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Yeah .. I think you're right molly. Good night.

All everyone. Take it easy. I'll likely pop on to see you tomorrow. Good night.

Cops often do things like that. I keep wanting to say we .. they have discretion. They don't always have to arrest people. That's why if you just talk to cops, sometimes things will work out.

Nice cop story today. They were called to a shoplifting where the 18 yo was being held by store security. Cop says what did he take. Shirt, tie and socks. Cop says weird. So he talked to the kid. Seems his dad was taken ill and was unable to work. Kid was ashamed and really upset. Cop took in the kid. Cop said.. shoplifters don't steal that kind of stuff. So they let the kid go … cop paid for the shirt and tie. Kid got his job.

tim... that's enough... let it go.

You know how I feel … sean is a good boy. I hope you starts to let go of some of crap he's learned to believe. It is so very difficult to let that go … we never want to believe in our own goodness.

No, it's amazing it sold like it did. But I suppose not really. People love titillation, a little flogging from the comfort of their lazyboys. Some respectable porn they can read at home. Horrible stuff and wrong!

That is … I don't have a word for it. Disgusting comes to mind. Sixteen? They are dangerous and have no idea what they are doing. No idea how they can damage someone with their games. I see a few more blogs coming on...

For some it is, for many of us, no it's not about sex only. Thanks Carlos.

My apologies Parker.. thank you for wanting to learn. We always welcome positive interest and questions.

It was a pleasure. Good night.

Thank you, molly pop. I am very passionate about our Lifestyle. you're correct about us not being stereotypes. I remember watching some online bdsm with tim once. The boy was to be flogged by the Dominant. I wouldn't have touched the mouthy creature. The Dom allowed him to taunt saying, "Is that all you got." He'd have found out quickly 'what I got' let me tell you. Such nonsense. He' have been blindfolded, gagged and on his knees. And been unable to touch me or himself until could behave. But the real among us, it is a wonderful journey, each different, but each as important. I appreciate your support, my girl. Thank you.

I wish people would ask any questions...and no, they are not dumb. If you don't know, then people should ask. Well, it depends on the family. With mine, they know about tim and I. Some people never tell. It's one reason tim calls me Michael in public. It's more formal than Mike, which family and friends call me. Calling me Sir in a restaurant draws undesired attention. I had to be careful once upon a time, probably wouldn't matter now. We were out once and I gave tim something to hang onto and said: Hold that boy. Got an odd look from the hostess! LOL. Whether corrections are given in public or private depends on the Dom and the situation. A quick whispered word and smack on the ass maybe be enough until you're alone. Then the situation would drive whether more is required. IMO not everything needs a correction. Subs are human, they forget things, just like anyone. Is that innocent act deserving of physical correction? When, I, as the Dom am responsible for most things? I'd say no, but others may disagree. Many are drawn through fantasy. Many like rape or bondage fantasy. Normally, those subs who think this is what they want determine quickly that reality is not as much fun as the fantasy. The real problems are people that lure other into their sickness. Men like the one in your story Eric, who take advantage, use and abuse. There are plenty of them around. They do a lot of damage. But there are those who just push back too much, laugh too much, don't take what you tell them to heart, you can tell that D/s is not for them.

Thank you for reading it, dear Reader.

Even if there were, and I am not saying there isn't. I wouldn't post it here.

Nothing like a nice granny in cuffs … LOL just sayin.. I'd never arrest one.

It's very true. I know tim would love a poly relationship. He didn't always feel that way, I think if I brought home another sub or a switch, he'd be over the moon. I can't say that wouldn't ever happen. He'd have to be a good fit. Then I'd have to explain that to my mother. Hard enough explaining D/s. LOL

Let me know if you have questions … or if there is a topic you're interested it. Thanks for reading, Thorn.

Thanks, Mac. Nope, it is a wonderful world. Full of many variations. Mmm, I'd agree about extra care. It's funny however, often our relationships last where vanilla ones do not. I've read it's do with the honesty and trust required and the acceptance of roles that are natural for those involved. I can see it. There is a lot of devotion to the relationship. I'll likely write more. I've been thinking about male chastity. While tim does not cheat and escape his … I am tempted by some full belt options. PA's can make them unescapable, but I'm not a fan of PA's in general and much to tim's relief, don't want him to have one.

Thank you, boy. I'll see what I can do about the writing thing.

LOL.. I'll see what I can do... Thank's Mac.

No, didn't expect you would be. And yes, you're right about that. People are always in a rush. There's a lot to be said for life in the slow lane.

It is indeed, boy.

You drive a pickup, Mac? I drive a Jeep … people think 4 wd makes them safe in this crap. Wrong as you know, I'm sure. Only safe driving, snow tires/chains (when necessary), keep you safe. Sometimes 2 wd is safer. In winter, slow, steady and patience will make you arrive alive.

In amongst our little group online there has been a lot more talk of D/s, or BDSM lately. Which I like, since sharing information makes us more real and less something to be stared at and whispered about. I know it’s come as a surprise to some that I have a good sense of humour and enjoy a good laugh. There is more to each of us than most people think. We are not the porn-style stereotypes people usually imagine us to be. BDSM and D/s are not porn. But our life, like everyone’s has serious moments, stresses, sadness, and because of the nature of our fetishes we have to be careful, with our bodies and minds. Doms must be careful of ourselves and of those who give us of themselves; our boys and girls; our subs. There are Doms who search for boys like my tim. I’ve had people say that to me. “Where did you find that perfect boy?” Well, on paper or at first meeting he may seem perfect. he’s not. he’s a good boy, a great partner, but not perfect. No one is. Certainly not me. Our partnership, and tim being the boy he is today, has been – so far – a ten-year journey. Lots of ups and downs, and as tim says, two steps forward, one back … over and over again. Add depression, PTSD and HIV into the equation and things start to get messy. Add my own issues with diabetes and some very stressful work, well, things can get ugly pretty quick. They did. I’ve written about it before. Some of you were right here when it happened. But, what about now? Over the past year, tim has been on a long graceful curve to arrive where he is now. Today, he truly trusts me. he is open and here with me. His past seems to stay there for the most part. There have been scenarios, that I wanted to try and explore with him that previously were totally off limits. Today, though they still cause some anxiety, he trusts me to lead him through. Now he knows I won’t give him more than he can deal with. I still push but I watch him carefully. Because he would put himself in harm’s way if he knows I want something, in order to please me. I stop once I see the signs. Eventually we will get where I want to be, but slowly and carefully is the only way. Pushing too hard and too far can only damage, who should be our most precious concern; our subs. Many of you have read MacGreg’s The Process of Learning. They are beautifully written and tell the story of his method of teaching a new boy. There are many ways, but I like Mac’s. I have learned from them myself. Since I work with many subs, I have had to change my own methods. They have to suit the sub to some extent, for me. Some come for punishment, some come to learn, some are new D/s couples who want direction and advice. There are subs who only wish to clean and cook, slaves, furries, babys, only bedroom and like tim, 24/7…there is no single type. So, I have had to adapt and offer a variety of information, methods, thoughts and ideas. There are many types of Doms. The worst are the fakes, the ones out to hurt. There is no care for the mind or body of their sub. They prey on those who are vulnerable, often the subs are forced to sign away money, rights and eventually they are abandoned. Which may be the worst offence. My way with tim remains mostly unchanged, though I am adaptable. Nothing is written in stone. And because we often wish to explore things I’ve not experienced or done, other Doms are involved. That means more learning for us both, it means we need to remain openminded and willing to experience what comes. In our relationship there is no place for dishonesty, between each other or ourselves, or jealousy either. I am lucky tim is who he is because I cannot imagine sharing this life with anyone else. It is a wonderful adventure. If you haven't please do read MacGreg's wonderful: The Process of Learning Thanks for reading.