information she may begin to move toward acceptance.

If I were you, and this is just purely how I would react, I would be very nice and friendly around her, but not really bring "it" up. Like don't avoid her, but don't shove that aspect in her face either. If she brings it up I'd try to be open to the conversation, pay attention to and listen to what she has to say...but be unyielding in your views. Also I'd stress that you're happy, everything's fine, and there's nothing to fix. Of course that's all just my opinion and you'll have to do what's best for you.

I wish you the best, Joe. We're all here for you, and if you need to talk or anything you know where to find me Take care

Kevin

Hey Joey

It bugs me too when people act as if it's a disease or something that could be 'cured' but I was curious so I looked up that Francis Xavier Seelos guy and found that there's a St. Francis Xavier Church in NYC that's apparently a gay-friendly parish....I don't know if there's a link but hey, maybe she's not completely okay with it yet but wants to try to accept it for your sake? I mean, if she didn't want to deal with it, it could have been a lot worse I'm sure, which I'm thankful for your sake it wasn't. I agree with the other guys to not necessarily push the subject but don't avoid her either. I myself am waiting to tell my mom until I tell people that I'm closer to, like a few friends and one of my teachers, so I'm not completely in your shoes yet, but it's gonna be a close fit soon, lol.

Anyways Joey, good luck and I hope everything goes okay.

Love Ronnie

Hey honey,

Im really sorry about how things turned out today. I can't say that I dont feel a little responsible . But I hope you know that i love you, and want to be with u thru this...I too had to do the parents thing, so even tho all parents are different, im always here for u...but you already know that...u are one of the most amazing ppl ive ever met, and anyone that doesnt see that must be blind

Love,

UR Zacy

Hey honey,

Im really sorry about how things turned out today. I can't say that I dont feel a little responsible . But I hope you know that i love you, and want to be with u thru this...I too had to do the parents thing, so even tho all parents are different, im always here for u...but you already know that...u are one of the most amazing ppl ive ever met, and anyone that doesnt see that must be blind

 

Love,

UR Zacy

Ok Zac, I gotta ask, do you think Joey's nose is cute?

Good luck Joey ... and remember, life is hell, then you grow up and it gets worse

:king: Snow Dog

P.S. No, not a "good" night for me

and remember, life is hell, then you grow up and it gets worse

Bad snowy, you're going to scare all the kids.

Life is like a box of chocolates ...errr, ok no Forrest Gump quotes.

It doesn't ALWAYS get worse

It doesn't ALWAYS get worse

Actually, it does.

But it makes us stronger, and we get better friends, and we learn how to love, and all that stuff makes it okay.

-Dez

Joey...

Love ya,

Vivian

That's a toughie.

I'm sorry. Joe. At least you know your mom doesn't hate you, the sucky part is that it seems she thinks you're ill or something. She'll deal, you'll see.

:hugs:

Lawrence