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Kel..glad I could help...and ouch your poor knees...I say go for the outfield and Gay, I mean Guy watch...hee hee....there was an earlier post about a sexy footballer with his picture (very woofy hot pic)..so hey, you Guys can do the Boys of Summer in your sexy uniforms.... our Sweet Mag I figure she will always be young....after all her idol is Princess Leah, who is one very smart, young and sexy Princess....just the way our Sweet Mag is:) ok, now you can blush Sweet Mag...I am blushing for you too.....you are still one great Princess pal to we Gay Guys..even if you are young and able to do most of the things on Kel's list:) all I can say is thank you to the Icy Hot manufacturer...my bones thank you and so do I..especially after a tough gym work out Michael

James, Good Luck..and I bet you and your fellow students end up helping each other out in your courses and learning a lot about computers and life:) All the best during the Semester and have fun too:) Michael

Botox at 15? nah..you must be teasing....you can't possibly have a wrinkle on you and that is before the Botox.....too funny.... Michael

Kel.. cool list:) and for me its Icy Hot after my daily work out..or knowing that certain body parts hurt each day (knees, shoulder, lower back, upper back) depending upon what I did at the gym.... but I still am a night bird....but time to get shut eye and um, drinking, other then water and coffee, what is beer and wine and fun stuff.....been years that I forget what they taste (I still can taste the margirata from 5 yrs ago..they were tasty)..damn the irregular heart beat and hypothyroid and body producing too much cholestoral. yep, I qualify as to all the items on the list.....oh well, you made me laugh and smile.. thanks cool buddy and congrats on the softball win....go for the icy hot and you forgot to add, you know when you spend extra money on a mattress that helps with the aches and pains.....and wake up and feel under 40 again....LOL:) Michael

Dave, I keep forgetting to post this...I would give the job some time. Also, maybe you can look at the job as a learning/growth experience...setting goals for yourself and store and see what happens. Also, are you permitted to set goals for managers and are you able to rate their performance? If so,maybe that can help them understand your performance goals/expectations for each of them with specific time frames. Then, when you do their evaluations, you and they have benchmarks to see if they met those goals. Also, its helpful if you ask them to write down the goals they want to set in their job positions and when you do their 3 month/6month/yearly evaluation, you both can see if those goals were met. But then again, I am not sure how your company works..so maybe check with your upper managment and human resources. Also, set your own goals and expectations of your job and see if you meet them...and set a date as to when you expect to reach those goals. Then when that date arrives, you can review where you have been and what has been accomplished. Just a thought. I hope it helps. Michael

Sharon....where does one get her CD? I also forgot to add "Scissor Sisters"...very "Blondie" to me...a combo of her sizzling sensuality and amazing voice with fun songs and hot ones and an irreverance about the craziness of life and "what is to you" combined with just fun:) and ok the Guys (both str8 and gay) are hot and the female singer is her own brand of sizzle... Michael

Viv... You done good...you raised him, sent him out the world and he will be fine.... Hugs to you....and you will be there for him as you hear about those first semester jitters....and the excitement and fun parts too:) Just remind him to study in between in all those parties and to attend class and actually read so he doesn't flunk out (that's your Mom perogative kicking in...but he will appreciate it and knows you love him to bits:) Until then, just know you raised him right and he will be just fine..... Hugs and tissues to wipe away the tears and sniffles sent your way:) Michael

Neil..I don't have a weedeater....but I have a townhouse..and the Community Association takes care of cutting the lawn/weeds. But, yep, I am Gay:) hmmm, as Jules would say! Now, I was never good at logic..but um, what about those Gay households with two Moms or two Dads or one Dad or one Mom whom are Gay and with kids.... what school was this? Liberty College or some other evangelical christian school like Bob Jones University? oops..wait, this is Texas....home of the Bushes...ok, so much for logic....hee hee. but the joke is very funny:) and very cute:) Michael

Mark...what Kitty and I said is that its time to move on...that the so called Rainbow v. Darkside or Darkside v. Rainbow is way too old....so disband? I never realized that the Darksiders...decided to keep going...what Kitty said is: "Mark, I appreciate your willingness to make a public apology. However, your perception is not correct. As to the rainbow-darkside business in general, and this is my personal opinion only, I'm not speaking on behalf of anyone else -- it is getting tiresome. There is no Rainbow Team and no Darkside Team. Fables can be useful and funny, but when they get to be destructive, IMO it's better to leave them behind and move on." Kitty I concurred with Kitty...Now you have once again said there is a Rainbow team...Conner asked a simple question...somewhere in your reply, I didn't see an answer. and once again you have indicated that there is a "Rainbow team" by stating "Conner My understanding was that the Rainbow team was disbanding and we weren't going to use those labels anymore. I'm confused. Why don't you all (y'all for Kitty) get together, figure out what your position is, and let me know." Mark...isn't it time to move on beyond all this? There is no Rainbow team, there never was...there is no Rainbow position and as Ann, Kitty and I said this is way toooo old...so enough already... how about a simple reply to Conner? You make it sound like Kitty, Conner and I get together and decide who posts what for the so called Rainbow team...come on and let us all get past this...why do we need to even go there...this is just so unnecessary and why do you have create sides and labels..which you seem to be doing. Give up the Ghost and let's move it along...we will all be better for it.... even at this point, my post is tiresome and I am tired of it all..so why do you seem to want to create fire where flames have long been put out? Time to let it go and if we have, why can't you...Conner, just asked for civility..I am sure we can all do that...let us all act as intelligent adults instead of Dodge ball teams in junior high school since that is what I feel like this has turned into. Dodge ball and Junior High sucked then and it sucks now.... so, how about can't we all give peace a chance..it beats juvenile amateur hour and I feel like this has what this hast turned into and I want us all to get on with it..don't you think its time? I sure hope so! Michael

Dave, I just a commercial for the frog creature on MTV.....fortunately, I would turn it off if there were songs from the frog......now kids like it....once is funny...past that..ok, swat the thing off to another galaxy... Michael

First things I do in the morning...shower, then make and drink coffee....a must:) I don't speak until then.....I am not a Morning person..grrrrr! Michael

Viv..I am 6ft 1" tall, brown green eyes, 195 lbs and with the hypothyroid that drives me crazy, weight tends to fluctuate way too much for my tastes..so some days 195 lbs..some days less or more) I am blinder then a bat..worn glasses since the 6th grade. I have a goatee and a buzz cut since if I grew it long there is nothing to grow) I blush easily....I am all Italian (half Sicilian and half Neopolitian: and each side of that family hates the other side) and grew up Italian and Catholic and the only boy, youngest too and older Italian sisters and step sisters.....and as a Gay boy/teen/adult...my sisters still make me crazy..as my nephew says "Uncle Mike" your family is nuts and they are all crazy....so imagine growing up with all that Italian guilt... I am also a Taurus...and as Matt said we are shy until you get to know us..I have been like that forever.... I am the one person who keeps all the family and friends secrets....and when it is discovered I was the one person they told, the others go nuts that I kept the secret for like ions... it drives my sisters nuts that I tell them nothing....trust me, for those who are Italian you learn reveal anything and its a club of death in any Italian sisters hands..and gets spread like wildfire to the entire family in two seconds....Liz Smith is a rank amateur compared to my sisters! ok, now i am blushing and off to the gym....I work out a lot but complain a lot since I don't drink, don't smoke, no desserts and yet, with my thyroid and irregular heart beat and a body that produces sooo much cholestoral, you would think I would be thin as a rail..it sucks not to have fun....well certain kinds of fun. anyhoo...those are facts that probably contain too much 411.. and my Mom died when I was 1 so that is the one event that changed my life forever....and I wouldn't trade being Gay for anything and if I had a choice, I would chose to be Gay... ok, gym time..at least the hotties will be fun to look at and damn those metrosexuals..they always mess up my pretty bad gaydar to begin with! One last fact..I love teddy bears and have since I was a small bear...I have 9 of them now..all lined up on my bed...and yes, they are all Gay:) Michael

Mark... I am an attorney and we restate our argument in many many ways...as often as we can!!! Until the Judge says our client has prevailed.....its just our legalese nature...but all kidding aside...(since my post wasn't designed to be an argument with you or anyone else.. or for me to need to win or otherwise prevail as to a Rainbow viewpoint) I will again state, in my opinion, the Rainbow side made no complaints about your posts in the Soapbox..I was in the mix of those posts...why would I complain when the same thing could have been said of me. So, I can't speak for Kitty, who posted during that time period (i.e. Supreme Court nominee issues ....but I don't think her posts were objectionable or argumentative as some of mine may have been perceived mine were as I got in thick of the arguments on a variety of topics). I don't believe any Rainbow person complained as to your Soap Box posts. Your blog portrays that to be a fact...from my perspective that just is not so in any way.) Indeed, Myr stated he received a variety of complaints from many people about the whole tenor of the Soap Box...that is what led to its temporary shut down... What ensued from there was between you and Myr and thus your eventual suspension. I feel this was not portrayed in your apology and thus I did my long post. (Particularly since I was involved in what led to the temporary shut down and stand guilty as charged for what led to its shut down.) As an aside, Legal briefs are a misnomer....they run on forever... and as one can see that spills over in my posts...imagine if I really posted a legal brief. Beyond a statement of the obvious, Your blog is do with as you wish. I have said my part..now twice, enough of that and I leave it at that. Michael

Drinking?! Naughty! Ben..."Naughty"?!! ROFL...you are funny..Give Val a break... no internet for a while, a move.a crazy neighbor....someone sleeping on the couch with the dvd blasting....the BF being grumpy..and a new place to live in with Playboys in the bathroom...who wouldn't drink.... Val, I say add in a mess of Playboys in the bathroom...mix them in with the Playgirls and freak out the room mate...unless of course he decides they are hot:) I say, drink and be merry....Val deserves at least that given the last few weeks...drink, smoke funny cigarettes....eat, add in pink to the blue...and be a girl gone wild...and remind the BF that Val is the best there is..... Naughty in this case is Nice and more fun:) so you go Girl!! Michael

Mark, First of all, your apology is between you and Myr. However, I read your apology and if a reader were not familiar with the facts, they would come away with statements that you made that just aren't facts: 1. Your suspension had nothing to do with the Rainbow members complaining about you. 2. Your suspension was a result of comments you made about and to Myr regarding Myr's decision to temporarily suspend the Soap Box. 3. Myr had indicated that he was temporarily suspending the Soap Box because he received numerous complaints about comments made in it by those that posted comments rather then suspend those of us (I and Kitty, who are from the Rainbow side made comments in the Soap Box. Sweet Mag, Kel and Conner, who are from the Rainbow side had not made comments in the Soap Box.) 4. Your apology implies that somehow those of us from the Rainbow view point complained about you and thus you were suspended. I do not know of any of us who complained about your comments in the Soap Box. Since Kitty and I made comments there about various topics, as did you and many others, I accepted that I too was part of those whose comments may have been deemed "offensive" to others. I felt Myr's decision to temporarilyshut down the Soap Box was fair. As Myr stated, it was monitored by Dan, who was away on vacation. That left No one to moderate it. 5. Myr indicated that once the GA Moderator team was in place, he would re open the Soap Box. 6. As I recall, you did not accept Myr's decision and were very angry and made comments about Myr that were derogatory and deemed out of line. 7. It is my understanding, Myr made a decision to suspend you based upon your conduct after his decision was made regarding the temporary shut down of the Soap Box. Therefore, I really do not appreciate you implying and stating that your suspension was due to anything other then your conduct regarding the Soap Box. To do otherwise, makes it appear that those of us on the Rainbow side of things (for lack of a better term) complained about you and therefore you were suspended. To me, your apology is between you and Myr. However, your blog entry has brought into play facts that are not accurate. Therefore, I have commented, since I do not believe you have a right to portray that somehow your conduct in some fight or battle, which never occurred, with Rainbowers led to your suspension. Plain and simple, your suspension had nothing to do with arguments with those on the Rainbow side....but had everything to do with your conduct and statements in your reaction to the temporary shut down of the Soap Box. Therefore, I find your apology to be inaccurate and seeking to blame others for your suspension when the Shakespearaen saying "the fault lies not in the Stars, but in ourselves" applies here. Indeed, you have posted a "fable" and a "fairytale" rather then the facts. It is yours to do but I also feel it is mine to reply what I believe actually happened and not some mythical "Rainbow v. Darkside" fight or argument that never occurred resulting in the Rainbow team getting you suspended. That just is not so. Indeed, had Myr decided to suspend those who posted in the Soap Box, I would have been suspended. His decision was a fair one. I said it then, I say it now. Gee, had you started with "I am sorry" and that your suspension was a result of your reaction to the Soapbox temporpary shut down, well, I would have said good for you. I am just beyond surprised that somehow you chose to base an apology what you did based upon something that never happened. Apologies based upon events that actually happened rather then an apology based upon events that never occurred makes others see that one is humble and learned from events. That is something we all can relate to and could have here. Pardon the pun but I don't believe you hit the mark with your apology, since I don't see it based upon actual facts and events. Michael

RTJ...I agree with you..I was born after midnight at 12:41 am..and so, I have been a night bird forever....began that way..I love a walk in the moonlight, walk on the beach..watch the stars...I have friends who still wonder why I love to go to the gym late at night.. The stillness of the night its just calmer and quieter and I am not a morning person...and hate early morning conversation..coffee first..silence...but the night..there is nothing finer.... on that note, its 1:20 am and time for bed.....will take me a while but this night owl better get some shut eye. Michael

Viv.....Rainbow Hugs sent your way:) Maybe to your friend who believes sexual orientation....just a quick aside, I do not see being Gay as a sexual preference (that to me states I have a choice..as in do I prefer to be Gay or straight and I get to chose...) To me, sexual orientation is as you stated "you are born that way" That may help you with your co worker whose daughter believes she is a Lesbian....Sexual orientation isn't a choice..no more a choice then the color of one's eyes, the pigmentation of one's skin, whether we are tall or short..its genetics.. I won't even go there as to why your co worker is reading his daughter's diary..that's another issue..but any hoo...if all else fails, I have reminded those who are religious and believe that homosexuality is a sin is that God loves all his/her children and he/she made us and if God is perfect and makes no mistakes. God made me and I am no mistake....it tends to leave them totally silent.....its an argument they can't win....keeping it simple has made it easier and they get that God Loves all of us...so if they get that, then tell your co worker if God loves your daughter and made her a Lesbian, how come you can't love her and accept her? Just a thought. and on behalf of those of us whom are Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual or Transgendered...thank you for being you..Your daughter will grow up very loving, loved and as an accepting loving person:) Michael

[Hey Nickolas, since you are young I thought I should warn you to stay away from the insidiously evil types around here. In particular you should stay away from Conner (make sure you spell his name right or he gets mad) and Michael (Rocketcnj, he passes out the rainbow jellybeans that are laced with something). They may seem sweet, but it is more like the gingerbread house from Hansel and Grettle. :king: Snow Dog the Domaholic Danderthal <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Nickolas:) Welcome...and I agree with Shadows....just be yourself and you will be just fine..where do we find your stories? is it in the archives? And hey, Snow Dog, you also forgot that those of us on the Rainbow Side, always love Rainbow Hugs, Rainbow Sunshine and Hershey Kisses.....and um, the Rainbow Jelly Beans..well, they are just Jelly Beans...laced with sugar...tastes great but oh those carbs.... Beyond all that Nickolas..you will find that Snow Dog is a cool guy (he hates that I use that word a lot..and that he has a very Rainbow Side to him....shh.......he doesn't want us to know that but I feel he does..so he is cool by me....and has his own Snow Dog Emperor style..did he tell you that he is Emperor in his own kingdom>.....hmmm...given all you just read about the Rainbow v. Darksiders from the Domaholics Forum, best to follow Shadows wise counsel we Domaholics are fun and a bit crazy...but I think all good:) Michael

Val..I vote for pink hair...sort of like cotton candy...or pink tips..some blue...that would be cool I forgot about the Ninja Turtles too....I forget which one is which....they all look alike..which I am sure they aren't.. I never thought blue hair made anyone punk..If that is sothat silver blue tint of grandma types would make them super punk? Grandma the Punk artist. Ok, enough of that...in any event, your mood seems better..I hope that is good...maybe the blue hair made you feel better? The crazy neighbor well, send the Ninja Turtles to visit him... Michael

Rose...funny you should say that..but I have had the same problems at Dunkin Donuts..there are two near me...a few blocks from each other (there is a Starbucks around the corner where tons of people I know chill) But at Donkun Donuts a few weeks ago there were 2 people, who were together, ahead of me and they had free coupons since they wrote to the headquarters to complain about what you just said...and Lo and behold the guy got so frustrated that he left his friend to wait on line because they screwed up their order again..very badly....when it came to mine, a large coffee, I was given an iced coffee..then a small coffee, then a medium coffee, then finally a large one..and I kept telling the counter guy..no I just want a large coffee...by the time I was done, it was geez...what is up with this..it has happened in other Dunkin Donuts.....I have to watch like a hawk what they are doing....all for coffee..but I do so love their coffee.... Starbucks isn't bad..I just am a Donkun Donuts fan...ever notice, you buy their beans and it doesn't taste like their coffee when you get a cup of coffee there? what is up with that? Michael

Libbidino, Well said!!! No one is saying that one has to participate if they don't like Myr's rules. The same is true for other internet sites and for the rules of say AOL, MSN or Yahoo. If one doesn' like their rules, then one need not participate. Myr's rules, to me, are fine and reasonable. Issues of free speech and treating each other with human decency and mutual respect need not be mutually exclusive. Beyond, all that, as many members have said, this is supposed to be a forum for discussion of Gay stories and the Mission statement speaks to that: Mission Statement The purpose of this site is to support authors and readers of the Gay Male stories by hosting author websites, a discussion board for Authors, Editors, Readers and Review seekers, and a list of links to other authors and story hosting sites. There are many other sites that one can join for other issues...to me, its that plainly simple and clear. Michael

Conner, to add to what you eloquently posted, in the U.S. there are restrictions and limitations on freedom of speech in the U.S. (indeed, the U.S. Supreme Court has indicated that there are several types of freedom of speech, with varying levels of how free is that speech (commercial vs. private speech) and such things of decency as "not being able to yell "fire" in a crowded theater" as Justice Oliver Wendell Homes wrote during WWI in an opinion he authored. The U.S. Supreme Court has indicated there are levels of decency to determine if pornography constitutes free speech and provided guidelines for that...it has also provided guidelines for levels o free speech in wartime as compared to peace time. Therefore, it is often a misnomer to say there is "free speech". By way of example if one person says to another "I am going to kill you" that speech may be deemed not free but in fact a crime if the person acts on it or doesn't (terroristic threats, hate crimes, or other such crimes one can be charged with depending upon the context in which it was uttered) Therefore, as you said, speech is not free and often a goal and human decency is taken into account when we speak. Indeed, if one person says to another person "I hate you because you are a f***king faggot".. and then beats up someone (speech combined with conduct) or wears a tee shirt "All Gays should die" (a form of speech) well that is free speech, but may be deemed a crime as a hate crime...is it free? Indeed, there are rules on speech governing this Forum and in such ISP providers such as Yahoo, MSN and AOL and to be subscribing members, we must accept those rules and are subject to them. (they are commercial providers of speech forums and can place restrictions and rules as to what they deem to be acceptable to or unacceptable speech. Indeed, many, if not most, websites, have the same type of rules or restrictions on speech and indicate that if one finds speech content of a member objectionable, to report it to the provider, who then can take action regarding the "offensive" speech and member uttering it) So, thank you for your post...it says it well. Indeed, you had expressed your freedom of speech and Mark objected to it....hence, suggesting you should limit or place restrictions on your freedom of speech under the guise of "decency". As you said, there are common sense "rules" of human decency which serve as filters and "restricions" on freedom of speech to create civil discourses of conversation and all of us getting along in our day to day lives.....otherwise it could end up where we live in a society of who can outshoot whom and the person that is feared most has the freedom of speech and those that dare to speak out end up dead...etc... so, thanks for the food for thought:) Michael

Val, I am not a therapist...but maybe a therapist (individual and then couples therapy) can help. Also, as Sharon said, maybe you and your BF can do a little role reversal. You be him in an argument and he you and see what develops...Maybe you will start to laugh or maybe it will enlighten you. I have learned (and it took years) that no one can make me happy but me. I have also learned that someone else's issues are their issues and that no one can make me feel one or another (the feelings are up to me and it is me reacting to what someone says or does that causes me to hit certain buttons in myself or react to them) There are solutions to these things. Indeed, including, a plan of action (that may take time, including, if things will not work out for the two of you, then you planning for altermative housing or one of you goes and finds room mates or you both decide you can be room mates or one of you leaves and the other stays) I am betting that you close single friends or those that are couples that can help you with housing. You are resourceful. The issues first, IMHO, to look at are your issues first...(that may take time and well, it takes a life time) and then go from a list to action and not reaction. If therapy is what you need, then pursue that (there may be all sorts of things to work on..co dependency, family issues (often intertwined), one's upbringing, etc....I had all those...still do...part of the daily struggle etc. but there are solutions. Indeed, it took me a few years to learn new skills (yeah learn them) so as to deal with day to day issues due to lots of bad habits based in codependency etc.) Then, if you feel, your BF are worth the effort, then talk to him too...maybe he needs therapy or a discussion with you about what his personal issues are, what he has with you etc..and you do the same with him...if you can't talk...write lists...share them...stuff like that. But then again, I am not a therapist...so just me look at your post for a few times(I had to keep coming back and say "hmmm" (sorry, Jules, its an expression that fits here) and wondering, if my post reply can help you. I hope it does....but as Sharon wisely said, you can't fix your BF..only he can do that....and I feel its far more productive to work on your stuff, where you know you can succeed and become a content human being...You have the power to do that...and I am sure you love yourself enough so that you wish to do that...you are worthy of that (another thing that took me a long time to believe in myself) So, I say, you go Girl and take care of yourself..the rest will fall in place over time... Rainbow Hugs and Lots of Love sent your way:) Michael

Jules, A belated Happy Birthday and I hope that it was Extra HMMMMMMMM Special for you:) All the best and I hope that you have an amazing HMMMMMMMMMM Year! Michael