It's okay really, thanks. Just a case of knowing she's not here. Life was difficult for her. Mum and I have come to the conclusion that she was transgender but had no way of indentfying herself thus. She often said she felt as if there was a hole inside where something was missing. As a result she resorted to drugs and alcohol to ease that loss. Unfortunately, alcholism is present on both sides of our genetic tree, a great-grandfather in the male line on each side. Jaki struggled but managed to live clean for roughly 20 years before she died. Though her death is unexplained there were no drugs or alchol in her bloodstream at the autopsy.