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Freddie Stroma played Cormac McLaggen

Yeah, on the way home from the theatre, after our conversation about how great the movie was/the differences between the book and the movie we started talking about Cormac. He is gorgeous! Especially in the movie, he should keep that hair cut.

I'm not saying that. I'm saying, rather badly apparently, that I think the language we use subtly changes the way gay guys act and carry themselves because they feel that they wont be accepted or seen as attractive if they're too 'gay'. Isn't it bad enough that we've got such a huge portion of society that doesn't want us to be gay? Why are we reinforcing that ourselves by calling the men we find sexy 'straight acting' when masculinity isn't a trait that's exclusive to heterosexuals?

What we say and how we say it is important. This might be trivial, as I'm sure it is, but overall there are very negative stigmas attached to gay people in our society. Just look at the way teenage boys all over the country refer to things they don't like as "gay" and spend their time calling each other faggots. How do you think they would feel when they finally DO meet a gay guy with all of that negative connotation so deeply ingrained in their heads. And then even GAY guys dont want guys who seem gay, they want guys who 'act straight'. I'm wondering how gay guys would feel about gay guys who 'act gay' if they didn't catch such a hard time for coming off as gay.

So I went to Craigslist earlier, kind of bored so I figured why not. And went to the M4M section. And there was one phrase that kept popping up again and again and again: straight acting. Let me just say, that I think the phrase in itself is offensive. It seems to presuppose that everyone who gay acts a certain way, and to act differently you're pretending to be straight. And on the flip side, puts down the people who act feminine or 'gay' (in the way I am sure they mean) because their prefereces exclude them as a main criteria. I understand that there are certain things that guys like, but what is this fantasy that gay guys play out about straight guys? If you're gay, date a gay guy. It doesn't matter how he acts, find someone you like, finding someone you like is more important than how they act. If masculinity is important to you, say you want a masculine guy, not a straight acting guy. /rant over

First Bea Arthur and now this! Terrible. RIP

Oh no, I missed it! Gonna have to see if it's on NBC.com or Hulu.com

WERK! Covergirl! WERK! Coverboy! *strut strut strut* Those boys are hot! That's a good reason to be interested.

Richard Ruccolo Richard Ruccolo Richard Ruccolo Yes, that's right. I'd sleep with him, and then marry him, and then throw him off a cliff. Ryan Reynolds Chris Evans Zach Braff

Eh?

Homophobia:

Oh definitely gotta go with Ryan Reynolds!!! He's got the looks AND the personality

I'm a sucker for guys with big... Hmm, nvm.

Ashley Tisidale - He Said She Said Oh man! That guy! Nickelback - Saving Me The blond guy that gets saved from getting hit by a bus.

Gay guys like assholes?! No wai!

Can't wait to hear the rational discussions about this. Then: "Homosexuality isn't natural, it doesn't even occur in nature" Now: "Just because it occurs in nature doesn't mean it's right. Cannibalism and predatory murder occur in nature and we don't accept that in society."

Wow I'm surprised by the results. Seems everyone here just really is in it for the love. I thought there would be a few who went for the rich guy because he's a "fixer upper", we all know that one guy or girl who keeps dating guys who are flawed in order to "fix them".

I was having a discussion with my friend earlier about the type of man we'd ideally prefer, at the end of the day, we both said we wanted a guy with money, looks and devotion, and yeah that's ideal, but it's also a rare combination. And sometimes you find more of some things than others in guys. This poll is about priorities and it's about personalities. What do YOU need to be happy? The Men: The Stud Positive: His body is a work of art. He is the expression of every fantasy you've ever had, in the flesh. And he fulfills all of your sexual fantasies with incredible passion when you are together. In the bedroom and at home he is affectionate and loving and makes you completely happy. Negative: He is a closet case, he wont touch you in public and is often paranoid about people finding out about the two of you. His looks are intimidating, you sometimes wonder why a guy as good looking as him would choose you, and you often wonder about his fidelity. His job pays well but often means he is out of town for days at a time and this increases your worry about his fidelity and commitment to you, while you feel slightly lonely during his absence. The Rich Guy: Positive: He has money, notoriety, and loves to go out and about with you. You are proud to be his spouse and his money, which he showers you with freely, has given you a means to fulfill all of your material desires and allowed you to see the world while giving you a stable and secure feeling about your financial future. Negative: His money is the only thing that he gives you freely. The sex is good, but somehow it feels like he holds back from letting go completely. You feel sometimes like the best way he knows how to express his love for you is to shower you with lavish gifts. He can be affectionate but it isn't typical of him, and it seems to you that his extreme ambition has given him a slightly cynical, cautious and un-optimistic outlook which stunted his emotional growth. The Average Guy: Positive: His devotion and sense of romanticism is second-to-none, he shows you how much he loves you with small gestures which make your heart grow everyday. On holidays and birthdays he's a wonder, he knows you inside and out and always comes up with love affirming and deeply personal gifts. Everyone you know considers you to be a dream couple, the perfect match. Pos/Neg: His looks are average, his body is average, his income and job are nothing spectacular. Negative: Sometimes you wonder if he is giving up his chance to advance in his profession because he'd prefer to have the maximum amount of free-time possible to be with you. While you are flattered that he would give up advancement for you, but you feel as though you should have a say in it. Which he doesn't give you. Note: The 'reactions' that I posited are highly subjective, instead of relying totally on the emotional states and feelings which I outlined, rely instead on how you feel you would react in a similar situation.

Well HELLO, Merlin!

I'm celebrating that it's FRIDAY!! Woohoo!!

Welcome to GA!

Hmmm, I dont know what else to say in response to this news other than: