Well I’ve never had a father…so 2 dads? I can’t comprehend that. Never for my own childhood. I don’t think when a man walks out on a woman just 2 weeks after giving birth to twins and has 3 other children at home, that he can ever be called a ‘dad.’ It didn’t matter that he left, I still had other strong male role models in my life for a while at least . My grandfather and my uncle and great-uncle (grandma’s brother) were huge influences on my life and probably one of the reasons my life started to spiral when Grandfather was killed when I was 14.
Sometimes I wonder what effects we will have on our daughter. It was hard and a fight to get her but it was so worth it. It didn’t take long for her to realize that her home life was different from her friends, but having 2 loving and devoted parents, no matter if we are 2 dads, that she was our first priority was what mattered. We have always tried to be as gender neutral with her to let her make up her mind about what she likes and what she wants to do. She loves to get dirty in the garage working on cars but she also likes to dance around the kitchen in a green tutu. Her life is not going to be like everyone else’s but neither was my childhood and I’m relatively normal.
If we screw her up too bad then thank goodness we have good insurance for therapy.