BoyNeedsTherapy

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Happy Birthday!

me too!! I love... ...thinking about the future me and my bf are going to have ...waking up and realising that neither of us have anywhere to go or anything to do all day ...having a good conversation with my dad ...my bf being affectionate for no reason ...realising I haven't lost anything while out drinking ...getting totally lost in a book ...hearing 'I love you' ...daydreaming about being a gay version of the Ralph Lauren families ...getting hugged from behind ...being held close to someone when crying ...people not killing me for whining about being ill ...him not complaining when my feet are cold ...songs seem meaningful, and I get choked up over something stupid, reminding me that I don't in fact have a stone for a heart ...being woken up with kisses ...feeling like the centre of someones world ...comfort food ...kisses on the back of my neck I'll stop now I'm getting all squishy

I hate it when... ...sign in details that worked yesterday won't work today ...I have to go to the Dr's ...I have to wait a week for an appt ...I smoke when drunk and can taste the smoke in my mouth for days (ick, ick, ick) ...I realise I'm going to be moving in a month ...I think I've hurt someones feelings and feel bad for them, but know that I can't do the thing that would stop them being hurt ...I think I might have to tell someone bad news ...the only medication that's making my head feel better also makes me feel sick to my stomach I'll quit whining now.

That sounds a lot like my mother actually, it's actually nice to know that someone else has been in a similar position. I should know by now that she's just trying to cause trouble, because she's done it frequently before (to the point of telling me outright that I shouldn't trust my bf to not sleep around ) And I know that she definitely feels the embarrassment thing, when I introduced my bf to our neighbours as my bf she asked if I *had* to do that since it was *so* embarrassing...imagine what she'll be like when I start calling him my husband (evil laugh). I guess she still gets to me though, she knows the right buttons to push.

Hahaha, yeah, that's a very good point. I managed to turn all our white bath towels slightly blue after putting them in the drier with jeans... Yes, a lot of times it is the other way around, but with my dad I think it's partly that he really doesn't mind, and partly that he knows it drives my mother insane that he 'approves' of me and my bf. But hey, I'll take support regardless of the reason it's offered sometimes.

Thanks guys, I guess it's just frustrating that people try and put you into categories you don't belong in...ah well, I should know by now not to take what my mother says to heart.

Ok, so before I get to my main question, here's a little background. Me and my bf went back to my parents place this weekend for a wedding on saturday and just generally to visit family. My dad really likes my bf, and has been very cool about me being gay, so the parts of the weekend involving him were pretty cool and easy going. But my mum's not so keen, she thinks he corrupted her only child, also the fact that I told her when she was in a psych hospital and not in the best mental state may not have helped. Anyway, we've argued frequently about it, and I know that she thinks it's embarrassing or whatever for her to have a gay son. But on to the main point, this weekend we'd planned on coming home on Sunday, as my bf has work on Monday, but I got guilted into staying until today so I was there on my own for almost a whole day, supposedly to spend time with my mother, during which time she managed to start a pretty huge arguement. I mentioned that since I'm not at uni at the moment, and I'm in the process of looking for a job, I've not got much to do, and then I jokingly said that I was practising my 1950's housewife bit to which she remarked that I was worth more. So I asked what she meant and off she went on a big rant about how I was acting like 'nothing but that man's wife doing his cooking and cleaning' and how that's 'if that's all you're going to end up doing then you're just wasting your life waiting on him hand and foot, while he uses you like some kind of maid.' I coud understand maybe if that was how she'd lived her life but she never did, she always worked. Anyway, then she went on to say that 'what was the point of us sending you to school if you're just going to end up as some kind of kept man' and that if 'that's what you want you should go out and find someone doing something more lucrative and worthwhile than *teaching*' I nearly had a fit, for one thing it's not like I'm at uni studying nothing, I am actually here to get an education and a job, I just happen to have a break from it right now, but my main problem is that since when are there still such rigid roles? I mean, yes it's true that I cook and I do the laundry, but that's just because I'm better at those things than my bf is, and I do the grocery shopping because I have time to go during the day when it's not busy, but he does a lot too, he washes up and cleans the bathroom and hoovers and stuff...I guess I'm just wondering if it's naive of me to think that a relationship can work without having to fit into roles, I mean, we're both guys so of course neither of us is the wife...but do people still expect others to fit into the typical molds? I don't really know what I expect people to reply, I guess I just wanted to rant a little bit and share my annoyedness with people. Sorry for that. Ben

I was wondering, since I'm not much of a writer, whether that was how a lot of authors feel? Like their characters are sort of people that do their own things...hmm, I'm not phrasing that very well and I sound like a total dumb blonde, but I guess what I mean is that, do they feel like people in their own right? Ben

Welcome! *waves*

Hmm, well, I tend to think that porn is pretty much just sex, little plot, but with erotica, I expect a plot, some kind of story, sex when it feels right in the story not just for the sake of it...which is I guess what other people have said too.

Happy birthday Myr, thanks for everything you do!

Hahaha, well, I'd worry about how I was trying to ingest the coke if it wasn't the head on my shoulders that was hurting...

Well, I'll assume you're talking to me even though that's not my name...but yeah, the weirdness went away, I don't know what was up, it was all plain and freaked out.

I'm really happy that the site's back up and all, but it looks all weird when I use mozilla to view it. Is this just my computer being messed up do you think? It works fine with IE but I hate IE...

*mwah* thank you so much!! Google apparently hates me, but thank you so much, I can now listen to it and the madness can stop. That's not my name! lol, there's no j or i involved at all! BEN!

Ok, I've had this song lyric stuck in my head for *ages* and I've looked in all tha places I'd normally look for lyrics, but without luck, so, does anyone know what song the following lyrics are from? '...I can tell by the tone of your voice that you're really in love with me, and you are, oh you are...' I think those are the lyrics, but not exactly sure of every word. It's an old song, by someone like Frank Sinatra, or Dean Martin, but I can't find it and it's really really bugging me, lol. So if anyone could help I'd really appreciate it a lot! Thanks, Ben

That was a little bit scary about coke. I guess I'm lucky in that I can't drink much of it, too much caffeine makes my head hurt.

There is the issue of them getting older, but when you look at things like Dawson's Creek where they had much older actors playing teen parts, it's still doable. Obviously I'd like for them to work like crazy and get the films out sooner, and while having older actors play younger parts might not be ideal, I'd prefer that to a change in actors. Hmm, sorry if that's a bit rambling, I think I might still be drunk.

Oh my god, I think I almost came in my pants from watching all those trailers, that's how excited I am! lol. I'm not so into Star Wars but my bf is, so no doubt I'll see that, but I'm so very very excited about Batman, Harry Potter and Narnia. I can't wait so long to see them though!! *sob*

Hmm, are we talking openly gay, or those that still haven't come out but it's pretty much an open secret? I think there's a lot more of us out there than you'd think.

Hey, umm, I'm having java problems too it seems. When I got to that link above I get a list of things to choose from, um, not to sound completely blonde, but, what is it that I'm wanting to install? Thanks Ben

One of my favourite stories is Control and Kaos http://www.nifty.org/nifty/gay/highschool/control-and-kaos/ I've read it several times and it still makes me laugh, highly recommended

Thanks guys, it's nice to feel welcomed. I may be on here quite a bit since I don't have to finish this academic year, so between now and September I don't have that much to do, I just hope my bf doesn't get used to me being like a housewife, lol.

Well, yes, I am also another new person, but decided not to call this thread that because that's been done already. So, yeah, I'm Ben, hello all *waves* I'm also in a very good mood at the moment because my university is letting me change course, so goodbye to stupid chemistry, hello exciting new archaeology Umm, yes...the end :king: