Men and Women think differently about sex
I supposed I always knew men & women (generally) thought differently about sex, but it wasn't so clear cut to me until last night. I'm still on hiatus in Chicago and last night I met a friend for coffee & chatting at Panera (btw, Panera is like the most bestest place in the whole world! I really really wish they'd have one in my town in California...Asiago Cheese Bagels, Free wifi, cookies to die for ).
So this friend of mine is a former high school classmate. We were having a really good time and then somehow we got onto the topic of sex. She was explaining how her fiance gets frustrated because he always wants sex but that she's not always in the mood. The fiance travels a lot for work, so after a long week away, the first thing he wants is a roll in the hay. She on the other hand, doesn't feel that way.
For example, this past week, he arrived on a thursday night. She had a long day at work, there was a lot of traffic to the airport, his flight was delayed, snow on the ride back from the airport, etc. Basically, a long and draining day. While she missed him and was glad he was back, sex was the last thing on her mind. He on the other hand was excited to see her and wanted sex that night and she said 'are you kidding me, not going to happen' :wacko: . However, the next day, she spent the entire day with me shopping, hanging out, eating chocolate. I also had dinner with the two of them at my favourite Pizza place (Lou Malnati's) and she was so happy that her fiance and I got along so well (this was the first time I'd met him). She said when she got home that night, she was on such an emotional high that she really wanted sex with him that night (and of course he was okay with it).
At first I was like 'huh, spending the day with me made you want to have sex '. But no, we don't feel that way about each other. But she was trying to make me understand that she needs to be in a good, positive state of mind in order to be open to sex. That she needs to feel emotionally good in order for it to happen.
For myself, I could have a terrible day, be mad at my partner, but if he suggested sex, I'd be all for it .
As I said this was a real eye opener for me. Thank goodness I'm gay and don't have to worry about it.
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So after a long travel day, I'm back from Chicago. I had a good time catching up with old friends, seeing family I haven't seen in years, and celebrating my sisters graduation from nursing school.
What was amazing to me was the number of age appropriate good looking guys in the Chicagoland aread versus where I live now. I probably could have gotten whiplash with all the looking I was doing.
If I could get over the cold & traffic, I may have to move back there.
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