PrivateTim

The team wasn't corrupt, one player was accused to improper conduct and one assistant coach. The NCAA's case against the assisant coach seems to be going south as documents are showing improper conduct by the NCAA are coming out as part of the coach's lawsuit against them. An LA Superior Court judge just ripped the NCAA for their behavior, more fireworks are almost guaranteed. Tony won't be a problem, Brad is getting him whacked in special two-fer-one deal with the skating coach

The phone is for you, Wharton is calling and wants to speak to you The only thing wrong with Scripps is that it is next to Black's Beach and you can't surf with your clothes on there. "Party" is relative, it isn't a party school in the same sense that San Diego State is because you can't afford to party too hard at a quarter school. UCSB is one of the highest rated public universities in the country (#10 last I heard). Marine Science is actually pretty big at UCSB on the graduate level and getting bigger with the Marine Science Institute. It also was not always so laid back. It had major riots during the Vietnam war in Isla Vista, the BofA was burned down, the faculty club was bombed, killing one man and a student was shot and killed in the unrest.

I've enjoyed all the books, Paternity is a fave, but so was the original CAP story. I thought it was exceptionally well written for someone who didn't live through those times. UCSB would be a natural for Will since the school has its own surf break, but maybe not until graduate school for the Marine Science Institute. USC would be a good undergrad school since Will would be entering just as USC started winning national championships and USC has a great undergrad marine sciences program with remote facilities in Newport and Santa Catalina.

As a follow on to my review. I feel sad that I think Paternity is winding down. We have been with Paternity for 14 months now and as completely weird as this sounds, I think of the CAP cast as friends, kind of like Facebook friends, people I don't see anymore because we live in different places, but I keep up with their lives online so we still have that friendship connection. I also have really enjoyed Will. He has been a good surrogate for the void created by Doma Luka's extended hiatus. I actually care about Will, Ryan, Alistair, Wade, Matt and the still mysterious Noah (not Tony, kill off that bitch!). I hope if Paternity does end soon that CAP picks up again before Sept. 11, 2001. It is the single most important day in U.S. history since Dec. 7, 1941 and probably one of the top five most important dates in U.S. history. It would be interesting to see JP's reaction given his views on Vietnam and what effect it has on the younger generation.

Not wanting to rehash too much of an old chapter since we have moved on to a new chapter, but TX must indeed be very different from CA & CO because an organization that ignores, covers or deflects on child molestation is at huge peril. Even if the organization doesn't really care, they have to appear to care, make changes that shows they care and they distance themselves from the accused, sometimes too quickly as sometimes the allegations are false as they were in a famous USFSA case against an Olympic coach. My experience is with USOC Group A members only, I can't speak about other national organizations like the Boy Scouts, Little League Baseball, etc. The only USOC organization that has been a problem in not reacting well or quickly enough has been USA Gymnastics, and I don't mind mentioning them by name since their cases are well known and have been splashed all over the news. To be clear, many of the organizations I am involved with that were part of what got me involved at the national level have had abuse cases, any organization is going to, it is inevitable; the difference is in how the organization reacts and what steps it takes in prevention and the face the organization puts on it. Everyone, me included obviously, sees things through the lens of their experience so when I read "Organizations such as the USFSA will always circle the wagons and move to protect themselves and the adults within the organization" it was so far outside my experience that I over-reacted by invalidating whatever your personal experience was and for that I apologize. The people at USFSA are realists, some are idealists, but most have a firm grasp on reality. Everyone has always known that men's figure skating was a bastion for gay men, but it was about keeping the sexuality under wraps because of valid fears that it would hurt the sports popularity and maybe keep some parents from letting their boys get involved in the sport. It may not be a morally correct position, but it was realistic. Point being, that USFSA will take steps that protect the organization, they really don't give a rip about individuals, including famous coaches. If presented with photograhpic evidence of the abuse the organization would jettison the abuser like yesterday's fish stew, not because it is the right thing, but because it would be the best thing for the organization. The better example of gay skater who faced discrimination is Rudy Galindo rather than Johnny Weir. Galindo was in that era when judges would punish the openly gay skater in judging. The only reason Galindo won the US Championship (which he deserved) was he was such the obvious winner and it was in front of his hometown fans in San Jose. The people would have torn down the arena had Galindo not gotten the marks he deserved. **personal experience allert** The only guys I know of who were chaste in high school were the ones too shy not to be. Even the guys in my high school church youth group were horny SOBs in their hearts, some managed to control their behavior, only to find out in college, they were one of the few in the youth group who actually did control their behavior, the rest were able to justify getting hand jobs and blow jobs as "not really sex". Even getting naked rubbing Homer all over your naked GFs privates was okay as long as their was no penetration. I feel like most guys, especially in todays Internet world, hit their peak of sluttiness as soon as the boys drop and maintain the sluttiness ad infinitum. Even many of my friends in their 30's are complete man whores with their grindr and jack'd apps. They will be out with Matt and I enjoing a casual dinner and they text through the whole dinner setting up their plans for the night as soon as the desert plates are removed. I think there are many reasons JJ's coach went there, but I don't think it was lack of attention from older males. All JJ has in his life are older males.

Let me show you my sad face, Everyone else is stoked about a pretty happy feel good chapter, but to me it feels like a wind down chapter for Paternity. After 14 months Paternity might end and I just don't really want it to. I like Will and Wade as narrators and can't imagine who will narrate the next story or when it might start. Don't do it Mark! Don't end Paternity! Paternity Now and Forever!

At the rate we are progressing I will die from rising seas due to global warming before the CAP gets to 2012.

So you are wrong on pretty much everything in there. I deal with two organizations that deal a lot with children and each has in place policies and safeguards when it comes to the adults who have interactions with children. Both the organizations run background checks on anyone involved in the organizations. Every Olympic NGB I know of has similar policies. Involving the police and USFSA would not involve the names of those involved being publicly revealed, CA has shield laws for minors and shield laws for victims of sexual abuse. There would certainly not be any blowback from USFSA towards the victims. They might have some blind spots when it comes to trying to keep their skaters images clean, but they would bend over backwards, forward and sideways to support the victims because to do anything else in 2000 would have been suicidal for an organization. Also bear in mind that we are only about 14 months out from the Salt Lake City Winter Olympics and that USFSA couldn't do anything that reflect negatively on their organization (like blaming 14 year old boys for getting molested by a USFSA coach) or they risked having Mitt Romney pull them as the sponsor of the figure skating events. Both of the organizations I am involved with have had their share of sexual abusers in the ranks and not once has either ever "circled the wagons". If anything, they react too quickly the other way when allegations surface, the accused is quickly removed and restoration is difficult even if the allegations are proved false. ****** As I said in my review, this places JP in a bad place because in CA he is a "mandated reporter" and it leaves not only the current skaters under this coach who have been molested in a bad place, but potentially skaters in the past and any other boys he has come into contact with, like friends of his kids. If his actions are not revealed a lot of kids who could have come forward and maybe gotten help, won't and a lot of other parents who don't understand why their kids are acting up may be coming down hard on these kids. And what if those one of those kids kills themselves because they didn't know how to deal with it? I get it is cooler and more dramatic to whack the guy, but that doesn't make it the right thing. Just the easier thing and certainly easier to write.

I admit I don't like the idea of them "handling things themselves". It puts JP in a bad place because in CA he is a "mandated reporter" and it leaves not only the current skaters under this coach who have been molested in a bad place, but potentially skaters in the past and any other boys he has come into contact with, like friends of his kids. If his actions are not revealed a lot of kids who could have come forward and maybe gotten help, won't and a lot of other parents who don't understand why their kids are acting up may be coming down hard on these kids. And what if those one of those kids kills themselves because they didn't know how to deal with it? In 2000 no way would USFSA be blaming kids who got molested by a USFSA coach; maybe in 1970, but by 2000 most Group A USOC NGB's would have had policies in place to cover how to handle allegations and programs for prevention.

C0*k teasing effin bitch!

Wow a kid in the drama department who's done musicals announces he is gay! Who ever would have thought that!

Then I am not sure why you are reading the CAP series since inter-generational sex seems to be a staple including this book with Brad & Wade and Will with his succession of over-aged lovers over the last two stories. Going to the police and USAFS would be the right thing to do. It doesn't mean that the case has to be high profile, especially when there is photographic evidence. Just because some people got whacked in previous books doesn't mean Brad solves every issue with a hitman.

Actually it doesn't explain JJ's attitude "somewhat", it fits all the classic signs of molestation; dropping grades, a personality change, mood swings, clinging to an authority figure (be it a parent, coach, minister, etc), The files would copy to Will's computer (the original one) the way they were on the memory card of the digital cam and they were far in advance of memory sticks that came later for computers. Jeff when he uploaded the files would have assumed any permissions to load the hidden file were system files and until the new computer asked for permission Will wouldn't have noticed them since he had his hidden files hidden.

Pffft, ya call that drama? I am glad Robbie came back. That is the start of his realization where he is and where reality lies. Of course in hindsight JJ's symptoms are classic; wild mood swings, a change in personality, falling grades and so on.

Oh more research than I ever wanted or ever dreamed possible. I've never had to hire an expert witness to dispute gravity or argue against Avogadro's law. I'll stick with "unpopular positions in psychology have a hard, if not impossible, time getting published".

Chemistry is a science, a real science. So is biology, so is physics. Psychology likes to cloak itself in the respectability of "science" and pretend that they are finding "objective" truth, but there is no agreement on many, many subject. There are no laws of motion or thermodynamics in psychology. Peer review is just another word for echo chamber or peer pressure. Those who attempt to stray off the reservation are swiftly beaten into submission. In controlling who gets to peer review a study the publisher controls the results. In real sciences experiments are replicable without having to rely on interpretation. As to Brad, Wade, Matt, Will et al screwing whom they want, it is their business and I don't look for unconcious motivation, attraction is based on a great many things.

As Sheldon Cooper would tell you, psychology isn't a science. Without being flippant, I think a lot of researchers find the answers they are looking for.

Yes, it would do him a world of good. He certainly would last a week. I had a cousin who was headed to a life in the CA penal system if he contined on the path he was on (escalating troubles). Instead he went away to a military school, straightened out, got a college baseball scholarship and is now a police officer and solid citizen. Thank you Cbad.

As much as I like Tom Brady, Bill Belichik makes it hard to root for NE.

I think there is a wide gulf between a well placed swat on a child's bottom when they are four years old and acting up and "smacking around" or having "the living shit beat out" of a child. Swats from the PE teacher in middle school sure served to straighten out a lot of miscreants. A parent or teacher acting on impulse or out of immediate anger and backhanding, slapping around etc is wrong, not sure that the well thought out spanking or paddle swat did anything to increase violence from those kids. We seem to have a lot of kids who were never spanked, paddled or backhanded being violent.

I think JJ needs more focus on him from his parents and less on what he does, be it school or skating. I think the permissiveness isn't as much a philosophy as it is laziness. It was the same issue with Will. It was too easy to let others do the heavy lifting and them to try and come in for the low hanging fruit. As to the review issues, that sounds like a potential ISP problem, maybe a bad handshake on the sites. And are we ever going to hear from or about Pat again? Lastly, I do think Brad & Robbie can survive this and Matt & Wade, but just surviving, is it enough? Has Brad being so good created a dissatisfaction from Wade for Matt? That is one of the big dangers of open relationships. You thought you were eating Hagen Dazs and then you find out you've been eating Safeway's house brand all along. And I know you had 91 or so chapters at editing, there can't be too many left in Paternity since we have already had the babies born, etc so it has me wondering who can narrate next to keep us up with Will & Wade? I really like their dual narration and I can't think who else would interest me at this point? Back to Brad? Maybe, that is one of the few possibilities, maybe Matt, not Gathan... another long lost Hayes, Crampton or Schluter??? I dunno.

I am sooooooooooo disappointed that no one made a grab for the Garrett Diamonds...... when I read the line "“I see you’re wearing the Garrett diamonds,” I said with a grin. They were worth a small fortune.“ The theme from the literally began to play in my head. Interesting development with Wade. This is one reason I've never believed in open relationships and do believe in the importance of fidelity.

Some times I just need a Sloe Comfortable Screw Against the Wall. But if I am out to dinner at a nicer place I'll usually start with a nice single malt Scotch, Talisker or Lagavulin. Then I have a white wine with dinner usually, and usually a Chardonnay or champagne and I top off the meal with a Baily rocks and a coffee. But I drink beer, Bourbon and Rum, Sake if I am in a Japanese restaurant and Tequila if I am in a Mexican restaurant. My current crush is Flanders red ales, sour ales. Cuvee Des Jacobins Rouge to be specific. The first time I tried it I thought it was a joke, it tasted like sour gummie bears, but after the initial shock, it had an amazing after taste. Now I am hooked. I drink Guinness when I watch soccer unless I am in a German tavern, then I go German, microbrews at the baseball stadium and champagne at the opera.

JJ has just about the right maturity for a 9th grader early in his high school career. He isn't even on the "big" campus yet, that alone will help to mature him. Lysacek didn't start his dietary regimen until the 2002 or 2003 season and then is was a quasi eating disorder.

Sorry to hear of his passing, but I assumed he had passed away years ago since you just never heard from him or saw him.