Yes, Mark, please see Shadowgod's comment below your earlier one. I was speaking in terms of the whole broad group, not just a small part of us...I can go find the study on men and women forming emotional bonds if you really want to see it...Rob's research into a closely related topic was only last fall semester. Generally speaking, both gay men and straight women, as groups, will fall into love (form emotional bonds with each other) more quickly than both Straight men and Lesbian women. That's not to say that it applies to each and every one of them, but as a group overall, the incidence of gay men and straight women falling in love quickly is higher within each of those groups than within the groups of Straight men and Lesbian women--it was found that the emotional bonds formed more quickly. On the other side of the study, it was found that Straight men and Lesbian women, as groups overall, formed their relationships around the physical pleasure they were able to get out of it, and the emotional attachment was only secondary. Gee, isn't that interesting?
Weird stuff, huh?
Myk, you are stuck with a label, sorry--it's the same one each of us has: Unique. Take advantage of it.
But, back to the topic at hand, Nick's broken bi-boyfriend...
I have to agree with AFriendlyFace and Tiger in that: 'Drew's issue isn't with you right now, it is with healing over a broken relationship...they can hurt physically. I've been there, done that...and it was a long time ago, now...and it hurt me terribly. Think of going-to-bed-alone-feeling-like-your-heart-will-stop-before-you-fall-asleep kind of painful, and that's only as close as I can get to describing it. Your sexual intimacy with him was probably one of the nicest things you could do for him, but let's face it...nobody wants a sympathy f'. You'll eventually have to talk to him about why you did that with him, just so he won't feel like he was taking advantage of you or you were taking advantage of him. Sex between friends is supposed to be a great thing, and although you were both UTI when you did it, you probably felt he needed it at the time, and he probably wanted it just as badly as you thought he needed it. But that doesn't mean that he wants a relationship with you yet, either.
It's going to take time and all you can do, if you're really his friend, is to just be there when he needs his friend. Over time, he may begin to see that you care for him a great deal, and while that may take time, eventually that little light bulb will go on in his head... Patience, Grasshopper...all will be revealed in the end.