I have to agree with Rad. It all comes down to a matter of choice for each of us. I've already told you about an ex of mine so I won't go into that again. There was another that came along shortly there after. A former neighbor of mine moved back into the neighborhood with is his dad. He was 15 at the time. Over the next two years, we got to know each other on a big brother type relationship. He felt more comfortable talking to me than he did his dad. Eventually, he and his dad moved back to Atlanta. I later found out that one his friends that I had met was gay.
After he moved, he started writing to me and at one point, I came out to him. He replied wanting to know if I would get gay with him sometime. Later on, I got a letter from him want to see me again. He as having problems with school and was getting close to going in the army, which he wound up not doing. Over the years, we kept up some contact. Eventually he disappeared and it took 13 years to find him again.
I found out he's living in Texas, the Dallas/Fort Worth area. I found out from him, that he'd been married 3 times and at one point, he did ask if I would get gay with him again. After a brief period of time, I stopped hearing from him again and he wasn't returning my calls.
Was he Bi? I don't know. I'm thinking now more in the line of being gay and very deep in the closet and since he was living with is mother and her family, he was afraid being found out.
Those two case tend to make me shy away with a relation with someone who's bi.
Jan