Kevin, I do tend to disagree with you about "friendcest". If I had a gay best friend and I was starting to have feelings I'd probably be too shy to admit, but if I gathered enough courage I would. I have said before that despite the complications, I can have and have had friends with benefits. That's not to say that it's what I really want, and he certainly does not either, but it can actually work. However, if it's your best friend and he feels the same way, I figure that means that you could have the best relationship ever, the one that may stand the test of time. Some might call me a "Stepford <insert expletive>" but what I really want is someone to spend my life with. Who could be better than a gay best friend? I can't think of any.