Ideal mates?

[West Coast Dude]

Hi all,

I thought I'd post this as a topic...Hopefully people will respond!

 

I am curious to hear what GA Members look for in the one.

 

Are they funny? Are they moody? Are they shy?

 

Do they make you dinner when you come home from work? Do they buy you nice things?

 

What would you do together? Would you attend NFL games together? Or would you travel the world?

 

Hope to read interesting responses!

[thephoenix]

The absolute most important thing is trust and integrity. Lack of any is an instant disqualification.

 

I'm probably looking for someone more outgoing than I am to offset my reserved personality. Since I like traveling, it would also be nice to find someone who have the same interest as I do so we can travel the world together.

 

I have never even been on a date so I really don't know much beyond that... :wacko:

[West Coast Dude]

The absolute most important thing is trust and integrity. Lack of any is an instant disqualification.

 

I'm probably looking for someone more outgoing than I am to offset my reserved personality. Since I like traveling, it would also be nice to find someone who have the same interest as I do so we can travel the world together.

 

I have never even been on a date so I really don't know much beyond that... :wacko:

 

Thanks for replying. Well you seem like a genuine person! i'm sure you'll meet the one soon

[Tipdin]

Aside from the usual basics of honest, trustworthy, employed, tall, dark, handsome, and hairy....

 

I have come to realize that I have an insatiable need to touch and be touched, so he would need to be demonstrative.

I also need someone with an excellent sense of humor.

If he loves to theater and dance, so much the better. (Not ballroom, although that would be nice too, but I meant more like in a discotheque.)

He'll need to be a good money manager.

If he doesn't like old houses, there's no way our relationship will work - period.

Family oriented is another big thing - my family is very large and they are always around.

Gotta love dogs - can't be without some of those.

[Cyhort]

As overused as this one might be trust is the most important thing. I've been screwed over so many times by people that I thought loved me and there is no way I could ever be with someone that I didn't completely trust, even as a friend. He'd need to understand me. I don't need a clone who likes everything I do and dislikes everything I dislike but I'd at least need him to understand why I like or don't like something and to know the difference between things I dislike but would be willing to do for him and the things that I'd never do in a million years. And no I'm not talking about sexual stuff there Someone who can put up with my weirdness and moods and know when I mean what I'm saying or when I'm just saying things because I'm angry. He'd have to at least be able to tolerate dogs because there is no way I'm living my life without one. A sense of humor is a must plus the ability to get my sense of humor and understand that "f**k off, prick" can totally be a term of endearment. Taller than me, but not freakishly tall. I like being held not mauled by Godzilla. Curly brown hair, hazel eyes, squeezable ass, minimal body hair, amazing smile.

 

I know, that kinda narrows it down but lucky for me I already have all that

[West Coast Dude]

As overused as this one might be trust is the most important thing. I've been screwed over so many times by people that I thought loved me and there is no way I could ever be with someone that I didn't completely trust, even as a friend. He'd need to understand me. I don't need a clone who likes everything I do and dislikes everything I dislike but I'd at least need him to understand why I like or don't like something and to know the difference between things I dislike but would be willing to do for him and the things that I'd never do in a million years. And no I'm not talking about sexual stuff there Someone who can put up with my weirdness and moods and know when I mean what I'm saying or when I'm just saying things because I'm angry. He'd have to at least be able to tolerate dogs because there is no way I'm living my life without one. A sense of humor is a must plus the ability to get my sense of humor and understand that "f**k off, prick" can totally be a term of endearment. Taller than me, but not freakishly tall. I like being held not mauled by Godzilla. Curly brown hair, hazel eyes, squeezable ass, minimal body hair, amazing smile.

 

I know, that kinda narrows it down but lucky for me I already have all that

 

This post touched my heart! Thanks for responding! How long have you and your man been together?

[Cyhort]

This post touched my heart! Thanks for responding! How long have you and your man been together?

 

Three years, 5 months and 8 days, lol.

[West Coast Dude]

Three years, 5 months and 8 days, lol.

 

Aww that's great! How did you two meet?

[JamesSavik]

I'm entirely too evil to be anybody's Mr. Right.

 

I'm more a Mr. Right Now kind of guy.

 

Sure. It's a dirty job but somebody has to do it.

[Marzipan]

Someone who understands and maybe shares my bizarre interests and addictions

 

Someone I can talk about everything and won't have to tone myself down.

 

Someone I can look upto, that is really important!

 

I'd love to do everything with my ideal mate, And I'd love to pamper and spoil the person I'm with. And really want to get the same treatment in return.

 

 

 

 

[Nephylim]

top of the list has to be someone who will accept me exactly as i am. I don't want anyone to try to change me. If I find someone like that then tolerant, crazy, humourous, daring and dangerous kind of comes with the territory. I need someone who likes to touch and be touched, who doesn't mind being kinky but who puts loving tenderness first. I want someone who's strong and brave and funny and wise and joyful

 

Maybe I should have stopped after the first line. That would have been enough to remind me thatI want someone who doesn't exist.

[Marzipan]

top of the list has to be someone who will accept me exactly as i am. I don't want anyone to try to change me. If I find someone like that then tolerant, crazy, humourous, daring and dangerous kind of comes with the territory. I need someone who likes to touch and be touched, who doesn't mind being kinky but who puts loving tenderness first. I want someone who's strong and brave and funny and wise and joyful

 

Maybe I should have stopped after the first line. That would have been enough to remind me thatI want someone who doesn't exist.

 

 

Neph, when you find that, ask if he/she has a twin!

[hh5]

My economics teacher said location is the key ... ie: if you want to marry rich ... you need to hang out nearer to where the fish are there for the catch.

 

So far ... I've learn at least many ways ... there are friends aren't friends ... or potential BF are really sharks or wolves wearing sheep skins.

[Cyhort]

Aww that's great! How did you two meet?

 

We met online on a pro wresting message board actually. After talking for about 5 months I managed to get out to see him and we met in person at his college. I stayed there for about a week and a half and now I go visit him every other month.

[Nephylim]

We met online on a pro wresting message board actually. After talking for about 5 months I managed to get out to see him and we met in person at his college. I stayed there for about a week and a half and now I go visit him every other month.

 

 

That is so sweet.

[Docile]

The most important things I look for in a partner are a sharp mind and a quick wit. If someone is both clever enough to keep up with me and their eyes don't glaze over when I talk about my views on the functionality of recessive alleles in heterozygous genes, I can look over most other shortcomings.

 

I also look for my partner to be ambitious. I could care less about how much money they make, or are going to make, I just prefer to be with someone similar to myself in that they are constantly struggling to better themselves in order to reach their goals.

 

I'm anti-consumerist, so I could care less about pretty knick knacks, but I do appreciate a partner who's willing to take the time to use their talents to make something original. I had one boyfriend that would write me erotic poetry, and that was...certainly appreciated

 

Being in good enough shape to keep up with me when running or swimming wouldn't hurt their chances either.

[Andrew Q Gordon]

I could go with sappy and describe Mike, but truth be told when I met him - 16 years ago this week, I would not have said he was my 'ideal mate.' He didn't live in the same city as me, he didn't like baseball or soccer, didn't like sci-fi, was too preppy, was more artsy and less sports bar than me. In short he was not half the things I looked for in my ideal mate.

 

But he was cute, so that got us talking. And he was fun to be around, [let you figure out what all that means], so that kept us talking, and he is sweet, smart, funny, caring, has a good heart, treats me with respect, is patient and overall just is a wonderful person, and that has kept us talking ever since. Over time we have learned to share some of the things the other liked, he now enjoys going to baseball games, he took me to a DC United v A.C. Milan friendly match for my birthday, I go antique shopping with him, or try to have something intelligent to say when we are discussing things for the house. He still isn't a romantic, but I have enough of that for both of us.

 

So to steal a famous line from Supreme Court Justice Potter Stewart who In 1964, tried to explain "hard-core" pornography, or what is obscene, by saying, "I shall not today attempt further to define the kinds of material I understand to be embraced . . . ut I know it when I see it . . " I couldn't tell you what my ideal mate would have, but I knew it when I saw it.

 

Andy

[West Coast Dude]

I could go with sappy and describe Mike, but truth be told when I met him - 16 years ago this week, I would not have said he was my 'ideal mate.' He didn't live in the same city as me, he didn't like baseball or soccer, didn't like sci-fi, was too preppy, was more artsy and less sports bar than me. In short he was not half the things I looked for in my ideal mate.

 

But he was cute, so that got us talking. And he was fun to be around, [let you figure out what all that means], so that kept us talking, and he is sweet, smart, funny, caring, has a good heart, treats me with respect, is patient and overall just is a wonderful person, and that has kept us talking ever since. Over time we have learned to share some of the things the other liked, he now enjoys going to baseball games, he took me to a DC United v A.C. Milan friendly match for my birthday, I go antique shopping with him, or try to have something intelligent to say when we are discussing things for the house. He still isn't a romantic, but I have enough of that for both of us.

 

So to steal a famous line from Supreme Court Justice Potter Stewart who In 1964, tried to explain "hard-core" pornography, or what is obscene, by saying, "I shall not today attempt further to define the kinds of material I understand to be embraced . . . ut I know it when I see it . . " I couldn't tell you what my ideal mate would have, but I knew it when I saw it.

 

Andy

 

That was heart warming Andy. Thanks for posting. Your final point, sometimes you just know. I think that's true. And I think one thing to add is your partner should make you be a better person. I really feel that's important. They bring out all the good things in you. Happy Anniversary

[Y_B]

Qualities I look for change with time and changed dramatically after I started dating my guy.

 

I don't know about other people but I think that beyond what's the right kinda qualities we look for, we look for the right balance of all qualities. There are universal qualities everybody look for and avoid, and it turns out that almost everybody has a bit of every quality. So what makes a person different from another is the right kinda proportions and no one is good at everything. Since there's no only 1 combination I like, I can't ever describe my ideal mate, especially when my taste changes like I said above.

[Bumblebee]

I dunno what I would look for in my ideal women, but I would have to trust her with every detail of my life, and that she could see past all my bs and treat me good, and that she would let me be all romantic and let me show her how much I love her whenever.

Just understanding everything about me, and looking past the bs is almost as important as trusting her.

Having a good job would be good as well... so we wouldn't have money problems when I really want that horse

 

Even if she was the complete opposite of me, and didn't really agree with some of my views.... I could probably fall for the her

 

 

[Tipdin]

Even if she was the complete opposite of me, and didn't really agree with some of my views.... I could probably fall for the her

 

It's good that you are aware of this. My own partner does not fit my list of requirements, and yet we've been 'officially' together for nearly 20 years. We've known each other for over 30 years.

 

At times he is my sail, at other times he is my anchor. But he is always my friend and someone to whom I can look for inspiration.

 

Yes, I could make a very long list of his faults; however, my life is immeasurably better because of him. ( And can you imagine? The twit claims that I'm not perfect either..! )

[Docile]

um, I accidentally replied instead of editing my post. If someone could remove this or PM me telling me how to myself that would be appreciated : P

[sucre]

I don't really have any particular kind of girl in mind, but what I always look for is maturity. I have had so many bad run-ins with others before, that I need to be able to effectively communicate with her. I don't need her to be witty, or quick, but just a deep thinker in general. And... I'd like it if she would understand me, and if I could understand her. I would also like her to be in touch with her emotions, but still practical. I don't need her to be all that romantic or anything, but just... nice.

[West Coast Dude]

I don't really have any particular kind of girl in mind, but what I always look for is maturity. I have had so many bad run-ins with others before, that I need to be able to effectively communicate with her. I don't need her to be witty, or quick, but just a deep thinker in general. And... I'd like it if she would understand me, and if I could understand her. I would also like her to be in touch with her emotions, but still practical. I don't need her to be all that romantic or anything, but just... nice.

 

Well said about communication! That's an important aspect of any relationship!

[John Galaor]

Hi all,

I thought I'd post this as a topic...Hopefully people will respond!

 

I am curious to hear what GA Members look for in the one.

 

Are they funny? Are they moody? Are they shy?

 

Do they make you dinner when you come home from work? Do they buy you nice things?

 

What would you do together? Would you attend NFL games together? Or would you travel the world?

 

Hope to read interesting responses!

 

well, if you think you are weird, I am a Martian. An alien from outer space or something. I am moved first by lust. Then, as the question of living with someone, never was by my mind. Perhaps I am too... I do not believe in a stable relationship. And never tried any. I believe it could easily degenerate in abusive behavior. As for companionship... I am not sure this even could work.

 

Then only bond between two males, I do not know about females, is lust, while is high or in the point of boiling up.

 

I remember of a time when I was in something similar to a relationship. I was in prison them, for nearly a year. We were like 40 people sleeping in a ward during nights, and resting sitting on the floor, when we were not on the yard, walking around.

The first relationship I witnessed was that of an old inmate, who sort of married to a young boy, that could be as old as 18, at most.

The boy looked very young and had a very cute face. Then, someone pointed them to me and said, "they are married". I was a little shocked, for I am talking of a time... like fifty years ago. I was a young boy then. Well, this couple as afar as I know was stable. The boy was like a girl. I mean he looked girlish. He had thick lips, that is a fetish for me. I love think lips. Well, the man looked like a thug, and he had a reputation as being a nasty character to be feared.

One day as I walked up and down in the ward, I saw the head of the thug was laying on the thighs of the boy. It seemed that... I saw something weird and I turned back over my steps. The peculiar thing saw was... the thug was s***king on the d**k of the boy. It looked like the boy had a member of good size. It was not real big, but a lot bigger than mine anyway.

 

Well, this was not the case I was going to tell. But it was a stable relationship.

My case started as... well, after my first week of inactivity in the ward... I was full of lust. And the place was full of males. I had not any sissy manners, but I did not want to be called a fagot or something. I was scared with this prospect.

During the nights, we spread out our mats for sleeping. Then, one of the night I was specially horny, I started to jerk off the boy next to my bed. He was sleeping and I had real big and hard member in my hand. I was very excited jerking it up.

Then, then boy awoke as he was going to have an orgasm. Perhaps he was dreaming of being f**king some chick. As he awoke, he felt like stunned. He was in prison, and his d**k had the hand of someone jerking it up. He was about to start making a fuss shouting "here a fagot" or something. But he reacted in time and shut up. Perhaps he feared his reputation could be tarnished if people new that a gay was jerking his dick. He would be the dartboard of jokes for the rest of his time in prison.

 

During the day he told to another mate of his case of me jerking him while he was sleeping. I do not know what the talked. But in the evening, a guy who had the bed in the site in front of me, arranged with the boy next to him, to change his bed site for mine.

Then, the new guy asked me in a whisper, "you like c**k, don't you?" I said, yeah. Then he commented, "it's all right. Any time you need it, you can get mine." Ok, was my reply.

Then, after the light was switched off, my hand reached for his c***k and I started to play with it for a while. Then, wehn he was horny, he said to turn on. I did and he fu***d my ass. We had been in this relationship for ten or twelve months. A very stable relationship. But this arrangement was kept a secret. We were not friends, neither we have similar tastes. We never walked together or chatted. So we were living as if nothing was happening between us. I suppose he was a petty thug, and it was not a badge of honor to be known as having a relationship with a gay. It is not a question of brag about this arrangement.

Of course, the relation was not perfect. I had to bear my own lust during several days. For I got the idea that his lust was not as great as mine. And I feared he would be tired of my demands. Other aspect of the unbalance was that I would love he would had played with my d**k and even let me have his ass. But as any self respecting thug, I assumed that he would not accept any of this fantasies of my mind. I assumed that he saw him as being a top. But I have the theory that he was not. He was rather tame, and short. He had not a strong brave character. I am sure, that a big man with a strong character would had used him as a bottom.

Then the trouble in a relationship touches many crucial points. Not only a question of character. Not only a question of tastes.

But also, it is a question of lust. When the lust is unbalanced in a couple the relation is heading to the reefs. I was not really a 100% bottom. It depended on some cycles. But mostly, lust was my commander. And that put me in dire straits a few times.

John Galaor