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Dearest Val, The answer to your "problem" is that you are a Grace that needs a Will Truman, Esq. If you read my efforts to make you laugh (ok, I tried...don't shoot your computer or me for trying) Legal humor is tough...you can always say to the Judge that you tried to have a sense of humor but your client ended up being a joke and so is the Judge's decision (followed by your visit to the jail and an orange jump suit that won't fit right..but I digress) Ok, back to my point (in my last post to you I suggested you visit the GLBT Group in your law school..there you will get people who get you and you can tell them you are a str8 ally (hint keep the L part of the GLBT from hitting on you...unless of course you discover that you are "family" (our code word for you are really one of us:) Your mission is to find your Will Truman, Esquire in training..the Gay guy or guys who get you and adore you and will be your best friends and all without an agenda of worrying that they will hit on you (warning..listen to Margaret Cho...when we take you to a Gay bar, remember to arrange for alternative transportation (unless you are driving) because we Gays if we find a hottie will drop our str8 best gal pal in a New York minute...and don't worry we find our way home and back to you after we have our fun (ok too much information..but you get the drift) Go too it..after all you are Val...our str8 Gal Pal Goddess and we will give you honest answers and make sure we find you someone worthy of a Goddess...got it? now, hurry up and get to the GLBT Legal Eagles....sign up...the rest will be fabulous! see, problem solved.....next case, step down. Michael

Val, I used to have a saying in law school (first of all we used to joke there is only one legal brief..its just been imitated in a variety of forms by a zillion law students...that's another story...i used to hate writing briefs first year in legal writing class...learning to write legalese sucked..honest, I used to write in English sentences...my legalese, I have learned to keep brief...you would never guess by my posts, but I am in legal world...beyond that I get to ramble as evidenced by this post, amongst the other zillion I have written.) but back to my rambling, (which I hope makes you smile and laugh) I used to say in the first year of law school the professors scare you to death in the second year of law school they work you to death (although you are wondering can they work you any more...don't worry you will get used to it) and in the third year they bore you to death. The reason being is you want out the law school prison so you can begin to get a job and pay back those lovely student loans...grrrrr..... I also used to complain that the bar exam should be given at the end of the first year of law school (other then evidence, the bar exam mulitstate is based upon the first year's courses..go figure) Also, ignore the talking maniacs (the ones in class who never shut up...and think they are smarter then the rest of the world..they are not...just keep your blue hair from falling out because you keep pulling it out from dealing with law student mania) I discovered at the end of first year of law school that I would learn more by working for a law firm...and also learned it was those blue haired ladies who knew more about law then their bosses, the attorneys and those blue haired ladies taught me about how to practice and to treat people..i.e..your clients.. more then any law book and law professor..but guess what you know that already but law school is just the price of the movie ticket admission into the world of law..enjoy it, it was fun and you are smart and will make a great attorney. That you can take to the bank.) I remember a student in my class asked my contract professor (who couldn't teach his way out of paper bag) how did you know if you were arguing correctly a case. His response was you would often argue both sides of the same issue....often in the same day if you went to court a lot (or in a brief, etc.) What mattered was did you get paid by your client. Hey, that day I paid attention and I always remembered that (it took my Ethics Professor to remind us just because your client pays you doesn't mean you aren't supposed to be ethical...but that you know and don't do anything to jeopardize your practice of law..see you just learned 2 big things about the practice of law...and all in a nonsensical rambling post....even I am rolling my eyes..so you can too:) We also used to joke that in law school there are those that "can do" and then there are those that teach...you know the professors in front of the classroom..some of whom can't find their way out of paper bag and some of whom are incredibly amazing....just remember the old scene in the Brady Bunch (I think they were trying to help Jan or Marsha overcome fear of public speaking and told them to think of what the audience looked like in their underwear which then made Jan or Marsha laugh and get over their fear...so think of those strange professors as in their undies and you then get to "humanize" them...it may work with some of the crazies that are your fellow students.) Remember, do things for yourself..like the gym, sleep, (remember after those beer and whiskey chasers to take your water and tylenol and vitamin cs) and also just know you do need sleep and if you think you are going blind..yeah, you are...don't worry....I am sure you look great with glasses and blue hair:) now, laugh a lot....do what you can do....and remember you do have a brain and common sense and law school to quote "Professor Kingsfield" molds the mush of our brains to make us think like a lawyer. (the brain cells we have left we soak in cheap beer and cheap booze:) deep breaths, it will be ok....Kitty and I survived and you will too:) Just keep playing Gloria Gaynor's "I Will Survive"...and find the GLBT Law students...they will adopt you as one of us (even if you are str8:) and tell them if they don't you know your crazy assed Gay Italian Attorney buddy in New Joisey who will come a knocking:)..hint, that's me:) :wacko: Hang in there and remember res ipsa locquitor and offer, acceptance and consideration...and soon to be followed by the rule against perpetuities and in the end you will be fine and one great attorney:) Love and Hugs and all the best sent your way...remember, YOU will SURVIVE so go get em!! Michael

Happy Birthday and Many Many More, Bard!! May all your dreams come true and then some and have a great year! Michael

Hi Val, Ok, I have no idea what Gilmore Girls' hometown is like (can't say I have really watched the show) But I am betting you like Rhode Island....now, here is the thing with law school...um, you won't see much past outside the law school any way....(at least for the first semester) except of course when you venture to the bars (there is always a bar or 2 or 3 or 4..well, you get the idea) near law schools...its sort of mandatory....so past the dorms or apartment, the law school and the bars....fear not..plus, Rhode Island is nice.. now, as to the prestige factor....pffftttttt...Ok, just screw it...here is the thing....what is taught in law school is taught in every law school (as long as its American Bar Association Acredited, which I am sure your law school is) Given that fact, I say if you get decent financial aid and aren't paying student loan debt for the next 50 yrs..who gives a hoot...(there I cleaned that language up) cause you learn the same thing everywhere....and all that matters in the end is you pass the bar exam (there's that word again....and oh yeah, bars will be necessary during that time too) It still irks me that they don't give you the bar exam after the first year of law school (the Multistate bar part of it...the 200 questions from hell) that everyone takes every where in the country is on the five of the six law school subjects: 1. real property, 2. constitutional law, 3. criminal law and criminal procedure (ok you may learn criminal procedure the 2nd yr), 4. torts, 5. contract law and 6. evidence (that you will take either 2nd or 3rd yr) you learn in the first year of law school and will totally forget by the end of the third year of law school...and its all a money maker with preparation courses anyway.....grrr.. now, here is the other secret (you will learn the "practice" part of the law from good paralegals and legal secretaries...) and here is the other part..you have common sense and compassion....you will be fine. I say save the memory box.....its kinda neat...boyfriends of the future will come and go and come again, the memories are what you will keep. here is to your Mom not turning your blue hair grey....but Happy Mum's day to her:) since she is the proud Mum of you:) Good Luck on the move (and I totally understand the concept of putting something in a place I swear I won't forget then forget where I put it.....) Michael

Happy Birthday Patrick !!!! I hope that you had a great birthday and I hope that you have a great year!! All the best, always to the best Poet I know!!! Michael

Hi All, Thanks for your very kind and fun Birthday wishes (um, Sharon, I did eat chocolate cake..not as good as yours but you get what you can and I will be in the gym days on end to burn off the yummy cake:) Again, thanks for your nice and fun Birthday Wishes Michael

Happy Happy Happy Birthday Bev!!! You are younger and much wiser then me and a wonderful friend!! I wish you lots of happiness, good health, fun and lots and lots of love sent your way!! You are a wonderful friend and a wonderful Mum and you are super cool I hope that you have a great perfect fun filled Birthday (I just realized it is Sunday by you now..so I hope that you had the bestest of birthdays...actually when I was celebrating my birthday at a certain time in the day here it was May 6th by you so we celebrated our birthdays on the same day..java script:emoticon(' ',%20'smid_8') now how cool as that...except of course you are still younger and wiser!! Lots of Birthday Hugs and Kisses sent your way and Birthday smiles Michael

Kevin, Good Luck with finals and your move. Drive safely. Make sure you are well rested when driving. Don't worry about the job..you will find one and don't worry, I am sure lots of your friends will be wanting to visit you in your new place as you begin the next chapter in your life. Hugs and Smiles sent your way (and um, Sharon, no such thing as a limit on smilies and hugs :wacko: Michael P.S. Sharon, you know I am just teasing..since I adore you....and you are very funny...and always, always near and dear to me:)

Chaz, There are no adequate words to express our sympathies for the loss of Green. However, as Bev said, you are also our family and we love you dearly. I hope that you find the time you need to heal. As Bev said remember to breath. Also, if you need help to grieve, it couldn't hurt to see a grief counselor and a therapist. In time, when you are ready. Please know we are hear and here for you. Chaz, you and Green and both of your families and friends are inmy thoughts and prayers. I do hope we will hear from you when you feel up to it. Remember, as Bev said, we are your family to...so don't be afraid to call upon us (my email is in my profile) and we are here to support you however we can for you. Take the time you need, for however long you need, to recover. Please extend my condolences to all and I hope David, in time, will begin his recovery, both physically and emotionally. Just know in our own ways that we are here for you, David, Green's parents and family and for Selene and all your and Green's friends..who are just as much family to you and Green. Hold each other close and closer still. It is the way Green was with everyone and the way you are too! It's part of why he loved you so very very much!!! As Bev said, Green's Mom saw you as her son too and as Green's husband. Just remember, we are your family and you are as loved too. As Bev said, remember to breath (Kitty would tell you that too...there are those of us when we are in stress, who forget to breath.....so remember...deep clensing breaths, and its ok to scream, cry, shout, yell, laugh and make sure you all get lots of hugs. I hope if its not too painful for you before you head back to your family that you can spend time with Green's Mom and Green's family and David and Selene....you all need each other now and always. Love and Hugs and Prayers and Good Karma sent to you and each of you. Michael

Chaz and Green's family and friends and David, I am also speechless and heartbroken for all of you. As Julia from the UK said, keep the beautiful memories of Green in your heart. I know he will always be with you and with each of us. He touched our hearts and souls and minds in many, many wonderful ways. Green, to me, is now an Angel to watch over each of you. My prayers and thoughts and hopes that in time you find peace in the love you have for Green will come to be. Again, my thoughts and prayers and love and hugs go out to each of you. I wish there were more I could say and do. Just know we are here for you now and in the future. Michael

Chaz, I am so sorry. My deepest condolences and sympathies to you and Green's family and to your family. You are all in my prayers. I will also say my prayers for David's speedy recovery. Michael

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Chaz and Green and David and all of your family members and friends, You are all in my prayers and sending out good karma for Green's full recovery. There are no words to properly express our love and concern for you all. Thank you Chaz for taking the time to keep us informed but please know that we are all pulling for Green and David and you. Please keep hoping and praying and finding a way to be in Green's presence. I know he will be able to feel the love from all of you. Keep talking to him and holding his hands and remind him that it is going to be ok and you are all with him. My love and prayers go with you. Michael

Dearest Chaz, Green and David and your loved ones, You are in my prayers and I am sending out good Karma and lots of prayers said for Green and David's full recovery to full health. May the Angels be with you and watch over you. I wish I could do and say more. Prayers and Hugs and Lots of Love and Good Karma sent your way. I hope Green is out of the coma soon and you have good news....and that Green and David are on their way to a speedy full recovery!! Michael

Val, Congratulations!!! BTW, if you wear glasses, plan on a new pair after the first year....if you don't you will... but you are smart and will do quite well. I have a saying about law school (let's see if Kitty agrees with me) The first year they scare you to death, the second year they work you to death and the third year they bore you to death. Plus, you will learn that other famous saying students have about some law professors (there are those that can and then there are those that teach) but as Kitty said, there will be lots of reading, West law research/Lexis/Nexus and lots of beer and shots:) Congrats and good luck and I hope you also get your first choice too:) Michael

Green and Chaz, I didn't want to be right..I just love and respect you both and I so want for you both for you to communicate with each other. Even when you have to act fast Green...just use your cell phone and say to Chaz..ok, I have this situation...can you meet me here or I am going to take him to our house..and we can figure out how to keep him safe. Make it an US (as in Green and Chaz equals Communication equals LOVE and Mutual Support and Mutual Trust and a couples decision) Both of you have Super Hero Hearts of Gold and Chaz would have been there in a second..and everyone could have helped out. Just keep remembering Green you are not Green you are Green plus Chaz....so communicate...if you feel you have then communicate any way (better to say it twice then not at all) I know your Mom would come through (and true about your friend being exposed to your half brother who has his own issues that are huge) Just keep remembering Green you have amazing resources at your finger tips..the first and foremost one is the Man you kiss goodnight and Good morning with "I Love Yous" and that you both love each other more then life itself.....it is a special gift two Super Heroes have...it is precious and needs to be gently and always treated with the respect of what Love is.... We are all human...we all make mistakes...your heart is in the right place..we all would have made sure the teen was safe....its just making sure your Super Hero Powers are in the ON and COMMUNICATION mode....the first of which is to communicate with Chaz... Do that and you both will be in the Rainbow Retirement Village at age 90 still hot for each other and madly in love as always:) I also hope that you as a group stay in touch with your new found "foster bro"....he needs a friend and each of you to help him now more then ever...it can't hurt to consult with your Mom all the time and PM/email Eric (Coming Undone) since Joe is an invaluable resource and I am sure Eric and Joe could give you helpful hints...also there are other resources...Lambdalegal.org and other organizations (I bet even the local GLBT center)....it will all work out and so Super Hero hugs just remember keep your communication decoder ring and cell phone activated with the first call to Chaz at all times:) Our prayers and good karma go out to your teen that you rescued...he will need lots of love and support in the coming days, weeks, months and years!! Love and hugs sent to Green and Chaz....our Super Heroes and to Green's Mom:) Our Super Hero Angel!!! Michael

Green and Chaz, I concur with Shadows and Kitty and Blue. I have read both blog entries. What I read from Green (not throwing the words back to him) but I read that he took the teenager into his house (Green said "my house") No wonder Chaz doesn't feel like its OUR house as in Green and Chaz's house. As Blue said, since you two are getting married don't you think Green you should have first communicated all this with Chaz and come up with a plan of action. To me, the way you did it seems as if you somehow don't believe Chaz would have helped and that only you have the solutions. That's not very fair. This was a huge decision and to me you didn't have the confidence to trust and believe in your relationship (again your old sabotage the relationship issues) to discuss first and decide together! Couples communicate with each other about big decisions. This was a big one! Green did you stop and think that on such a deal you should have spoken first to Chaz? He is to be your husband..not your room mate. Add to that is the fact that you also have David in your home. I would have hoped you sat down with David too. It is his home too. Add to that and you have a wonderful resource expert in your Mom, who is a certified foster care parent. I mean, how can a smart guy like you act first then wonder why everyone is upset. This was huge. I am sure if you got everyone together, sat down and put your heads together you would have been able to achieve the same result. I am sure that your Mom could have instantly taken in the teen (your blog entry says she offered. I am also sure that Social Services would have immediately preferred that because your Mom has a legal status of a foster parent and she has been through their system.) Heck, I bet if you had even sent an email to Eric he could have consulted with Joe to give you some helpful hints. To me the clear common sense solution is that the teen stays with your Mom who has offered. She can become his foster parent and he gets a safe place to live with a Mom who is an Angel and very loving and accepting of her Gay sons (to me she is a Mom to Green, Chaz, David, Green and Chaz's brothers and I am sure Steven too (David's BF) I bet she even finds redeeming qualities in Robert!! Green your big issue is your lack of communication. You are a Super Hero who isn't using your super powers to find a good solution that is perfect for your homeless friend (the sooner that he becomes a foster child assigned to your Mom the more legal protections he has and gives him protections to fight against his parents. To me, right now, his parents can say ok come home and what protection does he have now? none. Then you really haven't helped him. I would think the moment you get your Mom assigned, the better off he is) We all you for your Super Hero heart but we love you more when you communicate with the Super Heros in your life that since you Love them...so its far more important that you communicate with them what is in your heart....talk first, act second! I don't mean to be harsh but it appears you have the solution right under your nose...grrr....and instead everyone is upset and distrustful and Green and Chaz are fighting and the poor kid needs a Mom like Green's....heck I bet at that point, even Chaz's parents will assist. I hope you figure out Super Hero Green that even Super Heros need a team to help him. I will say my prayers and send out good karma and hope that you get your Mom to become the teen's foster Mom and get him legal protected status. You don't want his parents to come back, as Shadows said, throw him in a 're-education program' where ultimate harm and damage will come to his psyche and heart and soul. Good Luck and try communication first...and using the resources available to you and stop being only you can be the Super Hero!! Geez, you have your Super Hero Mom, your Super Hero fiancee and your Super Hero friends......grrrr...... sometimes Green I love ya and sometimes I want to do kick your Super Hero butt! Michael

Kevin, Good luck with your choice. You may wish to check out what Kitty mentioned. You can obtain your Masters in Social Work and become a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and I am pretty sure that means you get to do counseling and therapy work. Of course, check with the programs offered and what you can and can't do with the degrees and licenses. Also, from what I know, that may offer you a wide range of specialities (from early age to geriatic to chose from) You certainly have the patience and kindness and even keeled nature to help people. You listen well, you care and you offer help without judging someone. So, IMHO, you are a natural for the field:) Good Luck with your choice:) (and hey, who says you can't write..maybe start with a short story...and emphasis on short so you don't get scared..or start smaller and jot down your notes on a character...if you feel bold post it in your blog....see if you like how it feels and sounds and reads...heck, even if you don't decide to post it..there it will be for just you to read in your own diary...something maybe to inspire you to look at and then write more:) Best of Luck to you!!! Michael

Green and Chaz and Chaz and Green, Congratulations!! May you have a lifetime of Love and Joy and Happiness and Good Health and even during the bumpy days remember that you love each other and as long as you have each other forever and communicate, as you express your hearts and minds and souls, you will be always together...and Married for life:) You belong together forever and belong to each other for the ages!! May the blessings of life always be yours as you hold each other close and remember lots of hugs and kisses and when you in your rocking chairs holding hands 80 years from now, you will have lived a blessed, wonderful and loved filled life:) Michael

Good Luck and Best Wishes for a Speedy Recovery!! Michael

Hi Ronnie, I just wanted to say how excited and happy I am that you are enjoying the Play

Green and Chaz.. what is it with these people..do they not have lives of their own....that they have to be mean and pass judgment on what they demand and expect of others....go get lives....leave you alone.. I mean Selene judges Chaz (neither of you judge her) and I don't say that to be mean toward Selene but to make a point... and Chaz's so called "friends"....who needs enemies with that crew? geez...judge Green and they don't even know him.. Now, get this loud and clear..there are only two people in your relationship...just in case you don't know whom they are...hold hands together...go the bathroom, look in the bathroom mirror and then kiss each other and also so you both feel better, well I would recommend hugs...got it? I am proud of Green for his self restraint.....You should be very proud of yourself. You handled yourself beautifully and I bet that the "I am not Gay" Guy is Gay and in love with Chaz... Just remember to stand by each other..communicate and tell everyone else to get someone else in their lives to kiss and get hugs from somebody else and leave you two alone.. I would bar Selene from the house until she is house broken.....and people broken....and Chaz and Green broken.... I would bar those so called friends of Chaz...geez...they are mean!! I say, just keep kissing and huggling and being together...the rest of the world can go sit on nail and futz off! We love ya both....and wish you all the happiness...I am also so sorry that you didn't get a rematch with Grandma and Grandpa....they I love to bits....and everyone should follow their example...they are about the only two people in the world who leave you be.. BTW, I hope Chaz's twin, Mike, is doing ok.....I have such empathy for him and he is blessed to have you both in his life.....and I even have hope for The Liar and to one day that he gets to graduate to "The Truth Giver and Lover" and he heals and grows... Hoping David and Steven are doing ok too.....they are a sweet cool couple..tell them we are rooting for them:) big time!! tell Selene we love her but your home is a Selene free zone until she is learns to behave...and no stepping over the Rainbow Line.....got it? (like no stepping over the yellow line reference in Speed..remind her what happened when they did...kaboom!!! so no more volatile Selene explosions....and maybe she might get an occasional visitation..and Chaz, those friends....ditch them in the ditch....you have nicer enemies then that crowd!!) Michael

RK..I heard the same thing about Clay Aiken...supposedly and allegedly one of the tabloids is or did run a story recently about the very thing you posted...mean about Clay's Boyfriend and their relationship and also about Clay being online (they said Manhunt.com) and published the internet chat he had with a guy he wanted to "hook up" with. The guy he allegedly was boyfriends with (before the American Idol stuff happened) says that he and Clay had a relationship. I find Ryan Seacrest annoying....he makes dumb comments....and I feel bad for the contestants as he stands there next to them as he makes them.. You should listen to the comedian...Kathy Griffin talk about Ryan Seacrest and how rude he is....and her experiences and interactions with Clay Aiken... but all in all, I agree with you...I wish Clay would come out...probably help others see that even "stars" can come out and live a regular life..etc. and I doubt his career would be hurt... I wish that Ryan is straight.>>I don't want him on our team! But then I am sure our str8 friends don't want him either.....oy!!! Michael

Chaz and Green, We don't hate you...you Know I love ya both....I think that Sharon and Sumbloke said it best..you love each other a lot and its the random acts of kindness and love as Ben said...surprises when you least expect them..flowers...just becuase its Tuesday and you think it will brighten your Man's day.. cooking him an awesome dinner and locking the doors..kicking everyone out, candles lit, flowers, favorite music..good foods and desserts (winks) and thinks like surprising each other with stopping by after class with coffee and kisses.... the simplest acts of kindness speak volumes.....kisses, hugs, a massage...sweet emails or notes at unexpected times....and conduct....showing your Man you love him in the little things....to me that's what matters..and talking when you are upset..even if its to say I am upset with you, but I do love you...and then work it out...don't let the sun go down without working it out..... going to bad mad is not a good thing....make love not war:) and being able to say you are sorry, mean it....we are all human..we do stupid dumb things and its ok....forgiveness and love......they do fit hand in glove....we all know you are meant for each other... Just know in the scheme of things you love each other and just know there will be more fights..more making up and more love to grow and grow...in endless supply....and respect each other as you do...the rest works its way out. and silly Chaz...we could never hate you nor Green....things happen...and we aren't super heros..we are just humans...now go love your man........be kind to one another and remember love, forgiveness, communication, random acts of kindness and winks...acts of romance when you least expect them:) well, you know the rest..so go smooch and more smooches and romance.....love is the answer...remember....and lots of hugs....and kisses and i love yous..and well, what Sharon, Sumbloke and Ben said:) hee hee:) Michael P.S. and when you do all that romance time.....don't tell anyone..and lock the doors...put the cars in the garage...keep the lights off and don't put out the GPS system so Selene hasn't a clue and leaves you be to be romantic! Grrr....

Green and Chaz, Part of Love is forgiveness and of course the making up and making out:) Of course, remember what Sumbloke and Sharon posted..I feel that they said it best:) Hugs and Much Happiness sent your way:) Michael