JamesSavik

Welcome Naiilo! You'll love this site. If you haven't discoved DOM or Comicality, go read! -JS

Maybe there's a reason why everybody in town hates Aaron. I hope Rory figures it out before Aaron has his ass stuffed and mounted on his gameroom wall.

Nope- the Wall doesn't count you little hippie.

Green Dude- Transference: a psychological defense in which the source of anger/anxiety is transfurred from its real source to another. This usually happens when the source of the anger is unreachable or unassailable and the anger is transfurred to a "safe" target. This is very destructive to relationships and causes anger completely out of porportion with the irritation. In the four cases of your friends rubbing you the wrong way, yes- what they did was annoying BUT none of them had any reason to think that it would be offensive. The boys making out probably didn't think you would be mad. Selene asking you to pick her up was a favor between friends that you've exchanged a hundred times. Chaz bringing other people to the movie may have been irritating but you didn't say not to and as soon as he saw it was a problem, he was sorry. Having read your blog for a while, I think I have a pretty good idea who it is that you are really angry at and why. Put that focus where it should be and you can avoid hurting the friends that you love and are close to. Another thing that may reduce some friction with your friends is to create clear boundries. When you don't have clear boundries, and you show yourself to be accepting and mellow, people will tromp all over them. This is not out of malice but because they don't know where the line is and you have to gently show them where it is. -JS

The religion sounds vaguely Mormon-esque which is BTW one of the most homophobic and wacky on the planet. How do I know? When my best friend married a Mormon girl, I shagged her brother after the bachlor party. He was really cute but f-ed up in the worst way. Why are the cute ones always insane?

I know that this may be heresy for a gay man to say but I hate musicals. Not sure why but they make me want to bolt. Don't get me wrong- I'm all about drama but that song and dance crap just gets in the way. Perhaps I'm biased having suffered through musicals featuring sappy-sweet Doris Day, doofy Elvis and who would fail to be nauseated by Okla-homo. Just the thought give me dry-heaves. The Who did several projects that weren't too bad: Tommy and Quadrophenia. They weren't bad, did not require loads of drugs to enjoy and were graced with a young, hot Daltry. Heavy Metal couldn't possibly be confused with a musical but the music is a lot better.

Kudos to you for not freaking out over something so trivial as a peck on the cheek. Just a gentle suggestion to Chris, drinking too much isn't a very good idea. Bad things can happen and even if the night goes well, you'll pay for it later. Clich

Sigh. Just a movie. SB, don't scare me like that. I was packing for OK ready to whup some... My trip to Dallas for Turkey-day was great. I met my kniece's boyfriend. She's 20 and going to U of Houston. I smiled and shook his hand and he said, "Wow, as big as you and your brother are, I'm sure glad you are good-natured." My brother said, "That's a good thing to keep in mind."

Dom- I don't like the sound of that on-again/off-again cold with pain in the chest. It could be turning into pneumonia on you and that would be bad. I get this sometimes and it goes that way until I get a shot of antibiotic/decadron. Take care of yourself pal, JS (via my kneices laptop in Dallas.)

Green: Thanks guys. You are quite welcome Green. Your blog is always interesting to read. You just never know what the Green one has been up to lately. From the highs of you having fun with your friends to the lows of your recent breakup- it's really quite an amazing story. There are times when I want to hug you and other times when I want to punch somebody for you. I'm tickled pink that you ended up with Chaz. You deserve a break and he seems like a genuinely nice person. It doesn't take astrology or psychology to see that you two compliment each other nicely. I think that you are one of the more talented young writers of our little genera. You get a little better with each story. Now I understand where some of your ideas must come from. -JS

I'm so glad it went well for you. It's a big step and only you can decide when and if the time is right. I am totally against a person coming out that isn't comfortable with their situation. [flaming understatement /on]Opinions about homosexuality vary greatly and you never really can tell how someone is going to react. [flaming understatement /off] Being gay is something you can't chose. You can chose how, when, where and to whom you are going to come out. Chose well because the blowback can be a real bitch. -JS

Let's see... I'm a gay male in my early 40s. Although I've been out since my early teens, I'm not flamboyant about it and am masculine. I'm 6' 2" 240 and I hit the gym every day. I mountain bike and am known to wander around with my camera looking for targets of opportunity. I've got green eyes and blond hair. I'm a iNTj or a Leo depending on whether you believe in psychology or astrology. I have a degree in Computer Science and have worked as a programmer, systems analyst and a systems administrator for the last 20 years. I currently have two serial stories out. Broken is hosted at awesomedude and deweywriter. Operation Hammerhead is in the members story section here and several other places. My short stories Jeff and the Cool Green Sea are hosted at Awesomedude and deweywriter. I've got an old, fat tabby cat with a grumpy disposition named Boo. Oh yeah, I'm from Mississippi but I wear shoes and have been domesticated. Lately I've been listening to Smashing Pumpkins, Limp Biscuit, STP, Green Day. My favorite net authors are, in no particular order: Driver, Dewey, Freethinker, Comicality, Dom Luka, EggMan, Jamie, EleCivil, Graeme and others. I stay out of churchs as I have this thing about holy water, avoid mirrors and sleep during the day, hunt at night. Perhaps I've said too much...

I'm guessing Taylor from TOU.

On not fitting in- I can truthfully say I've been there. Football was the only thing that I did that pleased my father. Playing football was very difficult because the players and sometimes even the coaches didn't want me there. I was a decent player and could hit pretty hard- I played linbacker. I lived in the gym and built up. The reason that the guys didn't mess with me too much is because I behaved kinda psycho and could knock most of their heads completely off. Later in college, I went to a gay club. I was refused admittance because I didn't look gay. I did look like a big scary, dangerous linebacker. So I've been uncomfortable in both the gay and str8 world. Gay people don't really look like anything. We aren't all flaming, effeminate, shallow or sexually compulsive. These are stereotypes that people that hate us like to repeat.

Can' Miss System for creating Realistic Random Names of small towns in the desert South West: Take element from group A, Add element from Group B. Group A: _______ Devil's, Rattler, Red, Purple, Yellow, Black, Mission, Union, Cactus, Sidewinder, Apache, Sioux, Blackfoot, Palimino, Wild Horse, Bear, Silver, Fox, Wolf, Eagle, Hawk Group B: ______ Hills, Gorge, Canyon, Springs, Rock, Mesa, Crossroads, Mountian, Flats, Valley, Creek, City, Station, Church, Falls, Ridge, Dunes ________________________________________ Note- you have to use comon sense as some of these combinations don't work so well. Some products from the system: Rattler Gorge, Red Rock, Mission Springs, Union Crossroads, Yellow Creek, Cactus Ridge, Apache Flats, Bear Mountian, Eagle Falls, Sidewinder Dunes, Palimino Flats and so on. Try it, it works! Disclaimer: We kid the South West because we love the South West. It is very beautiful.

Yes- you are quite right. As a writer myself, I work hard on realism and continuity. That gets into the realm of psychology and emotion very quickly. It's also why I give Dom his props because he does such a good job of it. For instance- I've known several people who were raised with an absent father. The very idea that they would have to meet, much less live with the father they do not know would enrage them. Case in point: I know a kid whose father was in prison for a long sentence that started before he was born. When he got out, the boy was 16. So here's a kid that has been angry at his absent father for a very long time and a man that has 16 years of prison attitude. Needless to say, it didn't work out. Authors go to extremes to learn about how people act: Observation, research, interviews- you might be surprised. However a lot of the best authors simply have a keen insight into human behavior. -JS

When Chaz arrived he gave me a huge hug. First thing out of his mouth was this, "You have to let people in. You can't carry this all by yourself." The more I hear about Chaz, the better I like him. In this case, he is quite correct. Talk to him Green. He wants to be there for you and that is a rare gift.

Jim- You make me proud. Being honest with your friends means a lot more then keeping up appearences. Way to go! Just let me know when the ride to Alpha Centuri is ready and I'll clear my calender for a few years. -JS -

Nick- Hope you feel better. Don't worry about your hot step-mom. If you think about it, it can be an asset for you. -JS

I've been around and I keep a pretty good eye on things. Vic and Green are pretty regular too and Kitty has been around. Honestly, since we got to midterms, things have been rather quiet.

Welcome! It's always good to see AFriendlyFace.

Dom- I'm going to RANT in your blog. I have read a lot of people ripping on your character Rory in DD. Rory is a pain they say. Rory is a little bitch they say. What is it with these people? -Rory's Mom got sick when he was 14 and died of cancer. -He had to leave the only home he ever knew and move to live with strangers. -He had to go live with a father he never knew (!) -He faced having to come out all over again to a father he barely knows. (up to chap. 10) -He knows there are things that he doesn't know and futhermore, those little details are being withheld. If anyone has an absolutely valid excuse to HAVE ISSUES, its poor Rory. Jeez- it's a wonder the poor guy hasn't shot himdelf or gone postal. OK- so maybe Rory acts like an angry, mixed up, scared and confused kid. THAT's BECAUSE HE IS! Rory is a product of a lot of trauma not charm school. RANT /OFF -JS

I always had a soft spot for Jonathan brandis because he was a dead ringer for my first boyfriend. His suicide was so sad.

Icky, icky gurl coodies! Brush your teeth young man!

Rory bashing is easy and fun but lets think about what he's been through. >His mother was sick for a long time- 2+ years. That doesn't go away in a few months. >He has been sent to live with a father that he has never known and that alone is enough of an issue to cause a lot of trouble. >He has no idea what his father, "uncle" or "cousin" are going to think about him being gay. So, he has to go through coming out all over again (until chapter 10) >He is away from every support system he's ever known. >He knows that there are a lot of things that he doesn't know. Don't you reckon that's enough stress, pressure and anxeity to make anybody act like a bitch? Cut the kid a break. He is doing as well or better than could reasonably be expected. -JS